Whats wrong with me

Hi JohnG, you sound like me, but like 20 years ago :)

I think when you are “trying” to make a Baby, a lot of focus can go towards that, and JohnG Junior needs more mental stimulation, and performing the act can become a little mechanical. When I was in that situation, a couple times a day, I would picture myself and the wife going to Ubangi-Ville that night, and that helped quite a bit.

Some occasional side benefits of trying to make a Baby, is you can get some quickies in, and not feel guilty about it.

Good luck :)

Traver,

It seems like you are spending all your energy on fore-play.

If you get hard when touching her the thing to do is get out of your clothes as soon as possible and into bed and away you go!.

If you are fairly hard and your underwear is maybe keeping it bent, then it is like you are bendng your dick when it’s erect which will make it sore.

So save the touching and kissing until you are able to have it uninhibited- as it were
You could try having a look at the supplements thread and perhaps consider some vitamins/amino acids

Johngreen,

If you have good sex when it’s 1 or 2 goes a week and then it tails off if you are going 5 times a week then you are overdoing it and your body simply wants a rest.

You may find you could do with some vitamins, or perhaps something like L-arginine, or other amino acids, as it may simply be that you are draiing your body of the essential supplements when you work out more often and you will have to replace them.

Because you’re trying to make a baby sex has become work at this point. If the wife is into porn maybe you could watch a movie together or something. I love sex but I admit I don’t want it every day if it’s going to be with the same women. I went through this shit with my ex when she wanted a baby and she got so crazy about it she screwed up her cycles. I finally told her enough is enough and I told we need a break and sure enough her periods became normal again and when she wasn’t expecting it I filled full of cum because by that time I was an expert on her cycle and knew when she was ovulating we were pregnant on the first try.

Petitfan thanks a lot for your advice, I will follow it. Cheers

An other question: is it normal for pre-cum to come out even when in no erection?

JG,

When my wife and I were trying to conceive, our physician told us that sex every other day is actually more effective than sex every day. It has something to do with sperm count rising if you wait awhile.

Of course, sex every other day also helps you to build up an appetite!

One factor that hasn’t been mentioned is how you actually feel about having a child. Is this your first? I remember being very anxious about becoming a parent for the first time. There was a lot of excitement, but also worry and concern about how life was going to change forever.

Your inability to be a sex machine on demand may in part be that you have conflicted feelings about the enormous changes that you are about to bring upon yourself. The body has a way of being honest in a way the mind can’t always be.

Traver:

I’m afraid I’m not an expert on pre-cum issues as I don’t have flaccid ejections’ of it. Some guys have mentioned it though.

I have it a few seconds before I cum, which looks like I am cumming.Then the main thing happens. Which gives the appearance of a seond cumming.

Try a search on pre-cum. There have been some discussions on the point, which may help. You might even try an internet search but I can’t say what is available there.

Good luck.

Petit

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