A "What's the point" moment

Have you ever experienced a moment in your PE career when you just thought “what’s the point in doing all of this”? Let me explain. When my wife and I were first dating, the subject of size came up and she admitted that I was one of the “smaller” guys she had been with (I was 5.75” at the time). It also came out in later conversations that the guy she dumped to be with me had the biggest one she had ever seen. Needless to say, this gave me a bit of a complex about my size. Don’t get me wrong, my wife always seemed to be genuinely uninterested in size and we’ve always had a decent sex life. Fast forward 18 years. I now have and extra inch and a half from my original size and she has never noticed. Anatomically we are probably not the greatest match. I was on the low side of average and she has a fairly large vagina (having two kid by natural child birth has done nothing to improve that situation either). We are fairly uninhibited in the bedroom and incorporate several toys into our play, one of which is a silicone sleeve extender. When I put this thing on, I’d say I measure in at around 9X7” and she can take it to the hilt.. Easily. She doesn’t ask me to use it very often, but she always seems to really enjoy it when I do. My point is: no amount of PE will ever get me into the range of this toy or her past “hung” boyfriend. I primarily do PE for myself and it is a self confidence booster. But, It’s frustrating to know that the woman that I will (hopefully) be sleeping with the rest of my life will never notice the the gains I’ve made or that it does not seem to give her any extra pleasure.

Grif

I’m at that point now.
I’m single, mid 50’s, no GF, no prospect of a GF, don’t date, have little desire to date or pursue a relationship.
I’m still interested in women sexually, but don’t care to put in the time and effort to chase them.
So what do I need a big dick for, or even a dick at all, for that matter?

I’m tired of doing the routines and using my time with little to show for it.
But, I hate even more the idea of giving up after 12 years of effort and some small, but noticeable gains.
I figure if I can still get it up and have even a remote chance of meeting a woman, I might as well try to be the best I can.
I just consider it a part of my overall body maintenance that includes gym workouts and a good diet, and that is wearing me thin too.

I don’t want to shrink back to my original size, but someday I will have to throw in the towel.
At some point we all have to realize it just doesn’t matter anymore.

For both of you I would say use an extender as much as possible (get a comfortable one) and pump.

Why? Because both of these are hands free and do not use up any of your time. I only clamp and pump now, and clamping is usually during sex. I do not agree with dedicating hours and hours to this each day for months on end unless you are gaining HEAVY. Girth matters ore anyway especially if you’re already 6+ inches.

Thanks. I use both extender and pump, and multi-task most of the time. I use an extender while reading, at the computer, and watching tv.
Pump while reading, preparing meals, eating, computer. It’s just getting old. If I was seeing regular gains I would remain enthusiastic.

Do you still jelq?

And how long have you been at it, and how long have the gains been stagnant?

I’ve been pumping since 1998. Hanging and jelq since 2003, but not too regular.

I jelq between pump sets, and do erect dry jelqs in bed when I wake up sometimes.

Gains seem to have stopped for many years. Maybe I’m getting some length lately since I’m pumping farther in the tube by about a 1/4” or so.

I think over the years it is turning to be like a hobby:) So why not to carry on with it:) LOL

Come on guys, that’s fucking depressing.

Getting a bigger dick is awesome.

Don’t turn you back on yourself!

The PE thing is part of my self motivation package, which also includes soccer, eating properly, working out, sarcasm, spouting bullshit and walking tall.

Oh yeah and get some niacin in your diet. And start up with a small amount and work up.

Niacin ? , why ?? If I was going to add anything to my diet, it might be zinc and L-liasin ,, that’s supposed to be the “cum cocktail” ;-)

Niacin is good for seasonal adjusted behaviour.

Well besides the part that I’m not getting any gains, I wonder it during every jelq.

I kinda know what you guys mean ,, I know, deep down, that the extra size I would need for my gf to notice is NOT going to happen at my age,, she’s had a child 6 years ago, and I’m pretty sure she can handel much larger than me.

I’m not saying she is loose, but I can tell there is plenty of stretch left.She doesn’t have a G-spot , so that sucks, but such is life.

I think I PE so that I can be the best that I can be, and I will always keep that in my head !!

For now the best that I can be is 7.75”BPEL,5.75”EBG and 5.5 EG all the way to the tip.

Yipppeeee

I’m with ya. I started about a year ago at around 5 3/4”. Unfortunately I didn’t take good measurements before I started . I had great newbie gains and was thinking that this was going to change my life. I reached almost 6 1/2” with 5 1/2” girth but other than an occasional “you feel really hard” I don’t think my wife has noticed. Maybe she looked at it kind of funny a few times early on in the newbie gains period. The first time we screwed I knew she was on the looser side of the women I had been with. That being said, she always wants me inside of her because she says she comes the best that way. I figure if I was too small for her she would want more oral or something. Anyway, gains have seemed to plateau and I don’t think it would even be possible with my schedule to put more into it than I do (about 200 jelqs 3-4 times a week). I am now also getting some discoloration to the skin in places (when I jelq it get very red like it is bruised but after a half hour or so it goes back to brown).