Wasn't able to get hard today

I had been seeing this girl off and on for like a month or more already. Finding a time and place for sex is usually very difficult because we work, and we usually make out a lot in one of our cars. Today I had a free day, and I had the place to myself, and so I brought her over. I really don’t know what happened but I just couldn’t do it…I had a few minutes where I kind of could, and then for some reason…no. She has already given me head in the car before and I was extremely hard and had no problems the whole way through. To say this is humiliating is an understatement - she eventually said, “I don’t think this is gonna happen, babe.” The only other time this happened to me was the first time I had sex. I can’t imagine it was stress because I’m very happy with my life, so I really don’t know. To give you some backround I am slightly under 6 inches…but when you can’t get hard, you feel like the smallest man in the world. Any advice would be appreciated, thanks.

So this is the first time you were going to have sex with this girl right? It happens to a lot of guys the first time or first few times with a new girl. Personally I caved and bought some Viagra when I was having some trouble with a new girl, worked great. And just like you, I was fine with a blow job or whatever, it’s just nerves.

I was reading some other threads and I’m coming to grips with the fact that if I want to have a sexual relationship with someone, I’ll have to cut out all my masturbation.

What!?

Untrue for sure. Personally, I’m against porn whilst masturbating because it desensitizes me to the real thing. Cutting out all masturbation is kind of ridiculous, I highly doubt it affects you much, if at all.

Which threads were you reading?

Sometimes you feel like sex, sometimes you don’t. Maybe you just weren’t horny.

I agree, cutting out masturbation completely will make you more aggressive and needy. Two things women HATE in a relationship and will soon leave you.