An introduction

Lol, I did wonder about that. No gender specific terms for the SO in the entire post. Guys, “size queen” is not gender specific.

Kinter, some people have very specific physical “packages” that they are attracted to: Tall/short, slender/buff, huge tool, hairy or not, whatever. For some people it just won’t work unless you fall into a very specific “type.” This doesn’t make them bad people but it can set you up for heart break if you love them and don’t fit there very specific “type.”

By all means, get a bigger dick. The exercises and methods you will find here really do work. But get a bigger dick for you, not for anybody else. Also keep in mind that not being hung like a horse is only a turn off to size queens. A poor self image and lack of self confidence/esteem is a turn off to just about any romantic partner worth having. Now as you might expect plenty of the guys that find this place have been hurt or traumatized about penis issues; we have lots of guys that come here with self confidence/esteem problems. Because of that we have one hell of a lot of threads on the topic. If you are willing to look at your self honestly and work on changing this site can do a lot more than just help you get a bigger unit.

Thanks everyone for the great comments and the advice.

Jumbodog: I know what you mean, I try to find the positive things in everything I do.

Jediknight: It really is harder to let go.. I think it might be because you want to prove you’re better or somthing strange. I took control of the relationship after prom, and was quite military about the whole thing.

HalfRusski: I often think that we’re still together because it was the first attention I’ve ever gotten but now things are better 1 year and 2 months of no cheating.

Sparkyx: yes I’m finally taking control of my life and becoming my own person. This post was a step I needed to take (in my opinion)
So I could let go of my “story” and just move past the whole thing.

Joesmith969:I was way to serious in the beginning, and I know that now (better late than never I suppose) and I think once I get through this awkward phase of growing I’ll feel alot better, might even be hormones. Woo for Vancouver!

Gprent:I eat like a horse I’m usually always eating but I’m usually always moving around or doing somthing, I just can’t seem to gain weight. I’m also highly allergic to milk, including whey so I can’t buy the powder to build any sort of mass.

Sunshinekid:I have learned the secrets of porn thanks to thunders. I’ve really wanted to get involved with Thunders more but I didn’t really know how to do it. I know people aren’t all bad I just think that it’s probably FAR easier to be a carless self centered slob. I wish I could care less about what I do and how it effects the people around me.

Westla90069: heh :D thank you for the welcome, I really didn’t want to say anything because I felt it would help whoever was reading relate to themselves easier. Yes he’s a man.

All my posts are a mile and a half long sorry about that.

Hey Kinter,

I read your post and somewhat recognized myself when I was 19. I was also very skinny while being tall (130 pounds at 6”2) and I had a baby face with almost no whisker at all. Moreover, I had a small ego, I didn’t know how to get any girls and I thought my dick was too short at 6 inches. Before I would actually get down with a girl, I would ask her questions like “Does size matter to you?” or even worse “Do you think I am attractive?”. I was so insecure that I hated everything about myself and I looked up to all those successful handsome guys and wished I was one of them.

You see - I had all these problems and they almost destroyed me.

BUT THIS IS THE POINT: I was also able to analyze my situation and work on an exit strategy, because I considered my self as an intelligent human being (and I think you are as well, I can tell from your style of writing). Being intelligent is a gift which is more worth than most other things! Anyways, I was willing to do anything to change my life. I just knew I did not want to live like that for the rest of my life.

