Erection Achievement Question

I’m almost 50 years old, and after wasting most of my life, I’m finally going to delve into PE. I’ve familiarized myself with the Newbie Routine, but have some concerns.

In order to jelq efficiently and correctly, one must attain an erection level of around 80%. Here’s the kicker: when I get a nocturnal erection, it is rock hard. At times, I have trouble reaching that level during sex with my wife, and often start softening up somewhat before I’m done. The big problem is that I have trouble achieving an erection during solo stimulation. I can thrash around on it all I want in the shower, and might get a semi-erection for my efforts.

How am I supposed to jelq in this situation? I’m assuming that it is a mental block, since I could “cut diamonds” right after REM sleep. Thanks!

Tell us a bit more about your diet, overall health and stress levels at work.

Diet: Lots of microwave dinners — fast food no more than once a week. I seldom drink soda.

Health: 5’-10” or 5’-11” and 170#. I haven’t required a trip to the doctor since 1994, and at that time was diagnosed with post-streptococcal glomerulonephritis. I never went back, nor have I ever received treatment for it. Blood pressure is usually around 120/80 when I check it at Wal-Mart. No sugar or cholesterol problems that I am aware of. I try for 8 hours sleep on weekdays and 10 hours on weekends.

Stress: I’m not too stressed in a working environment. My wife does not work and is now uninsured, so I do get some stress when she incurs bills, but I don’t dwell on it continuously or anything.

Like I said, erection quality is great, as long as I’m unaware. If I lie in bed with my eyes closed in a half-sleep state, I can maintain it for a half hour or so. If I open my eyes and start focusing on my surroundings, or get out of bed, it diminishes pretty quickly.

It does sound like it’s a mental block. Are you intimate often and feel like you’re giving and receiving pleasure? I’m wondering if there’s performance anxiety that extends to even when it’s self pleasure.

I have a mental block. My EQ sucks when any measuring device is near. I can only measure at about 80%. It’s ok for length, maybe even favorable, but I can never get a 100% girth reading. Never.

When I’m with my wife, the diamond cutter is at full strength, though.

This is the reason why I haven’t posted my own PE log thread.

I’ve been having the same thing. I’ve actually been thinking about it a lot since I joined. I’m 38 and get 80% to 90% erections during sex and anywhere from 60-80% morning wood. I rarely get erect in any other circumstance. I thought until recently that this was normal aging but all the sudden I’m realizing this isn’t normal.

Not sure where to go from here and I’m semi freaking out. The only reason I realized this was trying to get hard for dry jelqing and I can’t do it. I never really thought about it as it performed when needed in the bedroom.

You can jelq from 40-80%, doesnt have to be right at 80%. Try it at a lower level and see if it builds. You can do light kegels as you go to get better engorged.

When I was in high school, if someone put a XXX tape in, I was putting a pillow over my crotch to hide my erection. It would get painfully hard at the drop of a hat. Nowadays, pornography doesn’t even make it rock hard.

I’ve been married over 20 years, and at first my wife wanted sex all the time. I’m ashamed to admit now that I sometimes turned her down. Boy, if I could go back now! 15 years ago she had breast cancer and a hysterectomy. Due to the type of breast cancer, she cannot take hormones. That literally killed her sex drive.

What used to be spontaneous sex is now scheduled, IE “I’ll do something with you Sunday.” We never just up and decide to have sex at the spur of the moment. The last time we had sex was five weeks ago, and I went limp. I’ll give her credit, she wanted sex badly that day after foreplay, and did everything in her power to try to regain that erection. No dice. That’s what got me to Googling around about penis pumps, which brought me to Thunder’s Place. I was hopeful that I could pump it up and use a cock ring to maintain a hard erection during sex. We have slept separately since her cancer 15 years ago.

I’ve been looking at the suggested MetalVacII pumps, and see that they come in both tapered and rimmed straightwall. Which should I purchase? As for cylinder size, I am unsure as well. My BEG is 5.5” (1.75” diameter), with MSEG is 5”. BPEL is 5.5”. I guess I should have chosen “SquareDick” for a screen name (5.5 X 5.5). Ha! Ha!

Take a look at pumptoys.com. Many have overcome their ED issues with a sensible routine and pumping.

Have you tried any meds?

Streches always give me the hardest erections.

No, sir, as I haven’t even seen a doctor in 22 years.

I recommend you jelqs with an erection level between 40 and 70%. When stretching, grab your shaft about one inch below the glans and do not pull too hard, just enough to to feel a slight stretch. Let your PIs be your guide as to how hard to peruse your routine.

I have ED and rarely can achieve anything above a slight semi. However, as long as I can feel blood being pushed up my shaft, I have a productive session.

It’s time to see a doctor my friend. It’s just good to have them do a blood panel and get a bill of clean health.