Premature Ejaculation..I think

Hey

I’ve been doing PE for awhile now and got good gains so am not a newbie.

One thing PE hasn’t seemed to help me with is premature ejaculation. At least I think it is. Let me explain.

I am an uncut guy and whenever I have sex when I am horny I get aroused real quick and basically cum waay too quick. If 0 is unaroused and 100 is an orgasm I seem to go from about 25 to 100 in no time unless I cease all activity.

When I watch porn and see these guys bang away after having had a 10 minute blowjob I feel damned worthless.

The reason I wonder if it is premature ejaculation is that from all that I’ve read PE is supposed to be brought on by psychological reasons. However, I am 100% sure that anxiety etc is nothing to do with it. In fact, I even cum too quick when masturbating. Kegeling etc only seems to make a difference for me in lasting longer between 90-100 by a couple of seconds but by 90 it is waay too late to stop.

I am thinking of trying some desensitising creams, or other options even though I know they might be rip-offs. But, my glans is really sensitive especially if my foreskin isn’t fully retracted. I notice I can last much longer when masturbating if I fully retract the foreskin but with a girl since she applies stimulation directly to the glans when giving oral sex doing this has less effect.

I hope I haven’t rambled and hope someone can offer advice. This is beginning to get me seriously depressed.

Maybe if your partner(s) are kind enough they can bear with you and try to go slow so you can learn to build up some endurance. Just an idea,and if you try it i hope it works.

I have learned how to go for hours on end and it is very simple to learn, just takes some time. You have to masturbate and bring yourself close to climax and then you go as slow as possible or stop if necessary before you cum. Do this over and over again and you will learn how to hold it. It takes a while to learn but it is fairly easy to learn if you take the time.

I would stay away from the desenitising creams and crap.

And hey if all else fails when you are done cumming (early) get that sucker hard again and just go again. Two is better then one anyways.

davetherave;

Maybe it would help if we defined in your case - in many of our cases - what “premature ejaculation” really is, and compare that with (honestly, now, guys) how long the rest of us last - on average.

To make this easy for you, I read on good authority that most guys - and without any technigue tricks up their sleeves they’ve learned to use, cum at about 45 - 50 strokes after insertion; this, all things variable of course, takes from 2 - 4 minutes after insertion.

Stop believing what you see in porn videos. Most of these are filmed over a space of a couple days. Multiple couplings and many ejaculations later, they come up with an edited flic in which it takes the guy as long as the film lasts to cum. Fun to watch - a lot of them - but most are a tissue of editing lies.

I find I can masturbate for hours if necessary but ONLY by:

a) Spending more time stopping than masturbating
b) Stay away from the head

Obviously you can’t avoid the head being stimulated during sex. Of course, I could cum more than once (I can easily enough cum 3-4 times in an hour if I am highly aroused from watching porn and masturbating) but the first time is obviously the best. Why would you say stay away from creams? What about bands I see advertised which say they take sensation away from the head and transfer it to the shaft more?

One thing I can’t do is last more than a very short time once fully erect and receiving oral sex. Unless she stays away from the head. That is why I thought either a cream or maybe jerking off earlier in the day even might help.

2-4 minutes? I read it was 12 minutes in a magazine (men’s Health I think).

Although I appreciate that a film can be filmed over days I assume that for some films like gangbang type ones that they are filmed continuously without pause. Same for gonzo type flicks and amatuer films.

Just think about golf. I do it and last a long time. :)

dave, with sex have her ride you, you’ll find that you’ll last longer. Once you get used to sex you’ll start lasting longer. Are you flexing your PC muscle while having sex? I used to thrust with my butt but that would make my PC muscle flex which would make me cum quickly so I started thrusting with my abs and legs a bit and it got me up to the average mark which is 2-3 minutes long after insertion.

regurlarwhiteguy conquered his prem ejec demons by getting acupunture. He’s the only guy on the forums that I know that has done it but he swears by it.

Ttiger is right. Try the start/stop routine. Keep doing it til you think your nuts are going to pop. When you can’t stand it any longer then let it blow. Hopefully if you keep doing this, each time you will be able to go a little longer.

Another hint. If you have a woman that you can commuicate with easily, discuss the situation with her. Plan ahead to do the start/stop thing as much as posssible. When you finally can’t help it, and blow your load, then roll back rest/relax until you can get hard again. Then go back to it. I guarantee the second time it will take you lots longer to cum.

If the girl doesn’t cum on the first go, then she probably will on the second.

davetherave

Your getting some good advice, I would go with the jerking off alot with out cumming so your dick gets used to not always having a happy ending.
Also if your chick is coming over, spank the monkey an hour before she gets there. And if she is willing have her blow you to completion than blow you more to get hard so you can fuck. The 2nd time you should last longer. Also make sure you get her real close with your mouth before you start fucking her so she has an orgasm. Good luck

Dino

I read a manual on sexual positions and sexual disfunction many years ago that discribed the actual technique ttiger said he uses. The author and his wife wrote the book together and at the time it didn’t make a lot of since.

