Do I need PE for my situation?

Being somewhere in the middle.. Above average, but not what I’d call big really, I’ve actually been told both.

The majority of partners I’ve had over the years haven’t commented about my size one way or another, but I have had more than a few who have. Most of those comments were generally positive, and in reference to my girth, but a few essentially said it was fun to have something thicker than they were used to, but wouldn’t want it every night. Hearing those things when I was young wasn’t great for my confidence, and didn’t make me feel very good about myself.

On the other hand, I’ve had one girl make it clear flat out that she was disappointed in my size, as well as another who alluded to it when she wasn’t aware I could overhear her. I won’t deny that it’s a horrible feeling. It’s the sort of thing that lurks in the back of your mind for a long time.

The thing that helped me most through both of those scenarios was just to form new relationships, experience more things, and discover all the ways I could to please each girl I was with.

My point with all of it is that yeah, there are absolutely women out there who are really focused on size. There are also going to be girls out there who would find greater pleasure if you were a bit smaller. But for every one who worries about your size one way or the other, you’ll meet ten who just want a guy who’s interested in being a good lover. Your desire and willingness to discover what brings her the most pleasure is going to be what makes her go crazy for you, and that will boost your confidence more than anything. It did for me, even at my lowest point.

It’s not the first time I’ve seen that advice, which means it must be good advice.

I just need to cement my goals outside of women, relationships and sex, like career and personal maintenance and PE. I believe I will become a more secure person, and in turn, a better lover for someone I connect very well with, as I will not compromise my integrity of character.

I couldn’t disagree with you more. You’re fine as you are, go get laid.