Is she noticing, or just flirting?

So I’ve been hanging out with this girl on and off for the past few weeks… and she’s already ended up in my lap with intentions for more… yet I’ve been putting her off. Call me crazy, but I know a girl at all, then I want to know her fairly well before she gets access permission to my pants.

Point being, she’s backed off from the direct approach to seduction, and has switched to friendship and flirtation.

Recently this flirtation has started to show a repeat theme:

“You do have quite a large one” *lifts eyebrow mischievously* - while discussing my cel phone.

“Good to know that everything’s in proportion.” (backinfo - I’m 6’2”) - I forget the exact context this one came up in… maybe because it seemed out of context at the time.

…and so on.

Now this girl has already come closer to bedding me than any other in the last year and a half since I split with one whom I thought I would be with forever. She’s passed some hours with me, and tho she’s yet to get my clothes off, she’s produced some rather stiff bulges in the nether regions of them. So… Perhaps she’s actually noticed. Or perhaps she’s trying flattery as the way to my heart.

Perhaps this post may be inspirational to you.
Perhaps it may not.

But in my mind, having gained not yet an inch, it suggests to me that women notice even small changes… or that her standards…ahem.. may not yet be stretched… as she only recently added boys to the genders allowed to inhabit her bed.

Maybe shes just got the hots for you.

>>as she only recently added boys to the genders allowed to inhabit her bed.>>

Maybe she thought she was lesbian, but is now curious.
Could it hurt to pacify her curiosity?

You better hurry up and bed her before she decides to quit trying.

I thing she’s got a thing for you. If you are at all interested you should say something or put some obvious interest forward. That doesn’t mean that you have to have sex with her right away, just let her know what’s on your mind. Its a lot easier than it seems.

Stillwantmore is right, you are at risk of making her give up on you.

A woman can only come on to a man for but so long in that vein before she feels rejected.

You have to decide how you feel about her or move on.

Yes, she wants sex. Yes, she probably is in her penis-worship mode that a lot of women go into when they first start having hetero sex.

-BH

Yeah, what BH said.

There seems to be a consensus here, something along the lines of, “FUCK HER! FUCK HER ALREADY! DO IT!” And women complain that men never say no… look what happens when we do. Jeez. No support from anywhere.

Perhaps I should have mentioned some of my concerns before. They start with the fact that her recent ex-girlfriend is one of my best friends, and someone who I don’t want to hurt. Beyond that, the rest is trivia.

Who’s idea was it to move this to Men’s Sexual Health?
I thought I was posting an inspiration story.
(A girl noticed my results; through clothing even. That’s inspiration, right?)

You are absolutely right. You have behaved in a very admirable way. It is very respectful of you.

Was there a moral to the story?

deSol,

I moved it here as it seemed to be a “relationship” post, or at least it drifted that way.

Thunder -
Thanks for letting me know.

Um… relationships are Men’s Sexual Health?
Ah, the joys of taxonomy.

deSol;

I think it’s the “Relationship” aspect that put you here, per the forum’s definition.

Btw, I’m with you on the fuck/don’t fuck aspect. You gotta look around sometimes before you decide to do it. Doing it can sometimes lead to other “relationship” issues that are very difficult to make right again. You can’t undo having had sex.

Where I live (Hawaii) there’s a great saying we all listen to: “Things happen; Guys talk; Word gets around.

Seriously, was there a moral to the story?

Morals come at the end of stories.

Not over yet.

I’m seeing her and one of her friends in a few hours for coffee.

I expect we’ll chat about painting, mythology, & literature, these being topics that all 3 at the table can get into. Should be one more innocent chance to get to know the girl better. That being what I’m looking for right now…

If I have a moral for the story so far it’s:

Girls take rejection badly.
Especially the hot ones.
The nice ones will give you a second chance anyway.

As for the other friend, the one I’m trying to not hurt…
*fingers crossed*
We’ll see how it works out.
Done about all I can do on this front for now.

Moral of the Story: Take 2

Don’t be a sensative new age guy on Thunder’s. People want to hear how you banged her brains out, and she loved the extra inch. (And like her, you’ll have to wait a little longer…)

Ditto.