Maintaining passion following orgasm

Hi,

I suspect most men’s sexual desire is at its lowest immediately following ejaculation. I’m curious if there’s any theories or success stories out there on how to remain horny after the climax. I’m not talking about getting another erection right away but more along the lines of having a desire to continue kissing/caressing?

For me, once I blow my load, my mind has immediately left the room. My wife’s translation is “the clowns have left the parade.”

I look forward to your feedback.

Thanks!

You said it; your mind. Once you conquer that you’ll be fine.

I agree with Jimmy- it’s primarily mental, but you can push yourself to keep going and it gets easier.

Yeah, most of the time I tune out myself, just feel like going to sleep. Lol. My wife teases me as well about going in my corner.
I helps when my wife lays on my shoulder after, she rubs my belly and chest and I caress her shoulders. In about 10 minutes I’m ready to go again, but she’s usually satisfied.
So…….

Similar here, for us, assuming I sense she wants a bit more, when she rolls over I will begin to rub her back letting her know that we are not finished and of course my hands will eventually begin to wonder south rubbing her ass and thighs. We are naked and ultimately in about 10 minutes we are both ready to go again.

Sometimes I just check out after we finish, but if I sense she needs more, she deserves it, and as others have said, it’s in your head as to how you get back into the game. First step is to let her know that you’re still engaged through conversation or just simple touching.

Appreciate the feedback guys.

Great question! You’ve gotten some golden responses here.

I try my absolute hardest to make sure she’s satisfied before I take my finish, or at the same time, this makes hers especially good! I’m 90% successful at holding mine for hers or after.

Kegels help here.

I’m lucky, I have a very short to no refractory period, and especially if she is blowing me, I can go a second time literally as soon as I ejaculate, so she will usually just slow down and ease up while I ejaculate, than give me a look and unless I say otherwise, she starts up again :D . Some nights I can go a third time right away, or a bit later, or I’ll masturbate after she goes to sleep if I still want to go.

If we are having intercourse, I’ll usually ask to come in her mouth first, then we’ll fuck. I can control my orgasm pretty good during intercourse, so I always wear her out completely (usually 3-4 orgasms) before I ultimately orgasm.

We have to use condoms at the moment because she doesn’t react well to hormonal birth control and we aren’t trying to get pregnant at this time (though we will probably soon start trying for our second).

That means no oral after I put the condom on since she hates the taste of them, even the less stinky ones…

As far as when I’m done, I’ve never had a loss of desire to cuddle and hold my partner. It has always seemed like the best thing in the world to do after satisfying each other and sharing something amazing. To hold her, caress her, kiss her, feel her, and smell her.

Do a retrograde ejaculation. You’ll keep your strength and be ready for more in minutes.

What he said ;)

What guys tend do , and I believe it’s wrong is that sex is a test that must be passed. You’ll get graded on it. That takes all the fun, the enjoyment of of it. That’s not what sex is. It’s mutual enjoyment but guys are so hung up on did I come too fast and did I make her come 7 times. All crap. Change your attitude.

Let’s go back to tests, you know school tests. We studied why? So we could pass the test so our parents wouldn’t beat us and we wouldn’t have to go to summer school. I never looked at a test like that. I thought that school was trying to teach us what we should know to be good people and get good jobs. I never studied to get a grade; I studied so I could be a good person and get a good job.

A change of attitude helps. Remember it’s a mutual thing. There will be days when you’re not at the top of your game and days when she isn’t either. ( they are much better at faking it then we are because they might love us and don’t want us to be disappointed). Get rid of any thought other than I love this person and want to share special time with her. When you just enjoy it and not think about what comes next you will have a great sex life.

Practice separating your orgasm from ejaculation. Although we typically associate one with the other, they are two separate events.

You can work through that with some practice and strength training.

As you start to climax in her and change your thrusting to what feels best, start kegeling you PC muscles to the rhythm of your ejaculations. Keep kegeling the muscles an the same climax rate, keep thrusting. It’s going to be a slower, gentler thrusting, but stay with it. Pay more attention to her body parts that turn you on. Keep kegeling, and thrusting. Kiss, squeeze, caress, slap, lick, talk dirty. Sexy foreplay while you’re already in there. Keep kegeling, and thrusting. Your attention starts to shift back to how amazing and wet they feel on your cock. Keep kegeling, and thrusting. Your erection will come back up to full strength
Hey, look whose back in the ring to take another swing.

When the valves open to start deflating erection, you’re trying to manually pump blood back in faster than it leaves. Keep it going until your horny resets and valves close.

If you pull out or stop stimulation, your body thinks you’re done with fucking and wants to put your penis away = refractory period. “I came, but I did NOT say I’m finished.” You can keep trying to fill her up with cum until her nose starts to run.

You’ll probably want to try this with a Cockring until you get used to it. They help kinda like a power-lifters weight-belt, it gives your muscles something to flex against so you can flex harder. Plus slow down blood escape.

Not for condom wearing. Methods like Spermicide will need reapplied.

True, though it takes some practice to accomplish that.