It’s only difficult to de-condition one’s self from a long-standing pre-patterned response.
If you really take the time with yourself - and I agree that at first you should do this on your own, mainly because you really need to concentrate and tune in to your body and a woman (or ‘partner’, depending on who you are) is, well, distracting - if you really take the time with yourself and go slow you can learn the benefits pretty quickly. To get good at it requires practice.
The point about the breath is really important. As is the clamping down on the way there rather than at the point of no return. Go slow, clamp down with the PC well before the point of no return. Breathe (the belly breathing is key). Hang out. Start up again. Breathe. Each time try to get just a little bit closer to the edge. You’ll feel it as it gets more and more urgent. Then stop completely. Don’t come. Let the erection die down. Do something else. Come back to it and start over again. Clamping (Kegel and hold) well in advance of that point and working your way up to it. And PAY ATTENTION. You’ll start to know more about your body.
You cannot hurt yourself by not ejaculating. The sensation of firing backward into the bladder is a bit odd, but it’s not painful and it’s harmless. Also, as you get better at the technique you really don’t do this much - or at least I don’t. The Taoists have been doing this for a long time. It’s a perfectly safe thing to do.
I more than recommend it.
It’s fun to watch a girl cum a few times before you do and it’s even more fun to have this orgasmic response and still be going strong inside of her without spilling a drop. It’s fun to ride the waves of pleasure as they build in your body - in this way it’s different from the typical ejaculatory orgasm. You feel it as energy in your whole body.
You do have to prepare yourself that it’s going to take some trial and error to figure out, and then some time to get good at it. I’m still working with it and learning new things, but the women I’ve been with since learning this have been very appreciative. VERY appreciative.
Patience… Practice… It’ll change your sex-life and have you wondering why you didn’t think of it before.
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God gave men both a penis and a brain, but unfortunately not enough blood supply to run both at the same time. - Robin Williams (: