Premature Ejaculation..I think

Here is what I used to do with my ex. Beat off in the shower before meeting her. First round of sex put on a trojan “extended pleasure” condom (comes with desensitizing cream laced in the condom). Then all the other times after that, just wear a normal condom. Because after the first load is gone, the desensitizing cream is more of a erection killer.

This was before I told her I can’t last long on the first load. Since then, she just blew me before hand, waited a couple minutes..Then had sex.

Ejaculation control has never really been a problem for me, but since I’ve started PE my control has been even better. It’s almost like a button that I push when I’m ready

~TS

escobar;

That’s a sensible strategy, I think.

Important for tryers to understand, though, their own “refractory” period cycles, the time it takes from having cum to getting hard again. Once you have that in place, you should be able to schedule things pretty well.

I’d also like to know why RWG isn’t going back to the accupuncturist.

So far I have not needed to go back… Once in a while I get the urge to cum but I for the most part can hold it back… Remember I used to cum within a couple of seconds and on the average can now last 15 to 25 minutes… I’m very pleased to say the least…

Has lots of continuous jelqing helped any of you guys in solving premature ejaculation ?

I’ve stopped jelqing a couple of months ago and seem to cum much quicker right now.

I am trying out RWG’s tip for acupuncture. Went today for the first time.

RWG - Since you are no longer having acupuncture how do you/did your acupuncturist explain how you haven’t reverted back to your 3-5 stokes and out form?

She told me that I should be cured but if I needed to come back for another visit then that would be fine… She also mentioned that if I needed to come back it would not be for another 5 visits, just one… So far I have had great luck with the whole thing… PE helped, acupuncture helped & if I know my wife wants a hard pounding I just pop a blue pill, the blue pill is the end all of any premature ejaculation problem lol…

On average I now can last approx 15 minutes and it’s touch and go after that.. If I’m on a blue pill I can dump my nuts 4 times and it’s still rock hard! Way more then my wife really wants…

RWG what’s this blue pill?

davo, let us know how you go

Viagra.

Dave how does Viagra help? By having you hard without really being that turned on first?

Dave, when you used to cum too soon can you describe the feeling.?

With me, I feel nothing much for awhile and then a sudden erotic sensation which a few secs after leads to ejaculation.

One thing I’ve noticed helps is by RELAXING my PC muscle. I know this is contrary to all those who say kegeling works but when I cum too soon it is because of my PC muscle contracting and shooting my cum straight after.

One thing that helped me a lot with my premature ejaculation was getting depressed and going on antidepressants. Developing ED also helped, although I wouldn’t recommend either as the most effective treatments for premature ejaculation.

Many years ago, I could only last 1 or 2 minutes even with very slow thrusting or stopping and staying inside my wife. Since we were on the once-a-month plan at the time I really hated it and I wished that I could make it last, but I just couldn’t. About 10 years ago I became very depressed and I was on a fairly high dosage of antidepressants. It got to the point that often I wouldn’t even be able to achieve orgasm.

Now I am on a much lower dosage of antidepressants, so I can last about 10 - 15 minutes which I think is perfect. If I try, I can usually last for as short a time as 5 minutes, or as long as 25 minutes, but truthfully after that period of time I seem to lose interest.

I suffer from ED and even though my erections are usually firm enough to achieve penetration they are not nearly as firm as I wish they were. Not only that, but if I stay inserted too long then my erection slowly leaks away. I have tried Viagra and it helps a little, but not too much.

I do know that some doctors will prescribe low-dose antidepressants to help treat premature ejaculation.

My wife has trained my penis to fire away when she wants it to. It all started when, after giving me oral sex for a while, she would get really excited and start using her hand and mouth at the same time. It turned me on for her to be so turned on by giving me oral sex - and that made me orgasm. Now, I can last anywhere between 15 seconds and 15 hours, depending upon when she starts “that special stroke”. It’s become a cue for my body and I will not orgasm without it. She knows it too, and she gets extremely excited by the fact that she has absolute control over my orgasm.

If you wanted to reproduce this in your own situation, I would suggest explaining exactly what your plan is to the lady in question and just slowly train it to act the way you want. Do not let yourself orgasm without that stimulation. Give her a cign of some sort when you’re getting out of hand and she can give you a titty twister or some such thing that completely removes any desire to orgasm (I’m assuming that you’re not into pain here… if you are, then find some other sort of anti-stimulant response).

I would imagine that the same would work for sex as well.

Good luck!

Fuck Pamdaga, that sounds like a good deal to me. On average I can now last approx 15 minutes which is a long ways from 2 seconds where I started out at… I’m very interested in learning this method of which you speak! If I could last a solid 45 minutes without shooting I would be exactly where I want to be.. Your saying “train” your penis? Could you give a bit more detail into how this is done?

My wife did this without consciously knowing what she was doing. She essentially found something that I really, really liked and got into the habit of “working up to it”. It became habitual for her to “get into it” and use her hand in that certain way, which excited me both physically (hand+mouth=love) and mentally (her getting so turned on by the act). Eventually, she got so good at it that it raised the bar with regards to my pleasure and my body became habituated to orgasming that way. So now, no matter how good it might feel when she’s going down on me, my body knows that it’s going to get even better.

Remember when you were a kid and you’d take about 30 seconds to have a wank? Your body got used to it… it takes longer now. I believe this is one reason (of several) that young men have a hard time not orgasming very quickly when with a woman - because they’ve trained their genitalia to respond extremely quickly.

In essence it’s simply behavior modification applied to sexual impulses. If Pavlov could make a dog drool just by ringing a bell, we can train our dicks to do things on command too. There are tons of books out on behavior mod, but simply put, you’re just trying to associate an event (orgasm) with a particular stimulus. You could do this in several different ways.

You could try to associate your orgasm with a particular event, such as when your woman claws at your back, rubs your testicles, or screams “Play that funky music, White Boy!”

You could use a modified sort of punishment. Every time you feel like you’re about to orgasm, stop what you’re doing, squeeze the living hell out of your glans (pain=no orgasm), and, for good measure pinch yourself on a nipple or some sensitive area of the skin, or maybe bite your tongue. After a while, you’re body is going to associate tongue-biting or nipple-pinching with genital pain and it will knock the arousal down a notch or two.

These above two are surefire scientifically proven methods to alter behavior. They are essentially just ways to get your body used to doing things a certain way or on a certain cue. Your body WILL become habituated eventually. I’ve known women who have been single (and horny) for so long that, in order for them to orgasm, the new men in their lives have to learn to touch them exactly like they touch themselves when masturbating. These things would work extremely well with a partner who is in on the project, but you could train yourself alone as well in similar ways. Tongue-biting would be a good thing if you were practicing this solo, because you could surreptitiously take it into the bedroom without your gal wondering what the hell you are doing squeezing your nipples.

One other, more cognitive sort of thing I did to train myself to be the master of my O: decide before you start any sexual encounter, be it a lovin’ session with your sweetie or a nice wank in the shower, whether you are going to orgasm or not. If you decide you are not going to orgasm, then go after it at whatever speed and intensity you are able to, but slow down or stop or do whatever you have to when need be in order to NOT orgasm. If you decide you are going to allow yourself to orgasm, then do it when you want to. There will be a tendency to say to yourself “ah screw it, I’m doing it”, but this will lead to disappointment. After a while, you’ll start to realize that you do have a say in if and when you orgasm and you’ll develop methods to delay the orgasm and cool down if you get to excited (stop, slow down, different stroke, etc).

If doing this with a woman, do not underestimate the value of teasing her. You can give yourself a breather and calm down while making her even more excited by just popping your glans in and out of the entrance or rubbing your shaft along the clitoris. Why do you think the guys in the porn movies do these things (and other gems such as smacking the girls’ ass with their penises lol)? It’s because they need a breather.

One thing you do need to udnerstand is that it will take a while to train yourself - and however great the temptation is: don’t cheat. Let your woman know that “quickies” are out until you feel comfortable doing them without guilt or paranoia. And, if there is a solitary woman in your life, involve her in the decision as to how long you are going. Contrary to popular belief, most women do not like to be pounded away on for 45 minutes straight.

I hope this is helpful to you. I’ll try to answer other questions if you have any. Let me know how things work out!