It takes me way too long to cum!

I just started dating a new girl and when she was giving me a handjob on the beach (oh yeah) I couldn’t cum even after 15-20 minutes. She blamed herself for this even though I told her it always takes that long even when I’m by myself. I need to become more sensitive in the next few weeks, is there anything you guys can suggest? I did a search and found that maybe masturbating is causing less sensitvity although I wouldn’t have thought that would affect a handjob, would it?

Low Histamine that could be a possibility.

I’m in the same boat. Wife really is not fond of anal or giving me a blow job because I take too long to cum. I have no idea on how to increase sensitivity other than going a long time without sex.

Raise the histamines.

Can you tell me why that would be?

Cock Kent that’s too bad, but I really don’t want to resort to no sex.

twatteaser - Retarded ejaculation

So you reckon folic acid and niacin might help?

IMO you should look into foreskin restoration, presuming you are cut - which is a pretty safe bet since you are complaining about lack of sensitivity. If you don’t want to go all of the way restoring your foreskin you can get some decent gains in sensitivity in the short term by simply keeping your glans covered. By doing so outside stimuli will be at a minimum so touch will be more apparent when uncovered. Over time your glans will dekeratinize and sensation will be much more apparent in general (temperature changes, slight touch, breath, etc.). However these gains are minimal compared to what you would gain by fully restoring the foreskin.

- Chris

Thanks chobbs but I’m not cut.

Your situation may be possibly fixable on the cheap to see if maybe you had low histamine. Just an option to look over and see if you fit the criteria, that is all.

Niacin is the cheapest fastest test for histamine detection without having to pay big money or go see a gatekeeper jitbag like a doctor to write you a script for the blood work. Read the niacin test in those and other posts.

Interesting. Are you one of the uncut guys that doesn’t have much glans coverage or always walks around retracted? If neither then I don’t think lack of sensation is your problem since nothing would have abraded your glans causing the keratinization.

The histimine stuff twat brought up could be part of it but you would notice sensations perfectly fine and just wouldn’t be able to bring you to climax w/o a lot of work. The other things to look into are masturbation habits (if you choke it good then she will have to as well since those are the nueral pathways you have used and become dependent upon), lots of porn viewing might desensitive you mentally which would affect your ability to climax since it would be more difficult to get into it since it wasn’t what you think a handjob should be.

I guess it comes down to whether or not there is really no sensation, or whether you feel the sensations fine but need to really work at it (this would show in masturbation as well most likely), or rather you are just mentally not excited by the situation enough to reach climax.

It is possible her technique is so far off from yours that your brain just couldn’t associate getting to orgasm with what she was doing. Giving her directions or helping her with your hand on top of hers for a bit might rectify that problem.

- Chris

I can rub one out in 120 seconds or less, but a Hooker who tries to give me a handjob, would have to file for disability or workman’s comp from tennis elbow trying to get me off.

There is a lot to consider in looking at the ability to climax. The best way is to see a doctor that does this type of work as his normal line of business (this is often called a “men’s clinic”). But assuming that this is not what you seek, here are some areas to consider.

1. As men age, the amount of estrogen’s go up in relation to the amount of testosterone that they have. This ratio of estrogen to testosterone is very important in sensitivity and ability to climax. To fix an estrogen/ testosterone imbalance, the best way is with the prescription drug Arimidex. Dosage for men is 1/2 mg twice a week. Non prescription items include DIM (diindolymethane), Chrysin, and to a degree Maca.

2. As men age, testosterone production goes down. Again, this changes the testosterone/estrogen ratio and causes a decline in sexual performance. Over the counter DHEA will help a little bit. Take 50 mg a day, however, if you need testosterone, you will most likely need a prescrption.

3. Prolactin imbalance. This will affect ability to climax and is easily fixed with a prescription drug. A blood test is necessary to determine this.

4. SHBG excess. (or to say it another way, insufficient amounts of free Testosterone) Things that cause SHBG to go up include too much insulin, and too much estrogen. Estrogen’s we have talked about, insulin must be supervised by a doctor.

5. Dopamine shortages. To overcome this take 4-5 grams a day of fish oil. If that does not get it done, take 500 mg a day of Mucuna Purienes. It is a good idea to take the fish oil anyway for many reasons.

Lastly, when getting a hand job on the beach there is a degree of anxiety involved. The anxiety would probably come from a degree of modesty in not wanting to be discovered, desire to enjoy the pleasure of a new girl friend, etc. Anxiety will turn off your sexual responsiveness easily. For those that have been caught in bed by some unintended person, and discovered that there erection went south almost immediately can vouch for this. You have to be receptive and relaxed to orgasm, and the beach may be a challenging place.

My girlfriend never made me cum when she is giving me a handjob. I think it´s mostly because I can´t be 100% relaxed, and can´t just..open up, you know what I mean ? Maybe that´s the problem for you to ? And maybe you´re a bit nervous or something ?

It’s nerves, f this histamine nonsense. New girl? = Nerves. Thats it.