libido/erection problems, please help

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Some of us cut out porn, because that way we are more excited when we see the “real thing”.

This sums it up for me enjoy the real thing.

I have not looked at porn for a week or so now done a few kegels drunk more water and erection quality is well up.

Since starting PE I have cut porn out of my life. I am like Cummer. My record is 14 ejaculations in one 24 hour period and I was averaging 4 per day. My penis would get sore and turtle and EQ really started to suffer. On the rare occasions my wife wanted some dick I was not always “up” for it due to over masturbation that day.

So I’m going cold turkey with the porn and two days ago I went 36 hours without cumming. This is a record for me as I have been wanking at least twice a day since I was six years old.

EQ is better already and I can get it up without porn. Instead of masturbating twice a day minimum I have been edging twice a day minimum and trying NOT to come. I am not always successful, but I perservere. I am working towards only cumming with my wife, but that is a ways off. If I can get it down to a few times a week I will be happy.

PE started me down this path. I want a bigger dick and wanking is getting in the way of my workouts. Plus the more I cum by myself the faster I cum during sex.

The one thing that puzzles me is the amount of cum, btw.

It got lower. after 2-3 days of non-wanking, my ejaculation used to be bigger.

Now it’s like 3 tea spoons of cum. Not much.

Oh, and while stopping watching porn did good job (I can get aroused by simplier fantasies and my dick doesn’t go flaccid so fast), I still feel a little de-sensitized while wanking. I mean, I remember that the whole process used to be very powerful. Now the feelings are a bit dull, only the orgasm is strong as always… :/ What’s wrong!?

Are you sure that you shoot 2-3 tea spoons of cum?

The average man shoots approximately 1 tea spoon. I just wonder how many spoons you cum in the past :)

Have you started to wank just the tips of your fingers? If not, try to do so. That really helps just in 2-3 weeks after the beginning. If you still masturbate with the whole palm, it decreases your sensitivity.

One more thing which often improves erection quality - very moderate pumping. I’ve started several days ago and already see certain improvements in my EQ.

And as for possible supplements in your situation, give a try to L-arginine. It improves both the circulation in your penis and the amount of cum, if you so need to cum more than your present 2-3 tea spoons.

Alysy, also keep in mind that your orgasms were probably more intense while watching porn. Its ALL state of mind. When you put on porn, you get so into it and therefore your orgasms are more intense (and probably bigger ejaculation). Without porn, you’re still having a hard time reaching that level of arousal. Try turning off all the lights and just concentrating the next time.

Actually, in the dark I find it harder to keep aroused lol.

I do wank with the tips of my fingers. I have nearly no sensations from wanking with full hand :/

Perhaps I overestimated the amount of cum. Anyways, it is less than before - which doesn’t make sense.

I am going to try this too. I am also going to a urologist to checkout a venous leak as soon as I make an appointment though.

I’m just wondering, if I am healthy, is there any way to increase the libido back to what it was when I was 12-15yo? I see no reason why it went down so fast. I’m 22, not 62, ffs.

The good news is that spring is coming and given that everything is fine with your hormones, you can hope for an increased libido within several weeks.

If that happens, I’d recommend you to stuck in as much sex activity as possible in order to cement these gains in libido. :)

Thing is, I used to have high libido all the time as a kid, no matter what season it was . And now it’s just a joke in comparison. I could understand that if I was old, but it wasn’t THAT long ago…

the difference between 15 and 22 is barely 7 years.. was this enough to degrade high libido to horrible? why? :/

I wish there was an easy answer & even better, an easy solution.

Alysy,

Your frustration is absolutely justified, given that just several years ago your libido was much higher than now.

But just keep searching for possible solutions. Keeping in mind that your hormones are in norm, there must be a very good potential for restoration.

My experience is very different from yours and some other people. I do watch porn quite a lot. And that only makes me hornier. It awakes my most dirty-dirty fantasies.

Let me suggest you an experiment if other current measures fail. Watch porn let’s say for a 3-4 days in a row and your favorite scenes without masturbation. It might jump-start your libido.

Another possibly helpful measure - massage of your testicles. It does make me more lustful. Just do that massage 1-2 times for 5-7 minutes everyday.

So, my recipe is: porn without masturbation and massage of testicles. Just give it a try and see what happens.

Thanks Cummer.

I’ll try the massage. I don’t think porn is a good idea though - I can barely get an erection from porn, it just feels so mechanical. I watched the weirdest things (omitting only things like vomit or shit eating) to a point where my dirty fantasies overcame normal fantasies. I can watch vaginal sex whole day without being turned on the slightest. It’s like watching a wall. Boring as ****.

I blame porn, because it was different in my young age. I wish I’d get aroused by a, say, the sight of naked vagina. But my taste shifted to anal due to massive amount of porn, and if I do fantasize, it’s about anal sex only. Which is sort of problematic, given the fact that girls a) rarely like anal b) rarely enjoy anal.

Without porn, I’d be oblivious to it all and turned on by simple things.

As it should be, imho. Makes sex more healthy.

I think porn just sucks. Or maybe I should say, hardcore porn sucks. Once you’re watching enemas, there’s some damage to your taste already, you’re moving to more ridiculous things, meaning the interest in things like “ordinary” vaginal sex or even oral sex dissolves to nothing.

AND THAT IS BAD :/ What is seen can’t be “unseen”. If I could, I’d do anal only, which is already ridiculous (the chances are 0% - what girl will agree to have only butt-sex? and I’m not into men and I don’t want to be). If you add even more weird things, it only gets worse. You get to a point where you want much, but it can’t happen.

Porn is bad.

Oh, I see. You made a good point.

My case regarding porn is different. I prefer oral, and that’s why porn doesn’t diverge significantly with my real life. I see ladies sucking cocks on the screen, and I see the same picture in reality.

I hope the massage will produce some result for you.
I will be grateful if you update on whether it helps you or not.

Good luck!