I'm nice and hard during begining of intercourse then it just goes limp

I’m nice and hard during beginning of intercourse then it just goes limp? I don’t get it, the sex is great but I can’t figure it out. Anyone have any advice? I’m going crazy with this build up, not to mention the embarrassment it causes me with my wife. Thanks

How long has this been happening? What’s going on in your life? Stress? Change of medications? Maybe with a little more information we can offer some better insight.

Hmm, hard to say. No pun intended. How are the usual suspects? For example, sleep, stress and diet? Also, did you recently turn 80? It’s hard to say. Are you distracted easily?

Ok, that would make sense to add more info. I’m 31 and I do have to take testosterone due to a tumor on my pituitary gland. I have been under a lot of stress lately, which has caused some depression. My diet has been consistant including vitamins specially formulated towards some of my illness. However, I have never had this happen before with my therapy and now it has been causing me a lot of stress. My wife has actually been very very nice about it and even has spent several times just spending time on me to have an ejaculation but I hate that it’;s getting to the point where I can’t even have sex with her without losing my erection. She’s great looking, tight, and what I like.

I do take a lot of meds because I also have ms. If it’s that, I don’t know what I can do. I did start this program however, and it has giving me a little more endurance and length when it’s actually erect. There is so much to learn on here that I believe will keep benifiting me but a lot to take in. If you guys have any advice on a certain exercise please let me know. Thank you for your time.

By the way, I feel great with my looks and my libido but it’s causeing me to lose interest in having any kind of play since it doesn’t work right and I don’t want to have my manhood ripped away from me : (

Regards,

Oh wow, that’s a bummer, but you are going to have to talk to a doctor. Sounds like you have a few considerations most of us just don’t have to deal with. There are probably a few solutions or possibilities that will help, but your best advice will most likely come from a doctor.

I concur. Check it out medically as thoroughly as possible. Tell your doctor your concerns. Once that’s underway, work on figuring out how to not stress about losing your erection, because it’s about guaranteed that if you worry about losing it, you will.

Keep us posted about what’s going on. Good luck!

I experienced the same thing for most of my adult life. I would get excited very easily, especially when around a trusted SO, but the erection would falter after a few minutes of sex. I think my issue was from over-thinking and worrying about pleasing/not hurting my partner.

I don’t know if you have asked a doctor about Viagra or Cialis yet, but I can vouch for both working wonderfully. I know they are ridiculously expensive, but I have ordered some generic Viagra from one of those online pharmacy’s, and either I got lucky, or found a good site, because what they sent works just like the name brand stuff.

I hope that everything works out for you.

What is the name of that site?

The only pill I can vouch for is the;Generic Viagra 100mg one.

100 mg is a fairly hefty dose. Have you tried splitting them?…more bang for the buck, so-to-speak!

I did try that, but without an actual pill cutter, so I ended up with 1 ~55mg pill and 1 nice blue tinted pile of dust.

That happens to me sometimes but only when my gf goes on top.

Maybe it could be your mindset during sex? If your mind keeps drifting to thoughts of performance rather than pleasure, this could have an effect.

It happened to me too. First time it happened, I was stressed and tired, but still very embarrassing. Next time I made sex to my wife I made the unpardonable mistake to think about it (during sex). I went limp instantly! The third time I was concerned from the beginning for the possibility to happen again, so I had difficulties to even get an erection.

Shortly, it begins with a random poor physical condition. Then continues with performance anxiety.

I guess you are already in that negative mental state that perpetuates the self-fulfilling prophecy. I suggest breaking this by having some successful intercourses aided by pills. After your confidence comes back, you are good as new :)

Thanks smginstl for the website suggestion. I ordered and got my stuff (ordered Tadacip). What amazes me is that I was able to order through mail order. Very unusual for a pharmacy but it was a pleasant surprise. The Tadacip worked just like Cialis. But I have a question? Is it possible to get adjusted to Cialis/Viagra? What I mean is if I take this every weekend for a year, will is still keep working for after that year? Does the body become accustomed to it to the point where it no longer works. I hope this is not a stupid question and thanks in advance.