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Originally Posted by Mr. Happy
I think sprays and desensitizing condoms are not the way to go.

The creams, and numbing condoms deprive you of sensation, they don’t necessarily keep you from blowing your load any faster - although some certainly do have success with them - but you can blow your wad in the same three minutes wearing one of those puppies; you just don’t really feel much of why you blew it. At best they are a quick fix, and even then you lose sensation. It’s important to satisfy your woman, but sex should not become a spectator activity as she gets off on your numb unit while you watch. Also, after I tried them I had a numb flaccid - it was weird. Lidocaine on the penis is just a weird feeling. I mean it has a certain appeal as a novelty, but.. No, not for me anyway.

Kegels are good and reverse kegels are really good. But what is most important to get over this problem (9 times out of 10) is to really re-train your body and your whole approach with regard to your sexual response. Many of us, when we began masturbating as teenagers, did so as quickly as possible - so as not to get caught. Over time this leads to a quick response, which can be okay if you are by yourself, but if you are with a woman.. Well, they just need more time than 3 minutes.

I found a great book that takes care of this problem and then some.

I had a fairly normal sex life prior to finding this book, I could go for ten to twenty minutes and once in a blue moon last a half hour or forty five minutes. There were a few even rarer land-mark occasions where I stumbled on to a marathon session of an hour or so, but I never knew how I did it and couldn’t repeat it at will. That all changed.

In the year 2000 I found a book that I’ve been pushing on people ever since. It is called The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know . It is basically a manual for reshaping the typical paradigm of masculine sexuality. At first I couldn’t get the hang of it, but after a couple of months of trial and error - and really challenging myself to slow down and tune in the subtlties of all the elements of my sexual response - I got it. Man what a difference. You have no idea.

The woman I was living with at the time flipped then next time we had sex. I went for over an hour - came three times without blowing my load and gave her more orgasms in that one session than she had had in a month. It was awesome; total control. And I could do it again the next day. And the next.

It takes some time to re-learn your old habits and such, but.. It’s worth it. You have no idea. Seriously.

And, no, I don’t know Douglas Abrams or Mantak Chia. I’m just saying.. The shit works.

Thanks mr happy. I am gonna order this book

Me too. :)

Cheers,

Zig

Happy,

I have this book as a PDF file somewhere, someplace on one of about 400 cds or discs. It pops up often on p2p networks.

“You see, I don’t want to do good things, I want to do great things.” ~Alexander Joseph Luthor

I know Lewd Ferrigno personally.

Originally Posted by Happy
Many of us, when we began masturbating as teenagers, did so as quickly as possible - so as not to get caught.

Yes, I always attribute my lasting power to the fact that my early-teenage masturbation sessions often lasted an hour or more, full of pleasurable edging before climax. Nowadays my masturbation pattern tends more toward the “5-minute quicky,” but I’ve retained the ability to last as long as I want during sex.

I’ve looked at “The Multi-Orgasmic Man,” and it does seem to be a good book. Some day I will try to learn the whole “dry orgasm” thing.

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Originally Posted by twatteaser
Happy,

I have this book as a PDF file somewhere, someplace on one of about 400 cds or discs. It pops up often on p2p networks.


That’s very cool.

If you posted that people with palmpilots and computers and whatnot could download it and save the $15.

Ziggaman & Marcus j be advised that this stuff does not happen overnight. It’s sort of like PE (although not quite as time-consuming). You really have to slow yourself down, and permit yourself to fail. This is very important - you must forgive yourself if {or should I say ‘when’} this happens as you make your way.

What’s most important is to TUNE IN to your body as you focus on the processes that are outlined. Slow and steady. The slower the better. Don’t go for the results, look to see what is going on with yourself and make mental notes, so each time you learn a little more and get a little closer to it. Like I said, it took me a few months. From winter/spring into the mid-summer of 2000. If you persist with an open, attentive and forgiving mind you’ll be able to achieve great things.

Don’t beat yourself up if you do an excercise and lose it. It’s part of the process. The psychological part of premature ejaculation has to do with feeling inadequate and unable to live up to your own standards. The more patient you are with yourself the more you will be able to re-build self-esteem, and then actually achieve confidence, as you re-train your physiological responses.

We are our own worst enemies when it comes to matters of performance - not just in sex. The first caveat of good performance (of anything from sex to concert piano) is relaxation, the second is confidence. We cannot relax if we are judging ourselves, particularly if we have a habit of judging ourselves harshly - that makes it impossible to be confident; we then watch ourselves waiting to see when we fail. Is it any surprise that we do fail under such scrutiny?

Remember to be kind to yourself. Be patient. Trust that it will come and follow the plan outlined. You’ll learn a lot. If you try something and misjudge it, the next time you try dial back your timing, and tune in more deeply.

Okay, I’ll stop now. It’s getting dangerous.

A minute more and I’d’ve launched into “If you can snatch the pebble from my hand, grasshopper, then you will have learned…”
Sound cue: sakurachi flute and wind chimes.

Just get the book and see how you do.

Before: I'd like to show you something I'm very proud of, but you'll have to move real close.

After: I\'d like to show you something I\'m very proud of, but you guys in the front row will have to stand back.

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Yeah well I have ben wanting to get a tantric or kama sutra book too learn somthing and just for reading so this is a good start. Wasn’t that expensive and I will give it a shot. I do feel I have a problem with premature ejaculation and I want to start to learn to correct this. If I talked to a urologist about premature ejaculation would he have any solutions or methods other than mentioned here?

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