Well, now I am 28, so ten years have passed, so let me recapitulate what I did:

First, when I noticed how skinny I was I started going to the gym to lift weights. Oh man, did I suck at it. I was so weak I couldn’t even lift 50 lbs in the beginning. Other guys would laugh at me. But I changed the gym and went to a place where only power lifters trained. They ignored me, but one of the trainers there helped me a lot, he told me what and when to eat, he told me not to do drugs, he showed me the right techniques like bench presses, squats, dead lifts and so on. So I practiced with a buddy and when I was 22 I weighed 200 lbs! This is no joke. It wasn’t all pure muscle, but I was not skinny anymore, as a matter of fact, some people could not recognize me anymore. So what is the conclusion - you can change your body! But you will have to eat regularly good food (I.e. Start cooking yourself) and you will have to practice three times a week *consistently* . But first - make sure to get a good trainer. And the beard and all the rest will come sooner or later. Once you have got a beard, you will think it sucks, cause you have got to shave everyday :-)

Second, my dick problem. I didn’t know about PE back then of course. I think I heard about it for the first time 5 years ago. I tried some of it, I got a stretcher, but I thought it was all crap and was not consistent at it. So I gave it up. Well, about two years ago, I started with PE again. This time I decided to be consistent. I have increased my length be two inches (doing mainly jelqs) and my girth by approx. 0.5 inches. The conclusion: PE really works. And believe me: it’s great to have a 8x5.5 big dick, so just don’t give up to soon. But also don’t rush into it. Give it time, take things slow.. You wrote you have already grown an inch. That’s awesome, since that means you have got everyhting (mentally) to grow even more.

Third, my ego problem. You know - I had a very small ego. I didn’t think I was manly enough and shit like that. So I picked out a martial art, because true martial arts are not that much about fighting opponents but fighting your inner fears. And I practiced, and practiced.. And keep on practicing today and I will be practicing in the future as well. If something happened today in a bar (like a fight with a drunk) I could most probably defend myself, knock the bastard out, break his jaw, stuff like that.. But I wouldn’t.. I just wouldn’t give a shit, I would leave the bar and think to myself “what a pathetic idiot”. You have to learn to “stand above” things like that.

Fourth, intellectual potential. If you have the possibility and the ability to get a good post-high school education at college or university, then do it. Even if this means studying, studying, studying, working in labs, etc.. It will pay off some day!! And some day it will make you feel very self-confident.

So, these are all the hints I can give you. And please forgive me: it’s easy to give someone advice. I am not perfect by any means and there are still many things I am dealing with. As a matter of fact, I even feel a little bad for giving you all this advice, but if it helps you at least a little bit, I would be happy.

Wow, thank you so much! I just need to find the motivation to get things moving and start making my life more how I’d like it to be. I really enjoy when people offer their experiences and advice. I’m open to change myself physically and emotionally to be a better person overall. So please be honest with me, it’s the only way to learn things especially if I don’t seem aware that there is problems.

I really look forward to being a frequent poster.

A bitch is still a bitch, no matter the sex.

Kinter, you are your own judge. Just remember you only get one life, make it as happy as you can. I hope it works out for you.

BTW, you will notice that we have a lot of gay members, I don’t think many people here care too much.

I know, but being from a small town I just am a bit paranoid.

I was in Vancouver about a year ago. I didn’t think it was small. :)

Here, you are welcome and free to discuss your situation without concern of harassment.

So…

the cheating was a year and a half ago and things are better now? Has he noticed your gains? Does he still complain about your body? It’s certainly understandable that you may be reluctant to end the relationship because he was your first (if I’m reading this correctly), but in the end your happiness will depend on what you do, not how others act. If you still aren’t happy, it may be time to move on.

No no I recently moved to Vancouver from a small town a town of fishermen and loggers. Vancouver is huge.. Quite intimidating.

(Sorry I had to post a new reply I took too long editing my last one)
Things are better now and he hasn’t really noted them and he doesn’t complain about my body anymore. Yes he was my first and he has changed alot I asked him if he liked how he was and he said no so I offered to help him learn how to change. I’ve talked to him alot about if I’m unhappy I’ll tell him and if he’s unhappy he’ll tell me and we’ll work things out as much as we can and if things just won’t work then we’ll say goodbye and remain friends, if that’s even possible.

But sometimes you just want to smack them upside the head call them an idiot and leave. Nothing really gets solved but it’d probably feel pretty nice. (: