Men want unsafe sex: Report

I don’t think they just meant “men desire sex without a condom,” they meant “some men, especially when depressed, will develop a very strong appetite for high-risk sex that would probably turn a lot of other guys off.” It’s a mental health issue. Depression causes most to lose libido, but might cause some to just be reckless.

That aside, I agree with Ben that condoms totally suck. Of course venereal diseases and unwanted pregnancy suck a lot more than condoms, so I wear a condom if I’m having sex with someone I met recently or who isn’t using some other kind of birth control. However, if I’m in a monogamous relationship with someone on the pill then I’ll definitely 86 the condom as soon as possible. Feels much better for both partners in my experience. I mean, half the pleasure of sex is the sensation of bare skin against bare skin (or mucuous membrane), right? How much less would you enjoy a kiss if you had to put seran wrap in your mouth?

Wow you really dug an old one up Osu. Sex is about sensation. Seran wrap is THICK and nothing like condom material. Try some thin condoms. I recommend Crown Skinless Skin. The other factor other than “friction” is heat transfer. Something better than “skin to skin” sex is COMFORTABLE sex. There is alot to be said for sex without worry. Women AND men will respond much better in those situations. Keep trying condoms, they ARE NOT all alike. There are plenty of variations and reviews of condoms, if they were all the same there wouldn’t be varying reviews or variety right? It is true, some condoms make sex actually feel better. As some have mentioned, lubricating the glans and a proper fitting condom go a long way.

Condoms aren’t all that bad. But for me, I had sex for over 15 years with condoms before ever having sex without one. I guess I just grew accostomed to it. NONE of my GFs or partners ever complained about a comdom. Now I’ve had sex a number of times without, and I can’t really say it’s that much better without. I don’t know exactly how much sensation loss there is, but for me it isn’t 90%.

I’m sure a lot has to be your attitude toward it - condoms help me last longer, so I don’t mind them much. There is also the psychological benefit of not worrying as much about STD or unwanted pregnancy. Sometimes I’ll do the deed bareback for a while, and then when I get close grab a condom. Don’t plan it that way, just get too turned on by the GF.

Well, I do wear a condom if there’s any concern about disease or pregnancy. I can’t enjoy “risky” sex like the people described in the study. If I think there’s a chance the girl will get pregnant or give me a disease it’s obviously a huge turnoff (plus, just not a good idea), so then I wear a condom. Nonetheless, I’ve had sex with a wide variety of condoms and while it’s certainly not bad (I definitely wouldn’t go as far as Ben in saying “I’d rather masturbate.”), the natural feeling is still much better, imo. The feeling of connectedness and intimacy is much greater for me. With a condom I feel like half of the stimulation is coming from slippery plastic sliding on my dick, whereas without, it all comes from your partner’s actual living flesh, natural juices, etc.

I’m not trying to encourage people to be irresponsible or anything, I’m just giving my honest opinion.

What happend to the “female” condom? That was suppose to change a mans negative attitude towards condoms.

I had lots of unprotected sex in my horny early 20’s. I would never, ever do that today.

Anyone ever tried Durex Avanti poly-urethane condoms? I found this:

“The Avanti has several advantages over the typical latex condom. They’re larger, and a bit loose, which increases sensation. The polyurethane that they are made of transmits heat much better than latex, which further enhances the “it doesn’t feel like I’m wearing a condom” feeling. They don’t taste like anything, which is great for oral sex. And, for anal sex, they do not degrade in the presence of oil-based lubes, as would a latex condom.”

Just wondered if it might be worth a try.