I have been occasionally visiting some Swinger Clubs during “a phase” a couple of years ago.
My wife had graciously accompanied me, but we never engaged in heavy-duty swinging, obviously for hygienic reasons.
Nevertheless, we enjoyed the sexualized atmosphere and seeing and being seen.Most men who visit these clubs are probably already a bit on the larger side because of the obvious confidence issues that might prevent the smaller ones from doing so. Yes, you will usually see are maybe 5-10% of the guys who have really huge dicks there, but most men you see are between 13 and 17cm erect, and you see all kinds of forms, lengths and widths.
And yes I say erect because Swinger clubs are probably the only place for a heterosexual male to see a lot of real erect dicks outside of porn. And forget the image conveyed by porn, as they are only filming with the top 10% biggest dicks ON THE PLANET these days, plus they use camera tricks. Just look at porn from the 70s and 80s and you will see a huge difference - there used to be a lot of “standard” dicks back then.
From my real world evidence, I can assure you, most women, even those that are quite “oversexualized” as they are willing to visit Swinger events, are not even giving so much thought about dick size. I am about 6.5” erect which is according to most surveys a bit above average.
In the clubs, I have gotten invitations from women who apparently liked my although they were accompanied by men with bigger dicks, and although there might have been several larger dicks “available”.If you log in to German language Europe’s leading Swinger Portal “joyclub.de”, which has about 3 million registered users, there are dozens of groups for people with various sexual preferences. One of them is called “Big Dicks and Chicks”. It is open to women with a preference for that and to men with large dicks (at least > 18cm). The group has about 9000 members, both male and female, and put that into context of maybe 300’000 daily logins (active users) which tells you something about the priority the big majority of women have about “big dicks” (so it would be about 2-3% of active users).
From various forum discussions on Joyclub as well as my own anecdotal evidence from Swinger and Fetish parties, I would say: For maybe 5-10% of women, a big dick is something they might be really obsessed with,
On the other hand - maybe 10-20%, they actually prefer normal to smaller dicks because they are themselves “built small or short”, and they feel pain from big dicks.
The big majority of women prefer a totally normal dick, and to most, its actually not that important. They are much more interested in the overall package of the man, his looks, his grooming, his manners, his humour -And most importantly, his confidence.
Interesting reading. This put my mind slightly to ease somehow haha. Thank you for taking your time and your insightful answer!