Why Can't I Cum?

Hi guys long time no post, here’s my problem i’ve been seeing this girl for just over a month now and were in that phase of everytime were together we have sex and its great and everything but in the say 30 times we have had sex i have probably cum 4 times. The sex is good and she gets off because shes a squirter and it goes everywhere so i guess im looking for any tips or methods that would help me reach the stage off cumming, any help would be so appreciated.

Cheers

You’ll have to give more info for anyone to have some suggestions. PE routine, porn addiction, how often you masturbate, can you bring yourself to orgasm?; to name a few. Try to be as specific as you can.

Rubber Soul, what about medications? Some can make it near impossible to finish.

Hi to answer some of your questions my PE routine i dont thinks the problem as i have kinda come off the boil with it in the past couple of months, i do watch porn so maybe that could be it and i did mastubate everyday nearly and i can cum when i do have a wank. About the medication i dont take anything or do any other drugs so i hope that helped. Also i dont know it could be that im nervous because i have only slept with 1 other women before her.

Sounds like you may have desensitized yourself from watching porn and masturbating daily. Limiting your ejaculations and cutting out porn may improve your situation over time.

I heard a rumor that complying with the Forum Guidelines will help with that. You know, like “I” instead of “i”, “don’t” instead of “dont”, “I’m” instead of “im”.

And even if it doesn’t help, it will make your posts look better and be more understandable, and will keep moderators off your back.

Have you a foreskin?

Yes I do have a foreskin.

Is your usual masturbation technique fairly heavy handed, or with quicker strokes than you would use having sex?

If you are used to cumming from a certain type of stimulation, and it is quite different to the stimulation of having sex, that may be the problem.

If so, change your masturbation style so it is similar in speed and sensation to sex.

Try using a fleshlight to masturbate, and masturbate less. If you get regular sex try and save yourself til then. I had this same problem, but I come almost everytime with my girl now.

I would like to get more sensitive again and be able to come from blow jobs.