Size and sex

Ok, so me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost a year now. When we have sex I have no problem finishing, but for some reason when she gives me a hand job, or blow job it rarely does the trick. Now I’m only like 5.5 inch with a full erection so I wasn’t, how should I say, a big player with the girls, so I was master-bating like 4-5 times a week because I wasn’t confident with myself to go and get a girl. Does my girlfriend have a hard time getting me off with hand jobs and blow-jobs because I used to master-bate so much, or is it just because she’s not good at it? Also, if it is because I master-bated to much, aside from the obvious stop master-bating, is there any other way to make it easier for her to finish me?

First of all, the correct spelling is masturbate.

Second, blow-jobs are very low-intensity. So most men cannot get off on it alone. Hand-jobs may also be considered a low-intensity activity, but I think that we’re just used to our own hands. It takes my girlfriend at least 30min to get me off with her hands and mouth. It can be done but it needs dedication. It could be a combination of her not knowing what will get you off and also you not being responsive to the stimulus.

Personally, I’ve had a lot of fulfillment ballooning since it increases sensitivity everywhere (nipples, balls, perineum, etc) instead of just the glans. Do a search for it. When you get more sensitive and she gets more experienced, it’ll get better.

As for now, don’t worry about coming and maybe lay off the masturbating. Not masturbating will increase your sensitivity and not forcing orgasm will help you achieve it. But take note that I don’t think you’re over-masturbating. I just think it’ll help if you lay off. Let me know if you want more detail or if this wasn’t the answer you’re looking for.

Technique-wise, there are many instruction manuals online that she could read (or you could read and suggest she try). Try some at literotica.com (Top How To stories on Literotica.com for all time) P.S. Mods, is this an ok link? Also, this is a VERY good one:
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Make sure you brush up on your oral skills too!

Personally for me, it’s better if she uses both hands since there are many more things you can do with two hands. Two hands and a mouth are priceless.

Try clamping around the base of your penis (with your own hand) while she gives you a blow job. This will keep you rock hard and the blow job will feel better. This usually does the trick for me, since my girlfriend doesn’t know how to give head either.

-L4L

What are you worried about? Many men wish they could last longer…I’d be glad to trade with you.

Yeah, I would be happier if I could last a bit longer too

Get her to put some strong peppermints in her mouth. Makes an awesome blow job.

My gf hated that I would never cum.it was more of a mental block thing tho. She hated it because it was marathon sex twice a day with no nut

I can cum from a blowjob, but it’s hard sometimes. And very few women, from my experience, know how to give handjobs.

5.5” by the way is the normal size for adult males.

Heck, I’ve managed to do the dry-orgasm and delay orgasm thing pretty reliably having sex but failed to do so whenever my fiance’ was doing oral/hand on me (so far). She knows what makes things go :) . I think she gets a kick out of watching me try to stop it and blowing anyway.

If she’s really working it then maybe five minutes if I work hard to make the experience last. She’s intentionally dragged me out for ten to fifteen just for the fun of it - then gets this focused look and 30 seconds or less later it’s all over. I’m afraid to ask where she learned the art …

Maybe don’t make her do all the work, do a little thrusting yourself. Teach each other what works best for both.

First off goingforit is right. (What are you worried about? Many men wish they could last longer…)

Shave your balls, and have her suck one or both into her mouth then stroke yourself, her hair should be sticky shortly thereafter.

Thanks for all the replies, the other problem then, if it’s not me, is that she isn’t very determined and usually stops with the hand jobs after maybe 10 minutes, and the blow jobs after 5 minutes because she says her arm or tongue hurts. Is there any way I can make it easier for her so that she can last longer with out it starting to feel like a workout for her?

When me and my wife first started dating, we didn’t have the opportunity of having the house to ourselves that often and were still in school so couldn’t afford hotels etc.

So, a lot of our fun would be in the bathroom or elsewhere whilst her mum was downstairs.

Sometimes I couldn’t come that quickly (perhaps I had wanked earlier on) so I used to concentrate on the feeling, always did the trick for me.

If I want to ejaculate from a blowjob, I need to meditate on the feeling in order to do it. Otherwise it’s just a nice feeling that leads to no orgasm.