18 years old and don't stay fully hard for long inside of her. Help

Hey I just started having sex a month ago and I can get hard from foreplay with my girl, and if that doesn’t work she can blow me into a near maximum erection, but after having sex for a couple minutes, my erection usually goes to about 80%, and occasionally 10 or 20% below that. I can achieve an almost full erection again by going really fast, or by her jerking me off a bit, but this prolongs me towards PONR, and I can already only last like 7-15 minutes as it is. I find her very attractive, love her, and she plays her part well during sex so I don’t see what my problem is. Especially when switching positions I often lose it to the point where I can’t insert without her jerking me first. I’ve been doing 50-70 kegels after every PE workout for the past 3 weeks, and most people don’t even do kegels so I thought I would be fine with this added to it. What can I do to solve this problem? Should I be doing more kegels per set, and multiple sets? If I should be doing multiple sets, must they all be at the same time or can they be spaced out? Will a strong kegel workout make that much of a difference? Please give me and instructions to cure my low sex stamina, and problem of not being fully hard throughout sex.

Cut your kegels down to every other day. You may be fatigued. Also, it could be nerves. A lot of times we want it to get hard and then in trying to get it hard we get nervous and it won’t get hard, so we get more nervous, and it’s a vicious cycle.

You’re new to this (sex). In my experience and from others, earliest sex often doesn’t pan out like we think it will from the porn we see and what we are told by our braggart friends. But later, as we learn our partners’ moves and how to shift with those moves, things turn out much better.

7-15 min is actually longer than average. I read from some reliable source years ago that most men cum near about 40 strokes. How long does that take?

Kegels: fine to do, they help some. A lot of people here put many of their hopes in them, however they are not a perfect fix for all of us. Keep them up during your PE, but don’t expect miracles from them. :)

40 strokes? Sounds a bit too little to make a girl cum IMHO

^ Don’t studies also say that most women don’t cum from intercourse? ;)

Is it possible that you watch too much porn?

If you’re watching a lot of porn you may have trouble getting aroused for the real deal because you are desensitized.

Invite her hot friend in bed with you and your girlfriend. This will keep you hard.

Hot friend, I like the way you think! :)

After you blow, go down on your girl a bit, play with her, you will get wood back quickly and keep her happy too.

I had the same problem I was really worried but in a couple of months I was fine again! Don’t worry.

Cut down on the porn!!!

Since your 18, I can pretty damn well assume your watching lots of porn, and have watched lots of it, even if your getting laid. Sometimes we train ourselves, unintentionally, to get off on porn by watching it so much, so when it comes to the real deal and there is a NAKED WOMAN IN FRONT OF YOU, you find yourself in an unfamiliar situation, a situation that your dick hasn’t become hard from too many times before.

I have a weird way of wording things, hope that made sense. ;)

I think the real problem lies in expectations. If you watch too much porn and your lady isn’t willing to do ass-to-mouth and swallow your load then you can’t keep it up.

Keep in mind that average time of penetration when having sex lasts about 3 minutes.

Try to relax and not think about keeping it hard, thinking about it will only have a bad effect.

Watch less porn if you, I know you watch it, everyone does.

Don’t jerk off, save it to the sex.

Are you doing kegels when having sex not to come? If you are, do less of that.

Maybe you keep going till you are really close to come and then slow down? Then maybe you get to close to coming and the erection goes down.

When switching positions maybe you get nervous of loosing erection and so you do. Don’t think about it, keep touching and feel her while you switch position, it makes it easier to keep it hard. Think of putting it inside her again.

If you are new to PE remember not to over do it. The newbie routine are to much for some. Don’t over do it with kegels either.

Some people think of other stuff during sex not to come, they might think of football. Are you doing that? Stop that.

Most men worry to much about sex, it takes two to fuck so it’s not all up to you.

Just relax and keep fucking your girl. No reason to worry. Don’t think of your cock, just enjoy the sex. It will work out just fine.

Sounds like it could be performance anxiety. If you go soft between positions revert back to foreplay for a bit. When you shift your focus to stimulating her with your hands and mouth your dick will most likely get jealous and want back in on the action ;)

Thanks, lots of good advice. I had sex today without reading the replies, and we did a lot more foreplay than usual. She got on top of me when I didn’t even think we were gonna have sex and teased me for like 10 minutes, and then sucked me off for another 5. For once I was at my maximum erection when I was going in. She was on top the whole time, I fucked her, then she rode me for much longer than usual, and despite feeling the urge to cum when I was fucking her, I was able to stay hard and enjoy her riding me for a good 5 minutes without busting. Then I fucked her as hard and fast as I could for 2 minutes, and she said it was the best sex orgasm she’s ever had, and she’s had sex with 6 guys. I did a bunch of kegels last night, maybe that was it, but I think it was more how horny she made me with such prolonged foreplay, and the surprise of having sex when she had earlier said she didn’t want to today. I felt so good though, we finished at the same time and hearing her moaning in my ear as I came was fantastic, put me in the best mood sex has ever done.

A question about the porn, I had stopped porn completely when I got my girlfriend a couple months ago because I couldn’t get hard even if she tried to blow me. After a week I came in her mouth for the first time and it was really good. However I recently discovered that edging a couple times a week after PE can help gains come, so I’ve been trying to do this, but not finishing, just doing it for 30 minutes and stopping leaving myself really horny. To truly edge nicely I need porn, so by watching it twice a week but not finishing, am I going to slowly desensitize myself again? I want a bigger penis, but more than anything I want to be able to enjoy my girlfriend as much as I can and not let silly internet fantasies get in the way of enjoying my sex life with her, because she really gets into it talking dirty and moaning a lot, I really am so grateful to have such a crazy girl in bed.

Congratulations Ray. You seem to be on the right path bro!