Hardness vs Size

So I had a conversation with one of my chicks about what she liked most about my dick, the girth or the length. I figured she would say girth right off the bat since that’s the “pleasure maker,” but she surprised me and said it was my hardness that she liked the most.

That kind of threw me for a loop at first, because what have I been busting my ass for these past few months trying to add inches to my length and girth? I’m proud of what I’ve accomplished and I wanted her to acknowledge it somehow by commenting about my thickness or length or some such. Though she has no idea of what I’ve been doing.

When I pressed her on it, she acknowledged that while she absolutely loves my thickness and how my dick “filled her up,” it was my erection strength that really turned her on.

After thinking about it, I think she’s right. After all, what good is a big dick if it’s soft, or worse, incapable of an erection? You see that in porn a lot, guys with donkey sized units that have weak erections and their dicks are spongy as a result.

I don’t know what a woman feels when she has a big dick in her, but I imagine a stiff dick probably feels a whole lot better than a soft one! 😁

She also ranked the pulsing and throbbing effect very highly. Those alone could often make her orgasm in and of themselves. I noted this, because I do have a tendency to clench my PC muscles in the downstroke, which makes my cock pulse and throb.

Anyway, this is interesting to me because the vast majority of us here are chasing length and girth gains for our units (including myself), and don’t really make EQ a top priority. In fact, PE can potentially weaken EQ substantially, just as much as it can strengthen it. That has definitely happened to me at times over the past few months.

Now though, my EQ no longer suffers from high vacuum pressure pumping, and it’s better than ever. But her comment really helped to put things into perspective for me.

Any thoughts from you guys concerning the importance of erection strength in relation to size and whether any women you’ve had sex with have commented on it would be welcome 😎

It’s why I’ve always stressed if you can’t get a great erection after a routine, you’ve done too much.

I’ve learned what’s a bigger dick it it’s not hard?

Yeah, that’s happened to me a few times. When I first started experimenting with high pressure pumping, my EQ would be weaker than normal for about 2 days after each session. It always rebounded though, and now it no longer happens as my unit is thoroughly conditioned.

Same here. Hardness is the real king of pleasure making. I think a lot of women would say that assuming all things are equal, they would rather have sex with a guy that has a smaller penis that is rock hard, versus a guy with a larger penis that is on the soft side.

Of course, you can always have your cake and eat it too by having a big penis that is also rock hard when erect. PE done properly can definitely deliver on that front.

Hardness is cope. What use is a really stiff dick if its only 4 inches?

No doubt, a six inch piece of iron between a man’s legs is a deadly weapon compared to an 8x6 wet noodle. Found that some P.E. techniques such as pumping are just not for me, and really are detrimental to my E.Q. Have always been a ‘less is more’ kind of guy …. and a heck of a lot more so as I get older.

I’ve been hitting the PE hard the past couple of months and the one thing I’ve noticed is a decrease in EQ. I am also currently doing nofap (today is my last day before I ejaculate into a prostitute) which has also hampered my EQ.

I feel like my penis has got used to jelqing to make it hard rather than getting hard of it’s own accord. As such I have prescribed myself a 2 week PE break that will also conveniently take me up to my sixth month mark of PE.

A lot of use. It will get the job done nicely!

Good insights! I’ve said this countless times….. what good is a larger penis if you can’t get it hard? Which is why I’ve always advocated that you work on erection quality at least two days per week. Where you achieve an erection and maintain it for a minimum of 15 minutes or more. Working in those Kegels to help strengthen the pelvic floor muscle and promote harder erections. Which can easily be done even when you’re watching the boob tube or driving in your car.

If your EQ suffers then you have one of two problems…. #1 you are overtraining.
Or #2 - it’s psychological (between your ears). Possibly a combination of both! Working too hard and then stressing about not being able to get wood!

How many guys have 4 inch dicks compared to the amount that have erectile dysfunction?

Millions of men have varying degrees of ED and are unable to become sufficiently hard for sex, which is a bigger and far more common problem. A man with a 4 inch penis can still have sex assuming he can get hard enough.

Yep, and here’s a Reddit thread about the importance of penis hardness where several women chime in. Definitely seems like women put more of a premium on hardness than size.

But like I said above, there’s no reason you can’t have your cake and eat it too

https://www.goo gle.com/amp/s/a … r_enjoyment_of/

Could be health related as well. Diabetes and high blood pressure can definitely cause ED, as can deficiencies in certain nutrients.

Personally I think trying to measure if my hard cock is better than someone’s larger cock is missing the mark.

The challenge is being open with those that we desire and love. Even if it is just for a night.

Some of us are short, some of us are tall, some us are fatter, some thinner, some cocks are longer, some a bit shorter, some of us get super hard, some of us might be a bit softer….

These are not measurements, they are what we are. The measurement is our ability to see into each other and appreciate one another.

What a woman physically desires holds little weight to an honest man.

If I had to do PE for my wife, then I might say she never really loved me.

But trying to improve our physical selves in accordance with what our partners most enjoy is the underlying reason for a lot of members being here. I don’t know that any of us “have” to do PE, for ourselves or anyone else. But here we are. Trying to get longer, thicker, or just harder.
What a woman wants holds a lot of weight, for a lot of men. If those men are being honest with themselves.

I think most of us are trying to appease our own personal desires or our own interpretation of what we think a woman wants and less what they really need.

I hate to see any man thinking less of who he is because of physicality. There is so much more.

Just where my head is at.

Dozens of threads debate this very thing. Hardness and girth are the only consistent standouts and I have talked to enough women that girth is second to hardness obviously.

Some very desperate men only see what is in the mirror. A sad reality to remember.

I wish you could teach it.

My desire for a great erection comes mostly from my wife. It’s both mental and physical for her. When she feels I’m very erect that’s a metal sign to her that she’s turning me on. The physical aspect for her is she says it just feels better when I’m 100%.