I need a sincere advice PE and ED

We’re all just trying to help.

Hi steinroid, many thanks for your thoughts.

Well, I have a history so I can explain a little bit. I want to share this experience.

My ED started when I was 26. Healthy guy, sports practitioner (gym, soccer, muay thai…) normal sex life, normal erection, regular and happy guy.

By that time I got 3 bad things in life. Lost my job, lost my girl, lost my car on an accident. An accident that didn’t hurt me at all, not even a scratch. All that happened in the same month, July.

Not that those things doesn’t happen everywhere with everybody, but after that my life turned upside down. I couldn’t get a job, I couldn’t pay my bills, I was always at that almost stage. Hitting door to door and receiving negatives all the time. Erections? Veeery good!

Depression came, without money, without friends, without a good company and beginning to believe that the guy I’m is lesser than the guy I thought I was. At this stage, porn came as a relief, an escape route, and I developed a compulsive behaviour.

I didn’t realize big changes in my erection, I was not paying attention really. The only thing I notice, is that I was cumming differently. I didn’t care.

By the end of that God damn year I was trying to move on and I had my first sex opportunity in months. My erection came fast and hard as usual, but it didn’t stand. It vanishes during the foreplay. It was the first time I fail. Did I worry? No. This kind of things happens. I had a though year.

Next year, the things got worst. Lots of debts, still no job and masturbating more and more and more. My erections were weaker, the solution was looking for more extreme and hardcore content. I don’t think I realized that by that time. Now it’s pretty easy to see the mistakes I did.

Another sex opportunity. Completely fail. And again and again and again…

I was desperate, running to every doctor I could find… No exam could explain, I was 27, healthy, but couldn’t have an erection. The doppler ultrasound exam just showed I was unable to hold my blood inside the penis.

By that time I was completely addicted, I just didn’t know it was an addiction. Desiring sex is natural, right?

It took me an year to start taking pills. And, well, from ED to superman in 40 minutes. I could live with that.

My porn compulsive behavior was established, but now, I was confident that I could even impress a woman with an outstanding stamina.

5 years passed. I was working, dating the most beautiful woman I ever know and "confident" again. I never really healed, but I learned to live with my insecurities. Pills are part of my life as much as my arms and… porn.

Last year I got a new upside down. Life being life and me being me. Single again, no perspective of future and masturbating more than 10 times a day.

In months I couldn’t have an erection, even with pills. Also, I forced so much to get an erection that I develop a premature ejaculation (masturbating with soft penis trying to get hard). That is it… suicidal thoughts.

My luck is that I found someone that know me from the times I was a "superman". Someone that didn’t care about anything else than help me retake my life. Thanks to this beautiful new girlfriend I’m still alive.

I went to doctors all over again. This time the doppler exam was a disaster. I took 3 shots of injection for ED, and my penis didn’t get erect. Neither the most aggressive medication worked. I was in a queue for penile implant.

Researching desperately about the implants I discover Thunders and also a book that has nothing to do with PE or implants, but with addiction.

The book is: Your brain on porn: the new science of addiction.

https://www.ama … /dp/B00N2AH8NW/

I read it, and boom! Every symptom I had over 6 year were there. First, having difficult to cum (I could have sex for hours and hours and hours without cuming. It was just hard). Along with that, the need to more extreme content to get aroused, the failures with women, the increasing of social anxiety, stress, lack of purpose… everything, even getting premature ejaculation by forcing an erection. Not only the physical things, but the psychological behavior as well. It seems that most of my life was symptoms described in the book.

It’s a new study, because porn was never free as it is today. Never before in human history, the abuse of sexual arousal happen like it happens today. Before 2000, there are no xvideos, redtube, sexmaxx… want porn? You have to buy it, and it was not online!

I decided to try. What can I lose? And I found that quitting a porn addiction is hard. Because it’s not porn that my brain wants, it’s dopamine. It’s almost as hard as leaving cocaine addiction. I have periods of abstinence reactions. Stress, depression, shaking hands… all the time my brain is hurting me as hard as it can so I finally give up and give what my brain needs. Dopamine!

To leave addiction I started two treatments. Psychological and psychiatry. One is trying to give me a new meaning in life, another is giving me medication to lower my brain needs for dopamine.

Finally I’m quitting porn and, as explained in the book, very very very slowly I’m getting my erections back.

But it’s not easy. I fall times to times. Every fall resets the treatment. I don’t know if I will succeed, I’m just fighting.

Sorry for the long post. It’s my life exposed and I wish I can help someone with my experience. Also, I hope to learn about PE.

Regarding the nocturnal erection, morning wood… it’s also explained in the book. The system that controls erections is a sole independent system. For the brain there is no difference from porn to, dreams, to imagination, to real sex life. It’s all controlled by the same system. Anything that triggers this system causes an erection. Doesn’t matter if it’s an arousal or boost in testosterone, that happens in the morning.

Before the studies of porn addiction, science believed that psychological ED was caused only by a kind of blocking, like extreme insecurity or depression. But addiction is a different process that happens in brain, it’s not 100% psychological. Its a chemical mess on the reward path of the brain. There is a lot of things we can discuss about that. I’ll be happy to do so. If guys here wants, I open a new thread to discuss reward path, sexual arousal, ed and dopamine.

I truly recommend for everyone. Stop porn, at least read this book.

Wow! That’s a story. So sorry you’re having such a struggle brother. Thanks for sharing all that with us here. You will help some people with that information. I wish you the best. Hope your problems all disappear.

You should as this is stuff that has not been studied properly.

For example there are ongoing researches started again after long hiatus with hallucinogens for rebooting this malfunctioned reward path loop.
Deleting all kind of addictions with only one single trip at its best. As its worst the risk of very bad trips and more psychological harm of course.

Good for sharing this , keep going and conquering it.

Thanks for sharing all of your experience and hope you get better

Hi guys, many thanks! Most of thunders are very supportive I’m happy to be part of this forum. It’s awesome to have access to so many stories, information and also share our own objectives, paths, experiences. Before Thunders, I thought PE was just a scheme to rob men’s money.

I’ll open a thread to discuss the brain behavior over erection and how dopamine levels affects our motivation and life style, and how porn can mess the brain responsiveness to dopamine. Let me organize all information to make all that simple.

Going back, to my original question. Do you think I can have a PE strategy in the this challenging situation?

Just to recap, I was wondering an ADS with vacuum system instead of noose and low tension to be used overnight.

I’m considering this strategy cause I can only jelq with pills to have an erection, and, even so, I have to built some arousal stimulation to get it. Its counterproductive to my healing process. Manual stretches forces dorsal nerve and IC muscles (part of pelvic floor that is responsible for keeping the blood inside the penis - I’ve been studying a lot). Without a good observation on EQ, it could be dangerous by overdoing it and creating a chronic issue. My erections are boosted by pills, so any observation is invalid. Finally, I don’t have time to do 6, 8 hours of stretching, only while I sleep.

What do you guys think of this strategy, do you recommend something different, or it’s just not time to PE yet?

Thanks

Thanks Kyrpa.

Here is the thread about porn addiction:

How erection works on the brain: Motivation, Life Style, Dopamine and Porn.