signs for Orgasm

I’ve got a new boyfriend for a fiew month now. But there is a problem with his orgasms.
there is no sign, he showes, when he gets an orgasm. i checked his breath, or if he moves faster
or groans around, but neither the one nor the other. So i wondered what signs else could i pay some more
attention to? I asked a few guys until now and they told me he MUST show signs like this. So i don’t know guys
who don’t show signs. Maybe one of you could explain or help me with an answer for my question?
Because i want to know when he gets an orgasm, because i never realize this and just go on until it hurts for him..

So i would be thankfull for every kind of help.

Regards from Europe.
Tarja

Tarja,

Is he ejaculating when you have sex. If you use a condom, is there semen in the condom? If you don’t use a condom, then is there semen in you after you finish having intercourse?

First time I had sex I made no noise whatsoever! I can control it quite easily. Different story now though.

The point is, he may just be a little shy or something like that.

Moises’ point is pretty conclusive though!

He had definitly orgasms. I saw the semen and felt it. So it’s for sure.
But the thought i had was that he is maybe a bit to unrelaxed or something? could this be the reason?
how can i make him relaxing then? or comes this ‘groaning’ around thing with time?
maybe he doesn’t groan because he’s to shy, but at least there must be some faster breaths or something..
or am i wrong?

regards

Tarja

Are you male or female?
If you can’t see it fly because he is in you, one way to tell is to feel the skin on his back. My wife always knows because at the moment I let fly I break a sudden sweat over my lower back.

You should ask him about this. Get him to talk about it. Let him know that this is influencing your feelings about the act with him.

How can you have sex and yet be this uncommunicative? I suppose it is because you are still new to this erlationship, eh?

From a purely physical aspect, a man’s scrotum will tighten up and his balls will draw close to his body before he ejaculates. You may be able to feel this with your hand, but maybe not.

Talk to him.

Tarja, your friends are wrong. Some men do not or cannot show any sign of impending ejaculation for a numbner of reasons: repressed sexuality, embarassment, inability to express themselves, or just the idea that having sex is no big deal, he may want to get it over with and maybe not allow himself to enjoy it.

As I said before, try and talk to him.

Best from California: Dewey

You se this wrong.

I talked about this with him.

but he told me he seriously don’t know why he dosn’t show signs. maybe i just miss something he told me

this ‘not enjoy it’-thing is something i thought about before. i asked him, he told me he enjoys it and is relaxed..
so maybe this comes with time?
what about you, did it take time until you showed any signs?

regards

Why is this a big deal to you? He says and you know he is getting off, so why the fuss?

I honestly can’t answer the question of when i first ‘showed signs’ because I had never been aware of trying to; the body does what it does and you must be observant.

Perhaps I misunderstand, but it seems to me that he must be controlling his breath, controlling his muscles, in an attempt to prevent displaying any sign of pleasure.

Maybe this is how he likes it?

Because this is driving me nuts ;) .

No seriously, it’s something iam just suprised about that he don’t show any signs. i thought it’s maybe something

i do wrong or a fault of me or whatever.

I just care about him.. thats all. So i see, no answer, neither from him nor from you.

But thanks anyway for the try :)

I agree with RB. If he says he is having fun and you are having fun, why is it so important to analyze what’s happening all along the way? Do you have less fun not knowing what stage he’s at? I can understand if that’s the case. I’m just curious why this is so important an issue to you.

In this connection, the MSHF will unveil a new series of sexual information pieces very soon, one of which will explain stages of the ejaculation process, what happens before, during, and after. Give us some time, though. We have to coordinate the various pieces so the whole picture makes sense.

Tarja, I’ll wager that it isn’t anything you’re doing wrong. It may just be his way.

But I’m curious as to whether you’re talking about his ‘expression’ of orgasm or the actual physical process of a man’s orgasm and ejaculation? This is where the discrepancy lies. All men go through the same basic process *physically* , but we don’t all go through the same *expression* of it (yelling, ululating, rolling of eyes, speaking of tongues).

Are you wishing that he would be more expressive because you would then feel that he is enjoying it?

Why? Would this make a difference?

hej dewey,

yes maybe you’re right. this is what i try to tell him with this. of course you can’t force him to show anything, but i would can
enjoy it more, if i would can hear it or at least feel it, that he enjoys it. But if he doesn’t do anything i have to look for signs and concentrate more. Of course i want him to enjoy and thatswhy i have to care about, that it’s not just fun for me.
So this is why i need this signs..otherwise i think he’s not enjoying the whole thing and i stop this whole ‘procedure’.
It also happened that i asked him after 30 minutes if he does feel anything. He just answered ‘no’ and then we stopped. But he didn’t told me on his own. So i have to care about this. And thatswhy i look for this signs, to see if he enjoys or not.

regards