Hardness vs Size

My wife is the same.

However, just as some men are smaller in size, some men are lower in EQ. I personally think that much of those things can be overcome through honest communication and finding the right person.

I hate for some guy to think he has less to offer a woman because he has EQ challenges. Just as I hate for those who might be below average in size to shy away from intimacy and finding love because they think size is all that matters.

I hate to see a man put partnership on pause because he thinks that he needs to become something physically different. Sure, work on what we want to improve, but might we be splitting hairs trying to decide if EQ or size is more important?

I say perspective best them all.

I agree.

Damn you guys got deep on me! When I wrote my OP, I was thinking from a purely sexual perspective. I agree that relationships encompass far more than just penile attributes.

But anyway, I just thought it was worth discussing because the prevailing thought for many here is that SIZE MATTERS, otherwise we wouldn’t be here. However, after talking to my chicks about it, and even to a few close female friends of mine, they all agree that hardness is more important than size. With the exception of my number one chick, they didn’t necessarily come to this conclusion right off the bat, and did so only after thinking about it. Women are just as culpable as men in assuming that a big penis automatically means it’s high performance, but as we know more about this subject than most, we know that’s not necessarily true.

And while genetics seems to dictate penis size more than anything, what determines erection strength and stamina is vitality and health.

I get what you mean, Draculas_Son. You are offering a different perspective.

Historically, my dick has always got very hard but has always shriveled up when not in use, that inspired me into jelqing in the first place, to improve the flaccid appearance.

But after jelqing hard for a couple of months, I have noticed my EQ drop and have taken a break and now I remember what my dick used to be like! It is starting to get hard like it used to now, I almost forgot what it was like until I woke up this morning.

I think what LittleTrain and Titleist are saying is that there are some users on here who can talk themselves into insecurity and they were just checking that you weren’t one of those who was feeling down about the functionality of you’re unit.

You are right, I over thought it.

I would agree with this.

Sorry, I go a bit sensitive on us, lol.

What do you guys do to make sure you have very firm, strong erections on the regular?

PE.

I can’t tell you how many guys I’ve talked to that have said “my wife says my size is just fine, you don’t need to be bigger”. I don’t doubt this is true, as my own wife has said the same thing. So what do women want? If you ask my wife or any of her friends they all say the same thing. They want ORGASMS! And they don’t care how they get them from you. I can personally give my wife more orgasms with two fingers than I can with my penis. I can manipulate my fingers in a way I could never do with my penis.

So what do I tell men to say to their wives or girlfriends when it comes to why they want to engage in PE and increase their penis size? I tell them to say “it’s for me, not so much for you”. It’s the exact same reason women have face lifts, breast implants, get their hair colored, paint their fingernails and toes, whiten their teeth, etc. They want to feel better about themselves and in doing so it helps their self esteem.
So unless your one of those guys who have a penis the size of my pinky finger, chances are if you’re stressing about your size and being inadequate to your own detriment. Too many guys I’ve spoken with have sabotaged their ability to have a relationship with the opposite sex because they feel inadequate.

Bottom line keep your PE goals in the proper perspective. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be the best you can be. Men are wired completely differently then women, we are very visual. I must admit there’s nothing more psychologically satisfying than feeling and seeing a large penis while engaged in sexual intercourse! Very gratifying!

From my experience, there’s a fine line between PEing for size increases and PEing for EQ; especially when you’re just starting. The two can initially be somewhat mutually exclusive to a degree, because to get size increases usually requires a deformation of the relevant penile tissues, and that’s what causes your EQ to suffer.

This is usually temporary and over time, your unit becomes more resistant to the pressures and force you are putting on it and then size and EQ gains can be had simultaneously.

No problem man! :D

This is a more complicated question than it seems, as there are multiple factors behind strong erections:

1) Healthy cardiovascular system. If your heart, arteries and veins aren’t healthy, no amount of PE is going to help you to have a strong erection. So a healthy cardiovascular system is the foundation of a strong erection.

2) Ability to synthesize and retain nitric oxide in the blood. This likely has to do more with lifestyle and diet I think. If you have a healthy lifestyle and diet, then you can make nitric oxide easily and sustain it for sexual encounters. Men that can do this will find that maintaining strong erections is easy. Of course there are alternatives such as Viagra etcetera.

3) Expanding the penile tissues through PE. This is the cornerstone of PE and how it works, but it leans heavily on the first point; a healthy cardiovascular system. If you successfully expand the penile tissues, but your body is unable to pump enough blood into the penis to make it bigger and harder, then PE may as well be a waste of time and effort….unless you’re satisfied with a bigger flaccid.

So in a nutshell, maintaining a healthy cardiovascular system, good diet, lots of exercise and sun exposure in combination with PE should do the trick :D

I agree, orgasms are very important for women. But I don’t know if I would go so far as to say that they don’t care how they get them. From my experience, women react differently to various sexual methods. Some women can be completely satisfied with manual or oral sex, while others NEED PIV sex to feel fulfilled; even if they can’t orgasm from it. Most of the women I’ve been with have been in the latter camp. While they love oral and finger stimulation, it makes them crave a penis inside of them even more and they have to have it.

I think women are genetically programmed to want to have a dick inside of them. That’s just my take.

With great humbleness, I’m very confident in the size of my member, I’m the exact length of a 16.9oz Poland spring bottle at 8” and a 6” base girth

To an extent I agree that size matters, but let me be the The FIRST to tell you that if you can’t get it up than you’re no better than the next guy.. There has been plenty of times where I just folded under anxiety and there’s no use of a big dick if you can’t get it up.. You can finger and play with a female and have her lose her mind if you know where to get her, so don’t let it come to your mind that you need a whopper to get her off, but at that point, all she wants is a pure steel to break her in.

Whether you’re 4inches or 8inches, a hard stiff one is what a female thrives for, but girth is where it’s at. If you have some girth and a firm brick, she’ll be calling you for more.

I agree, too any times I have found this to be the case.

I ran your thoughts by my wife to get her take. She said of course women like dick, and said that it’s a combination that is psychological + physical. However in her opinion men obsess too much about giving dick instead of giving orgasms…. basically saying that most men are selfish and are not good lovers.