Kegels during sex How to prolong, avoid premature, harder erections
Hi everyone!
This is my first post. I’ve been reading like a mad for the last 4 weeks, I registered and will be starting serious newbie routine as of tomorrow morning.
I’ve done so much searching and reading, yet found no answer to this one..
I found this website, after losing the love of my life, I pretty much came to the conclusion my lack of sex endurance was a key factor. I am utterly depressed and my self esteem has yet again plunged into dark emotional territory. But I have started meditating seriously, breathing exercises seriously (This is a brave new world people! Take notice!) - also because I am a VERY anxious person, and don’t really want to take pills.
I am happy with my penis (now!! Thank you all!) but will PE for health reasons, why not some gain and girth? But mainly to help with premature ejaculation. I have always been a premature ejaculator, except when drunk or high on something.
I am no druggy mind you, just recreational and sporadic. I have started with edging and I am up to 10 minutes with serious porn and head (gland) stimulation. And yes, alone I do last WAY longer than the REAL deal. This is just with mentally trying to back off way WAAAAY before ejaculation.. But then, when I “know” I am in control.. BC comes in (pun intended) pumping unannounced, game over. Now I will start a more proper routine to maximize the knowledge within.
I just realised there is something called reverse kegeling.. I understand the concept (like when you fart.. Is it like trying to expand the BC a little?) - but would love another explanation.
I have been kegeling without scheduled, I ride my bike a lot and like to kegel during.. I can almost clench to full block, but I never ever ever managed to lock tight.
My question is.. How do I use my body during sex?
When having actual sex.. I can’t really recall because I have had none since I found this website.. Is the BC supposed to totally UN-operational until the moment of release or clench? I think I contract it on and off while thrusting, randomly, to pump the gland a little.. And from what I have read this induces pre-cum, which induces cum I suppose, which might lead to prematureness..
I can’t be sure, but when I am on a good day (during sex) and last a little longer, I think I relax the BC a little more than usual, but then my erections suffer a little! So I have to stimulate it with more “brain” power and thrusting, have a good erection.. Then off it goes.. Damn !
Someone please lend an advice.. I really love this girl and if, eventually, I could win her over and bring her down, I would seriously love to give her a good time.
The only few time I have been a champ in the sac was when I feel like my dick is like.. Locked out.. Fully fully erect (which is very very rare).. In those occasions, I really feel like I own my own body. Like I absolutely know I will not premature. I have a hard hard erection that lasts until I want to. But I have no idea how I came upon these states of mind
Thank you all - you have no idea how in such short time this community has helped me so much! I really hope to be able to give my share in the future.
PS: oh yeah, what is stair-step kegeling.. I have found zero info here! Search doesn’t quite do it’s job, and yes I have been all through the FAQ and NEWBIE stuff.