Originally Posted by Jay Flash
So you’d prefer it if I had a positive and believing attitude? Like I did in previous months doing this? Well that positivity really got me far didn’t it? I tell you what, there is nothing I hate more than having hope and belief in something like people told me to have, and have things not work out. Tons of times in the past I’ve done stuff with all the belief in the world and they didn’t work out in the end, and this PE is now one of them. Again, heh, I guess it’s just a ‘just me’ thing, isn’t it? Works for everyone except me just ‘because’.Again I’ve had absolute ZERO sign of any EQ improvement or PI that has lead me to believe that I’m on track. I’ve been at this getting onto 6 months now. And with no sign that any of it is working, no matter what intensity or time increase I put in, well of course I would have lost hope by now.
So me having a recent ‘ridiculous negative attitude’ has at the end of the day lead me to the same place that a ‘positive attitude’ would get me to - failure.
As for the other guys who have put in time to get gains and haven’t but still have a positive attitude, well maybe they’re in denial and don’t have a realistic outlook. Maybe it just don’t work for them and that is that and they should just stop lying to themselves with ‘belief’. Or maybe they’ve had more PI and EQ than me by the same time that I’ve been at it and are actually getting somewhere.
Fuck that crap that ‘belief’ and internal positive attitude will change things physically for us. Mental strength doesn’t do that or perform physical miracles. Especially if the more direct physical treatment to bring about such changes doesn’t.
You guys need to learn about the word ‘hope’. A lot of the time it’s a bad word, as it leads people trying for things that just won’t happen. ‘False hope’ is more the way we should define the so called word of Hope.
I was off and on for 20 years. I never gained. If I did it was an amount I couldn’t measure. However, I was horribly inconsistent. I have done some version of the newbie routine many times, for maybe 3 months at a time, and had nothing to show for it. I am also the type that if I don’t see results, I lose hope and stop being consistent. However, I kept coming back to PE over the years. Just something about it told me that all these people couldn’t be lying. Plus this jelqing, milking, stretching and pumping is the same stuff I have been reading about for 20+ years.
When my life got turned upside down and my penis size actually became an issue for me, everything changed. This was no longer about hope. This was about putting in the effort from a dark, angry place. I had no more time for excuses. As long as I use this darkness to motivate myself I keep putting in the effort and I grow.
Now the problem I have is, that when my life gets content, then I get lazy. I have seen awesome results and it is easy to get complacent.
The thing about belief and positive effort is it helps someone in being consistent. It helps them being focused during the actual time that they put in. If someone doesn’t think that they are going to gain, can they really be consistent. Are they really going to put in that effort day in and day out. Are they really going to get this done when they are having a down day.
I can completely relate to this despair. I have struggled with my weight and fitness for a third of my life. I used to be in really good shape. I can lose weight and get in better shape for 3 months to half a year but I never get close to my final goals. There is mountains of proof that people can lose weight and get fit. However, deep inside of me is this feeling that maybe I can’t do it. Not that it is physically impossible. That it just isn’t possible for me.
Now when I hang, even when it is inconsistent, there is no doubt in my mind that I will gain. Having seen results after all these years it has changed something inside of me. I can’t explain it. I might get lazy and inconsistent, but I know that all I have to do is ratchet up the weight or sets to get results.
Originally Posted by Jay Flash
Tons of times in the past I’ve done stuff with all the belief in the world and they didn’t work out in the end, and this PE is now one of them.
This quote tells me everything. I know where you are coming from. However, you are self sabotaging and you might not even realize it.
I know belief and internal positive attitude might seem stupid. But if you truly have it, then it makes a difference. I can’t give it to you. Maybe you can get it from reading all the progress reports but you might not.
This is something internal to you.
I personally believe that PE can work for everyone. However, I also know that it won’t work for everyone. This is not a contradiction. Most people will not put in the effort, the time, the consistency to do it. It is why we are all not in perfect shape, not rich, not extremely educated, and whatever else people want.
I suffer from this complacency. For some people like me, the only thing that can change it is a traumatic shock to your life. Something that so kicks your old life’s ass, that you feel that you have no choice.
I believe that if someone hangs 50 pounds from their penis, 20 hours a week, and adapts to what their body is telling them, they will gain. However, how many people are really going to put in that effort? How many people are going to wake up early, stay up late, stop making excuses, to get that done? Now most people will never need to get to that weight or time. The only reason I mention that weight and time per week is to show how so many people are not even close to the upper edge of PE. Yes some people gain from very low effort but they are the exception.
When someone truly wants it with every fiber of their being they can gain. Then it is about trying to restrain them enough so they don’t hurt themselves.
Now as a disclaimer, I am not someone who believes in all the negative PI stuff. My penis turtles after most hanging sessions and I don’t see a problem with that. I am totally from the more is more camp. However, I am not saying push to recklessness in the effort to gain. You can be smart but still ride the edge.