Fellatio and girth concerns

Greetings all,

As a relative noob to PE, I’m learning a lot here!

I’m hoping to gain some additional length, (perhaps and inch over time) but wouldn’t mind a sensible girth gain to keep things properly proportioned. My concern is whether or not this could make fellatio too difficult for my wife.

I’m currently at 1.67” EG (5-1-4” circumference) at 6-3/4” BPEL. Technically, I don’t “need” girth, as my wife is already struggling to perform fellatio, but I attribute this to her being “new” at it, as she has only recently become comfortable trying.

Has anyone else gained adequate girth to make fellatio too difficult for your partner?

Cheers,

Horseman1978

I don’t do any girth work but I think my girth is naturally on the above average side. That still isn’t thick enough to cause any issues for blowjobs. I would say you would start having issues at 6” girth, major issues at 6.5” and at 7” blowjobs won’t even be possible without teething.

May the gains be with you!

5 1/4” girth (girth is always measured as circumference) will already cause some people to struggle. The higher you go the more people who will struggle. It’s an individual thing for the fellator though: some will have a small mouth, some will have a tight jaw (which can be remedied). Capacities generally vary and those people who can take in the entire length also varies but that is trainable as well.

You already have above average length and girth. Any PE you do will reduce the chance of some things and increase the pleasure of others. If you are mostly interested in PIV, PE away. If your interests are more anal or oral, think carefully as you proceed.

By the way, Georgia still appears to have sodomy laws on the books making fellatio or anal sex illegal* . That can add an extra layer to the process if you are trying to encourage her.

Thanks,

Her hesitance is rooted in the idea that penises are dirty and that blowjobs are only done in porn.

As we learn to communicate better in our relationship, we have talked about it enough that she has made concerted efforts to work thru her hangups; it’s a slow process, but I am patient and appreciate her effort. *I AM curious about theses “remedies” you mention for tight jaws!

The challenge is that I know she likes to fullness from girth, as I have worn a c-ring before during PIV sex and she liked the added girth. She also likes to climax with me against her cervix, albeit GENTLY, and that is why I am seeking a bit of length. Currently, there are only a couple positions where cervical pressure is possible and my hope is that I can gain adequate length to make that possible in other positions.

-Cheers-

Just duckduckgo for “increase jaw range” or similar terms. This covers the basics: Jaw opening exercises and advice (PDF) (if you try the finger test offer your fingers). The tldr; explanation is that you need to repeatedly work on increasing the range and it increases. It’s good to go for a range that exceeds the requirements for comfort. Massage also helps.

Sometimes if something is considered dirty, you can turn that into a selling point rather than try to work against the image. Depends on your wife though. You can either frame it as a normal part of sex (that’s often not discussed in polite society) or as an aberrant behavior that she is naughty to participate in. Whatever works for her (and then you).

With a bit of extra length you’ll sweep past the cervix and your wife will enjoy that even more.

The phrase ‘we shouldn’t be doing this’ is magic if you choose to pursue the ‘taboo’ route.

Thanks; and thanks to memento for the jaw exercise PDF. I may gain some ground there ;)

Unfortunately, my lady is one of those truly “good girls” that doesn’t appear to find any appeal in the idea of taboo or forbidden activity. As is often the case in relationships, there can be a dichotomy of sorts.

I’m the rule breaker that’s constantly pushing the boundaries of legal and social norms; she, on the other hand, is happy to trot along in the same “groove” she has for 43 years.. This is a blessing and a curse. Hell, it took me several years of encouragement to convince her to wear thong panties! It took nearly as long before she would try a Cannibis edible; though she enjoyed it, and said the orgasms from our “couple time” that evening were “record setting”, she was still plagued by the knowledge that it was “wrong”, as it is illegal in our state of Georgia. She’s not exactly wrong ;)

Thankfully, she has a strong drive to “please”, and keeps the house well, takes great care of the kids and frequently welcomes me home with a nice meal and even works in our shop when we get behind on CNC machine work. All things considered, my life is not terrible; I’m just a bit “blowjob starved” and hope to avoid screwing up my already dim odds too terribly!

This hesitation on her part is made worse by a friend of hers that saw me in the swim leg of a local triathlon in a Speedo and told her I had a noteworthy bulge.. She’s beginning to say that I may be too big for “that”.

I appreciate all the advice though; hopefully she will continue to try periodically and maybe I won’t gain too much girth.

-Horseman1978-

This will definitely be a case by case issue. Not all woman have the same mouth size. Of course, there will be a point in which the girth is perhaps to big for a large section of the population, but if in a relationship it will have to be a decision made specifically for that couple.

I increased my girth to 5.5” and my wife has no problem with the girth. However, she has a low gag threshold and my 6.4” Length was is an issue. She likes to suck on the first four inches but not enough to turn me on.

Thank you all for the insights; as a couple, we will work it out.

The mere fact that she agreed to work on her BJ skills is a huge start; hopefully I can keep the girth from inhibiting the progress.

Cheers!