Very good night turns BAD

Well….I get this call tonight that my girlfriend wants me to come over and pick up some condoms on the way, so we hang up the phone and I’m flippin out. Why? Because I’m a virgin, and my girlfriend is pretty fuckin hot so I’m just like holy shit I’m gonna fuck my girlfriend I’ve been waiting for this for sooo long. Now I get there we start makin out, I’m worried I’m not gettin hard at all….and it stays that way, HOWWW DID THIS HAPPEN?????!?! The only time in my life I NEED A HARDON I CANT GET ONE, can someone give me some feedback please I’m insaneely pissed off…

(1) IMAGINATION - you imagined the event before it happened, and probably dragged into the scenario some of what you have heard/read over time, and your imagination did the rest - unfortunately this led to

(2) STRESS - which, in your anticipation and excitement, caused your body’s chemistry to get somewhat wacky, which caused

(3) ANXIETY - over not getting the wood you thought you needed to get for the act, and thus caused

(4) “FAILURE” - not of the equipment, but of the “control panel” (your brain) to let “nature” take its necessary course.

Trouble? NO!
Bro, sweat it not - it happens even to us guys who get it on a fairly regular basis. I don’t know how many times I have failed to get good wood with my wife because of biomechano/physical factors.

Man, next time - and there will be - chill and enjoy. If your gal has any experience, let her take the lead. If you are both relatively new at this, see if she will watch some soft-porn with you, to get a “look” at what you are “doing” (or trying)

You are gonna be OK - just let it go now, so that you can LET IT GO the next time.
SHALOM
wan2Bbig/Alex

Simple, you were over excited and it was way too much for you to bare. A guy not being able to get it up for his first time is a VERY common experience.

Now I’m a virgin also and I have never had the chance to be alone with a girl but I’ve had a similar experience. When I went to a strip club for the first time and also saw real pussy for the first time. I was too excited/scared to get hard.

Next time your with you girl again try to relax and it should go up. If not have her use her hands and/or her mouth. If still no luck take a break. Tell her what is going on and try again a few minutes later.

Man I’m so ready to get laid.

answered your question there…

Wow… It’s striking us young men every which way :(

Good luck man. It’s probably just the nerves, as they’ve said. Calm down, and show her who’s boss :)

These guys are telling you good things.

It’s partly about adreneline. The Big Moment didn’t happen for you in a natural way with a natural progression.

Hot girlfriend calls, (oh, wow) says she’s coming over, (oh, wow) and buying condoms on the way. OHMYGOD!!!!!! Your big chance is coming in fifteen minutes! You start pumping out adreneline - which is an erection killer - like there’s no tomorrow, and for good physiological reasons.

If you were a neaderthal and had fucked few hundred times in your life already and had just started having sex with your neanderthal lady but a woolly mammouth charged in from the left, you’d lose your erection in a New York second.

Before the next time, buy your own stock of condoms; have them easily available. And, before the next time, plan an evening together doing things (not sex) you both enjoy first. Make it fun, and romantic. Then (in some safe cave) make out and play together, even telling her you are little nervous because it’s your first time. [What the hey? We all have a first time. She might even get more turned on by getting your cherry.]

It’ll work. You just have to relax yourself into it.

How about you just have condoms ready next time, but don’t actually pre-plan the sex. Let it happen, don’t make it happen.

Good suggestion, KOG.

Well it happened today…I went over her house and we were chillen n maken out and we were like wow I’m hard soooooooooo WE DID IT!!!!!! hahaha, but there was one problem, I just couldn’t get off at all I had a hardon but I couldn’t cum after we finished kinda, she cummed and then she wanted to stop because she was really tired and I couldn’t finish but I didn’t really care. Sorry if this was hard to read just really happy….thanks for the advice guys, I’m going to be carrying condoms wit me all the time now just in case haha, oh and does anybody have any suggestions for condoms? I just grabbed any random box and it turned out to be ultra ribbed trojans but I think they were kinda small. My measurements are 7.25 EBPL 5~ EG, any clue what kind of condoms I should get?

Well congratulations AdrenE, I officially hate you now. Don’t worry its nothing personal. I just hate all the happy people.

I’ve heard that condom’s really kill the sensation. So if you couldn’t cum while having sex but she did. Have her return the favor with a blow job so both of you are happy. BTW you might want to spend some time finding condoms that are sensitive or something. I keep hearing things on the radio about how good Durex’s are.

Also they are small because you are well above the average size….Bah :(

Ya see - it’ll happen … just gotta let it be - and it will.

Too cool that she got off your first time. She will remember that. Don’t fret that you didn’t … in fact CELEBRATE!!!! There are a GANG of us here who would like to have your stamina & staying power.

Enjoy, but remember to be responsible.
SHALOM
wan2Bbig/Alex

Smoke some pot or have a beer to loosen up dude. Im not saying get ripped but just relaxed to it will remove the mental block

Congratulations AdrenE

Lucky SOB :-)

Thanks for the support guys, you’re all awesome!