libido/erection problems, please help

Ok guys please tell me what to do…

I had like 2 years of total sexual abstinence, I just watched porn and masturbated

Now I found a GF. We haven’t had sex yet but it’s a normal relationship so sooner or later it’s going to happen.

However, my libido has decreased over years to a point where it’s nearly non-existent. I can simply not masturbate for like, two-three weeks before feeling a slight urge to do so.

I don’t have morning wood (never had). I can watch porn without any reaction at all (I have to use my hand to get a hardon.). Pics never turn me on, whatever they contain, I’m not turned on even by the slightest bit. And the real problem is, yesterday, when I came back from a date with her and tried to masturbate (it was late and I was sleepy, but who cares..), I couldn’t get a hardon. I was like, 20% erection max. It was horrible. I tried different fantasies but IT DIDN’T WORK. Took me about 20 minutes to get hard enough to masturbate (it wasn’t 100% ofc…) … when I finally came, it was extremely watery, as if I came with water, not sperm…

I’m freaking horrified…

I know people have psychical barriers, like, when they are virgins, first time with new girl or whatever, but I WAS ALONE IN MY BEDROOM TRYING HARD AND REMAINING FLACCID!!!!!

what should I do? :/

I’m currently taking Isotretinoin and suffering from high cholesterol, by the way… but the libido problems began before that.

Have “THE talk with your doctor.” Your high cholesterol may be your problem. My diabetes causes high sugar levels which effects my blood circulation similar to cholesterol. Viagra has done wonders. When my dick begins to rise about 30 minutes after taking the Viagra, so does my libido.

I think it’s worth a try.

On top of whatever medical problem you may have, stop watching porn and stop masturbating (for now). I myself came off a 2 year porn, weed, and masturbation binge (would toke and beat off to porn 2-3 times a day), and I promise you, it fucks with your ability to sexually function outside that microcosm. I would look for the perfect clip to masturbate to, and sometimes would watch numerous clips without being the least bit turned on. Once you cut that out, things will eventually go back to their equilibrium (assuming you have good health, which you may not). It’s been about 3 months since I significanly reduced masturbation, porn and weed, and 3 weeks since I’ve even more significantly cut down. I can say I’m already seeing a difference in the way I view myself and my sexuality. Give it time.

Sounds like you need to have your body thoroughly checked including testosterone, prolactin, etc.

I second that. You may have some hormones not at correct levels. Get a complete physical and blood tests to check your hormonal levels. How old are you?

Thank you very much for the answers.

I’m just 23. I’m going to a doc soon and yeah, I decided not to watch porn anymore. Actually, I regret every moment I’ve done so. Back when I was 13, it was enough to see a naked breast for me to turn on. Then porn came and I gradually become insensible. Pretty much like UM1991, I have to look around for a “perfect clip” else I have problems putting it up… Maybe if I never done so, part of the problems wouldn’t be here… Gosh, I hope it can be undone at least partially. Now I understand why some people are talking about banning porn. I actually support them now.

The only problem is that isotretinoin (Accutane, Aknenormin, etc) screws up your blood tests, they are not reliable anymore, plus it can cause libido/erection problems by itself. (on top of Liphantyl I have to take due to high Cholesterol levels - yeah it reduces libido too). I have 3 months left of taking it out of 7, so I guess I won’t stop, but I actually hope it’s because of this medicine and not because of something else that I won’t be able to treat.

Jesus, life was so easy just few months ago… :/

I was texting my gf yesterday and we were trading a bit of “what would I do to you”, I thought I’m aroused enough to give it a try but nah, couldn’t maintain my erection well enough… I had to bring in some ridiculous gross fantasies to be able to cum, too… My cock felt rather numb, only the orgasm was pleasant, the whole masturbation process was more of a “omg, will i be able to!?”…

If sex is going to look like that now, I’m screwed. My mind wants sex but my body refuses. it’s horrible.

I might reconsider the my “mind wants sex” idea. The “omg will I be able to” is a sign of performance anxiety and a self fulfilling prophecy. Thoughts like that during sexual encounters will wreck your ability to do it. You’ve really gotta drop the negativity. I know its hard, I’ve been there before. But once you get over it, trust me, you’ll know it because the sexual realm is just completely different and more enjoyable.

I guess so.

I really hope it’s just the testosterone level. I’ve been reading more into it and so far, I have most of the symptoms (low libido, tiredness, lack of power, also poor progress in gym, etc.) I’d prefer anything treatable over “sorry bud, that’s just how you are”.

For sure. Get that checked out. ANd if your hormones are in check, don’t feel hopeless. Psychological issues can be fixed but it starts with you.

Yes I agre with he above. I have a little difficulty with erection, no big problem but I am sure it is watching too much porn. Serching for the perfect clip to beat off too. It is a big problem, you see your girlfriend naked and the sexual urges are not there. So this is your problem I think the same as mine too much bloody porn which interferes other desires in life.

So we need to cut back on the porn , my friend. Good luck. I need to burn this filthy laptop!

Nobody seems willing to bring up the dreaded “ED” subject - all the above offered suggestions might be otherwise on target - but get pretty worthless if it IS an early onset of ED. And yeah - a doctor visit can probably get you started down the right road, rather than running down endless blind alleys and dead ends…

Well, technically it’s ED already. So it would be like, stating the obvious? :)

dieselpower, unfortunately what was seen can’t be unseen… :( After so much porn, seeing a naked girl isn’t really a kicker anymore. Which is sort of… pathetic :( If only I knew what would become of me after X years of porn… >_>

Just take comfort in the fact that when you cut the porn out, you’ll eventually become resensitized. Almost everyone who’s had a similar experience says they go back to being the way they were. It just takes time. Just like PE. Just like everything in life. :-)

That’s so awesome. Looking forward to it. I don’t mind if it takes half a year, I just want it to happen eventually. Although I really doubt that I will be able to cum just by thinking about naked tits, as I did when I was a boy… :( Good old days.

Maybe not like that, but significantly better then where youre at right now.