Does PE cause problems with sex or anal or BJs as your lengthgirth increases?

Thanks for the tip, but the problem is not discomfort. It’s lack of interest and perhaps worse, incompatibility.

I even bought a book on improving my bedroom skills and I thought that we had turned the corner when she had multiple G spot contractions in a row during one session. She’s into some somewhat kinky stuff and that would be okay, but she insists on giving the orders and that really turns me off. When I didn’t go along with being bossed around, that was the end if it pretty much. You would think that cuming would be enough without the other bullshit. Frankly, I don’t get it.

Would you be open to trying what she wants in the bedroom (giving her control), at least part of the time, if it meant having more sex?

The answer to being to big, depends on the woman. My mseg is 6 inches, wife says I am to thick for blow jobs. Plus it takes lots of lube to get in her pussy.

After two months, I am thinking about it.

Giving up autinomy really hampers the experience. I am not talking being dominant here. I am talking autonomous or equality.

I don’t mind being an equal but I dislike being, for lack of a better word a “sex servant” (slave is a little strong as she does mot expect me to lick her feet). and so far, I have refused.

If this is a kink type power exchange, it doesn’t mean you’re giving up autonomy at all. It’s just indulging her fantasy/desire. And in my book, that’s something that brings people together.

I certainly would feel very good if my wife said: hey babe, I’m not particularly into this thing you told me you find really hot, but I’m down to try it because your pleasure and sexual satisfaction is important to me.

And I would feel like reciprocating. Not saying your wife would as well, but I think she’d be a lot more open to fucking your way some of the time if you give her what she craves some of the time.

Edited to add:
If she is into Power exchange and BDSM, if you take initiative and start researching it, and talking to her about it, finding out exactly what aspects of it she wants to explore, and negotiate with her what you’re comfortable with exploring in that world, I bet she’d feel a lot more intimacy towards you compared to now where you basically have shut her down.

I’ll have to ply her with some alcohol. That usually helps. I know that she watches the porn channel on the sly but she has her own bedroom so I don’t know when she’s receptive. Most of the shows she watches are reality shows and I am not into that. I used to watch The Apprentice but that was the only one that I cared about. We have totally different tastes in TV and so she won’t even watch a movie with me. She hates action movies and Westerns. I can watch a chick flick if it’s a good one but she is so into her reality shit that it’s not much use.

Yes, our nights revolve around TV programming , especially now that we are pandemic shut ins.

Also it doesn’t help that she’s well past menopause and not young for her age at all as opposed to myself-a 30 year old trapped in an older model meat wrap.

If it does change your girlfriend/boyfriend for a wider and deeper one.

Problem solved.