Men want unsafe sex: Report

USA Today - Some men are mentally primed for unsafe sex. The threat of catching a disease doesn’t cool their desire, as it does for most people, and blue moods or stress can send them cruising for casual partners, suggests a Kinsey Institute study.

Men want unsafe sex: Report
USA Today
October 28

Some men are mentally primed for unsafe sex. The threat of catching a disease doesn’t cool their desire, as it does for most people, and blue moods or stress can send them cruising for casual partners, suggests a Kinsey Institute study.

There’s very little known about how personality and sexual arousal habits affect the likelihood of adults pursuing risky sex, says John Bancroft, Kinsey Institute director. His study of 1,500 gay and heterosexual men identifies a minority, about 10% to 20%, who are most likely to engage in sex that could threaten their lives.

The report on 589 gay men will be published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. The findings on straight men will be published in 2004, Bancroft says. Results for both groups are similar.

“For most of us, the way our bodies are set up probably makes it easier to do the right thing,” Bancroft says. When depressed or stress-ed, 40% to 45% have less appetite for sex, and about the same percentage feel no change, past studies show.

But a minority feel more aroused when they’re upset. These men did more “cruising” for casual sex partners, many of whom they didn’t know well.

Sex that could lead to a disease or unwanted pregnancy causes many men to lose erections. The men who didn’t have problems under these risky conditions also were more likely to practice unsafe sex, such as anal intercourse or without condoms. “They get excited despite the threat,” he says.

Of course we want unsafe sex. Condoms cancel out like 90% of all feeling. Even chicks hate condoms.

Ben

I’d have to disagree on the feeling thing. The other night, my girlfriend and I used a condom for the first time. It was a ribbed condom; anyway maybe I had it inside out or something but it felt better than if I hadn’t worn it. I think the trick is to wet the glans prior to rolling the condom on, so there is friction on the glans. I just hate putting the damn thing on.

Also, my girlfriend enjoyed it too. To me, sex is a godsend either way.

Ben;

When you have a suitable alternatative to condoms, a lot of us would like to hear what that is.

This: “Of course we want unsafe sex. Condoms cancel out like 90% of all feeling. Even chicks hate condoms…” is not a real responsible statement, and not true.

Avocet, how can you say that Ben’s experiences with condoms are “not true”? What would that even mean?

I think it’s important for condom manufacturers (and public health officials) to recognize that the chief resistance to condoms, among a lot of men, is the lack of sensation when wearing them. Suppressing this sentiment or denying its validity isn’t helpful. Ben may not have a “suitable alternative to condoms” developed himself, but it would be beneficial if better alternatives (namely, better condoms) were developed, to increase usage and decrease disease.

Incidentally, I think the large-sized ones and the baggy-headroom ones feel better than most.

I agree with hellufastud,

I don’t know why that statement is irresponsible or not true. He didn’t say “don’t wear condoms”.

Perhaps for some, condoms don’t cancel out 90% of feeling but it is sure close to that for me and for most of the guys I’ve talked to. I still wear one because of the risks, but there are many times that I “want” unsafe sex.

And by that I mean (and I think he means) I don’t want it to be unsafe but I want Dick touching pussy sex with ALL the feeling and pleasure it brings.

So you’re going to tell me how MY dick feels when I have a condom on?

Condoms suck. It doesn’t mean I don’t use them, but they suck. If you think they don’t suck, you need serious help.

Also, I haven’t fucked a girl yet that actually “prefers” condoms over bareback. It doesn’t mean they’ll just let me fuck them without a condom, but chicks hate condoms too… they dry them out.

When you wear a condom, your genitals aren’t even actually touching pussy at all. Sometimes, I’d rather just jerk off than use a condom since it negates almost all sensation… not to mention ruining the momentum of the moment.

I’m not condoning unsafe sex, I’m just telling you that safe sex (condoms) doesn’t feel as good.

BenF: Next time, try a lttle Astroglide inside the condom. Works wonders for me, anyway.

I sure could go for some unsafe sex right about now, oh yeah….

Who wouldn’t? But I should either go to the pet store and have a alligator blow me again or Simi Valley, California.

The Kinsey institute had to waste time and money to do a study on this?

No big surprise…. Condoms suck!!!

Funny…I’ve never once had a condom “kill the moment” for me.

What is means is that Ben made a blanket generalization that is patently not true. Condoms do not cancel out 90% of sensation and chicks do not necessarily hate them; it is the consequences of not using condoms that chicks really hate. I happen to believe, and you can disagree, that people who promote unsafe sex are acting irresponsibly - toward the rest of us who may someday sleep with their partners.

My philosophy:

One night stand/casual sex parter/booty call - use a condom

Girlfriend for a long time - don’t use one. Simple.

And avocet, the two partners I’ve had that I didnt’ use a condom with, hated them when we did. Granted thats two out of 3 billion, but that’s my experience.

East, a virtual simulator (kind of a lucid dream) that is where you have unsafe sex without the consequences! :thumbs: