I need a sincere advice PE and ED

Hi thunders. I couldn’t do this in a short post, hope you understand.

I’m new to PE and to this forum and I’m looking for advice to start PE even suffering with ED.

I got ED by porn addiction. There was a time that even pills where not enough to get me hard. I’m fighting addiction and I discover that this fight is as hard as fight alcohol or cocaine, because it is an addiction on dopamine. Yeah, I screwed up..

My addiction is controlled by now, but I have some falls times to times. I’m getting better. As I’m getting better, my erections are getting better too. I still need the pills, but now the pills works very well, some times not, but it is much better than before.

So, I’m studying a lot in this forum to start my PE path, but I have so many difficulties because of ED.

First, I can’t jelq. I don’t want to take pills everyday for jelqing. Even with pills I need to be aroused to get blood inside. And forcing an arousal is counterproductive to my brain healing (addiction is a fight for the brain, my penis is fine)

Second, I don’t have the most important PI. I cannot evaluate my EQ. Using pills, my EQ is just fake. Without that I won’t risk manual stretches cause it’s impossible to know if I’m overdoing it.

Researching a lot, I found that products like phallosan could help me. They claim that the product can help with both ED and PE. Its and ADS like any other, but it doesn’t have a noose system. It uses a vacuum at the head, glans, to get the penis to grip to the stretcher. They claim that vacuum stimulate the blood flow, helping with ED and the daily hours of low tension stretch will result in PE.

Also, I identified that my natural size is already limited by the dorsal thickening. I can feel that “cord” inside the penis holding the flaccid stretch, while that tunic still pretty loose.

With all that information I’m wondering to get an ADS which uses vacuum instead of noose. Also, because of the dorsal thickening, I don’t believe I can have any gain using belt system. Pulling my flaccid penis sideways, I feel the tunic at the outside more stretched than my dorsal thickening. I think I need something that pulls my penis to the front.

And here is the third difficult. I don’t have time to use something pulling my penis to the front for long enough. Too much work, too much busy life.

To have good 6 to 7 hours of stretching, I need to do that while sleeping (I don’t even sleep 8 hours). Again, phallosan claims that it is safe to use overnight. The vacuum system keeps the blood flowing and it has a kind of condom on the vacuum system that guarantee an adaptive size if I got an erection.

So, what advice can you give me?

Am I wrong to think that ADS with belt system won’t work for dorsal thickening stretch?

Hope you have some ideas.

Thanks!

Honestly you haven’t mastered jelqing. Secondly PE isn’t for someone that doesn’t have time. Best advice is kicking the porn addiction for good and working on your EQ.

Agreed!

Hi Titleist, help me here. What can I do if I have a 100% soft penis without pills? At best, 30%.

Quitting an addiction isn’t that simple, make brain work properly again is even harder. It takes time. For some guys, months, for some guys years.

And yes, time is a real problem. Nothing I can do about that. I have at best, 3 hours free before going to sleep, if I go home right after work, without being with my girlfriend.

Any suggestion for jelqing?

Without a sound mind it is very difficult to attain a complete erection. Yes curing the mental issues takes time but it does work. Why not focus on that before doing any PE?

Hi Jimmy, it’s a fight. 1/10 of addicted men in any kind of addiction, cocaine, alcohol, cigar.. Dopamine, is able to get out.

Addiction in porn is never an addiction in porn itself. It’s an addiction in dopamine generated by arousal. I can quit porn, but make my brain work as I never suffered from ED means that I can’t be stimulated by anything for indeterminate amount of time. No porn, no sex imagination, no naked women on WhatsApp groups, no real relation.. It’s a quest.

I’ve being suffering from ED for 6 years. I only discovered it was created by addiction last year. Right now I feel “happy” to have the pills working again. I don’t even remember what morning wood is like.

I discovered the science of addiction at the same time I discovered PE.

Why PE? I’m tired of frustration. Doesn’t really matters the pills dependency. It’s been so long that I don’t know if life can be different.

I think that’s why. Deep in my mind, I’m afraid that I’ll have to live with ED forever. Although I still have the pills to count with, or, in the worst scenario, an implant.

So, I was looking for something that make me feel great about it. Can’t I have a natural erection? No? Ok, at least I’m proud of my unity, even if I need external medicine help to make it work.

It doesn’t supposed to be a drama. I’m just frustrated.

My frustration lead me to this post. I’m also thinking in using pump to improve EQ. Something I read here in the forum.

PE will help improve your EQ. My fear is that frustration will mount when things don’t seem to go along fast enough as PE is a long term thing. If you feel you can handle that and know nothing ever happens fast in PE then jelqing and stretching for whatever little time you have will help sooner or later.

I used to watch too much porn. I had what they labeled an addiction.

If you are jerking off, you are fucking yourself (literally). This is not fun. Get an accountability software and friend. Go to SA meetings. Get some therapy and deal with past (abuse and neglect are big triggers for porn addiction). Diet and exercise. I lost 50 lbs. I can run now. I eat clean. I pray and developed a spiritual relationship with God. My sex life went up. I do t get laid as much as I want, but I get laid more than my friends. I invested in my marriage. I do not cum unless I am inside my wife. This was an agreement she and I came to.

If I am triggered to search out porn, I call my wife and tell her I am Horny for her and that tonight is going to be hot and wild. This takes care of the trigger.

Message me if you want specific information.

I think I can handle that. Thanks God I have a very supportive girlfriend that supported me at my darkest moments. We are happy together as it is, but she knows that a bigger cock will be great for me as much as bigger breast will be great for her. Making ourselves happier with our own bodies, more confident.

I showed the forum to her and she liked the idea, of course (wouldn’t you support your girlfriend if she decides to go to gym and workout?)

I know it’s a question of time and patience. I read a lot, created some theories. I’m analytic guy and I need to be sure I’m safe. Also I read the numbness41 post, so I know how hardcore consequences can be by rushing and doing things without proper information and technique.

I want to gain 1in in length. Gains in girth is a plus, not the real goal. Also I read a lot about dorsal thickening limiting gains in length. I’m looking for a strategy. To be honest I’m afraid of jelqing. I read some posts from guys that simply lost their erection capability during a jelqing exercise and it didn’t come back any more. One of those, went to an implant surgery because of that.

I try to do some jelqs, but a 50%, 70% erection happens for few seconds and vanishes. At least it happens naturally. An year ago, nothing happens, even using pills.

So, if the advice is, don’t try PE now. Well, it sucks. This ED thing made so insecure.. Having some gains would be a boost in confidence. But life is life, sometimes we fight, sometimes we take..

If you have anything to encourage PE, be sure I’ll not start till I feel prepared and safe.

You made a very good and reasoned post; take your time and you’ll do fine.

You said one thing… I don’t even remember what morning wood is like. Morning wood happens without your brain. So you may have a physical issue as well. Do you take any medication? Tons of pills mess with wood! You need to cure your ED first to have productive PE.

You do realize many guys have nocturnal erections and never know it. Maybe being positive with this guy may help him better.

I do realize that but if he has a history of morning wood than it is odd that he doesn’t now. I know I had a history of Morningwood as well as night time erections but when my PI’s are down I don’t get the Morningwood and if I’m getting night time then I am unaware.

I didn’t think I came off negatively I’m just saying that maybe he is not as messed up mentally as he thinks he is and it’s a simple physical issue that might be easier to rectify. What part of my response came off negative to you?

In all my years doing this the minute we mention to a guy in need that it might be a physical issue they mentally take that to full blown ED. Very rare that they will ever accept a mental issue causing their ED but this guy seems to have accepted that with his porn addiction. To me, and others have a different opinion, the minute a guy with an ED issue accepts the fact that his problem could be all emotional/mental I tend never to bring up that oh hey it could be physical as well. I like to work on one thing at a time. I may be right , or may not be but that’s what I have learned.

Oh I see then I understand your position. I seem to think that it is exactly the opposite because to me the more it’s in my head the more I think about it and the more I sabotage myself. If I thought it was a physical issue that’s usually easier to solve unless it’s some horrendous issue usually present in someone much older. From how he writes he seems to be in his own head very much so he May be wasting his time chasing a problem that isn’t where he is looking. I was just suggesting something based on the one fact I noticed that no one else mentioned.