Avocet8,
I’ve never been a person who believes in a “one size fits all” theory for just about anything. (Well, we all have to breath, etc.) More importantly, given your health experience, I would never challenge the decision you’ve made for yourself. However, the type of ejaculation control I’m talking about is not the “long-term theory” you’ve suggested is medically dangerous. I know there are some who say that they have stopped ejaculating completely; they have frequent sex, but they no longer ejaculate at all. Again, to each their own. But I know that I could never practice something like that, and I would be very concerned about the potential health risks involved.
What I’m discussing is more like the “short time—a day or two or three” you mention. Put simply, it is not necessary to ejaculate every time you have sex (or masturbate), and, furthermore, there are some very nice advantages to not doing so. I’ll get to those advantages in a moment. In practice, there is no formula that can be followed. It’s a matter of getting to know one’s body, and it depends on the frequency of one’s sexual activity. But let’s say you have sex once a day. Then, whereas an 18 year old man may “need” to get off every day, or very nearly every day, an older man (say, 30+) may not. Again, depending on relevant factors, one might only ejaculate on Wednesdays and Sundays (the latter being a day of rest!). Or, if you are having sex many times in one day, you may only blow your load after the last sexual encounter that day—a kind of grand finale.
So what are the advantages of this kind of ejaculation control? There are at least the following three. First, as I mentioned, it increases your energy. I don’t mean that it merely prevents you from experiencing the short dip in energy we all undergo after ejaculating. It’s more radical than that. Yes, the drop in energy experienced after ejaculating is usually very short lived, and it is often well deserved and pleasant and good. But when I have sex (for some length of time) and don’t ejaculate, I almost always feel supercharged. It’s a very good and clean energy, and it is a higher level of energy than is typical for me. (I should add, I exercise regularly and eat well and am in very good shape, especially for someone my age.) By “clean” energy I mean that it is without the negative effects some experience from, say, caffeine. I’m very caffeine sensitive, and if I drink a cup of coffee I usually feel like shit. The kind of energy I’m talking about is nothing like this. This energy stays with me the whole day. Some have suggested that this actually raises the testosterone level. And all I can say is I “feel” like my testosterone level is up. For example, I’m much more productive in the gym. Now people pay good money taking all sorts of supplements and undergoing all sorts of hormone therapies, which, I do not doubt, are often useful and worth the expense. But if you can get at least a good part of this effect simply from holding back that “happy ending,” and if it doesn’t cost anything—then, why not?
As the Chinese master Lieu King instructs, the man should “penetrate [the woman] when the energy is weak and withdraw when it is steady and strong.” And, “He who enters strong and withdraws weak will perish even when he has had the best destiny.”
For me, a second and maybe a third day of sex without ejaculating are also good. But after that, I find that the increased energy starts to become excessive (or “unclean”). I become very aggressive and irritable. (Curiously, both indicative of raised testosterone levels.) This is when I know that I need to blow.