He said to use a lube on the head only and bring yourself to the point of no return (almost) then stop, then, repeat 5- 10 times per day.

If you think about it, by doing the “bring almost to orgasm” then slow down or completely stop is training the glans to be less sensitive over time.

Sounds like it should work if given enough effort and practice. Like any thing else you have to try and find what works for you. I pratice this hold and blow routine myself as I am a quick blower at times.

2- 4 minutes huh. I’m happy with my average now, 5- 7 mins on average.

ineed9

indeed9;

There’s a whole lot of locker room mythology about how long “normal” lasting time is. To hear some tell it, if you can’t last a half hour, you’re a premature ejaculator. That is pure BS.

The “edging” technique mentioned does work, but it does take some training time. Problem is, when we are kids and jerking off at sometimes low levels of privacy, we train ourselves to cum quickly so we don’t get caught doing it. This often instills an ejaculation pattern that we continue when we mature and become sexually active. If you can train yourself this way as a teenager, you can un-train yourself, too.

A simple way to desensitize the glans is to get in the habit of “freeballing” around the house (no underwear). The constant contact of the glans with the fabric of pants - which are coarser in weave than underwear is - will gradually give you some more sexual edge, without taking away at all from the pleasure of sexual friction.

Those are some good ideas. Being uncut I have taken to exposing my glans to my clothing to desensitise it as you say.

The blowing a load before I see a girl idea I like. I guess I normally like to feel more horny than that before I have sex but I can live with it I guess:)

I can already masturbate for a long time. My problem is definitely that when I masturbate I gotta transfer my grip to the shaft after awhile or else cum “early” and I guess not everyone can have their head sucked for 5-10 minutes without cumming like porn stars seem to manage.

BTW, I definitely have to concentrate on relaxing my PC muscle. Although I’ve read that by doing kegels you should last longer I find it brings me to the edge close than when I am totally relaxed. A tip I read once was to actually push down on the muscle and this actually works even if you feel like an idiot doing it having sex.

I think I’ll throw the kitchen sink at this and see what comes up.

I’d really like regularwhiteguy to contribute on how acupuncture worked for him. I’ve used it for other stuff and it works…I just hope the needles aren’t placed you know where. lol

RWG has given a lot of info around the place. If you can’t find it here try https://www.peforum.com or maybe try PM him. I want to last longer than I do even though I’m average (it’s a man thing, I have to be way above average) so if I cant achieve my goals using the standard methods I’m going to try the accupunture too. I find my problem with the stop start technique is that the women I’ve been with just want it hard and fast and don’t want any of the stopping bit

davetherave (& interested others),

I had five visits with the lady who did the acupuncture on me, the cost was $50.00 per visit and the session lasted approx 1 hour each… The lady told me that my ‘kidney was out of alignment’ or some such thing??? I’m not sure about that but she did say other things that made sense to me. Such as:

A) I was to sensitive, she determined that by doing some tests by hand pressure on certain areas of my body (and no, she didn’t grab my trout)… She told me I would have a sore spot on top of my head and I did, also that my feet were very tender, they were…

B) She said that the needles would help me be not be so sensitive when having sex and she was very right about that…

C) My energy level was all over the place and not flowing in a circle… I’m not one for mumbo-jumbo and have always called bullshit on stuff like this but I swear to you after the 2nd visit I could “feel a circle” of energy going through my body, it was so weird feeling so heavy, it was like I could not get up off the table…

I feel I had the worst case of premature ejaculation of anyone on this board… I had everything going against me in this case… I would obsess about girls when I was in high school, raised on a farm where I always could see animals fucking… I went mental on sex I guess… My girth usually generates facial expressions on wemon that add to my excitment and with their moaning I would usually shoot after 4 to 5 thrusts… I actually came hard after two pumps into my wife once FUCK! Thats bad!

I’ll be honest here guys.. For approx two months after acupuncture my wife was actually begging me to cum, giving me commands.. I actually got to hear my wife say she was sore from fucking.. With a life full of sexual dispare you can only imagine how good this made me feel… I am now fighting the urge to cum again, so I’m going to make another appt to the Chinese lady and explore hypnosis… Do not get me wrong.. I believe that I am now at least average in the time I can last, perhaps even more then average but having my wife beg me to cum was the best ego boost I could have ever asked for… If I could only get another 3/4 of NBPEL I would be in hog heaven… I’m going to look into the hypnosis thing this week and might give it a try if it looks good..

If anyone has any questions feel free to ask… Part of me getting better with my problem had alot to do with being open about it right here and over at pe forums.. With out being open about this issue I would have never had the balls to post pics and bare all…

Hey thanks for replying RWG. Great info.

I have also seen acupuncturists occasionally and it has been bang on the money for me as well. After reading your account, I may give acupuncture a shot in future.

One question: If it worked once, why would you do hypnosis instead of sticking with something you know works (acupuncture)?