Insecurity

You want her to see you as the provider of pleasure.

Novelty and fantasy and experimentation is just that - fun, it keeps stuff entertaining. She is doing it with YOU, man. I am sure you can ask her to do stuff that stimulates you.

When my GF wears a naughty schoolgirl outfit or a blonde wig it is absolutely not because I am into minors or blondes… :-) …and when she uses her fac vibrator to get herself off repeatedly while I doggy her I am not the least insecure about my ability to provide her an orgasm without that toy.

Oh and my girlfriend gets off enormously on getting “raped”… by me. I can tell when she is in the mood for it, she’ll be oddly provocative but distant at the same time. And then she’ll fight me some, sometimes to the point where I start to wonder, but then she’ll give in while still going “stop it, stop it NOW” or “you vile ANIMAL just using me like a sex doll” or “oh god that big cock is swelling in me don’t you cum in me” which of course causes me to cum hard in her, and she gets off on that and cums too. But that doesn’t mean she enjoys rape, it’s all fun and role play!

I know I have only 1 prior post, but hope you will hear me anyway. Someone else mentioned that a dildo needs some grip room, so it is doubtful she will use the entire toy.. Remember that. Also remember that your natural, human penis is going to do way more for her than a dildo. Also, you are already 3/4” larger than I am, and I have never felt like I left anyone unsatisfied. I am bisexual, and every partner I have had, male or female, has always come back for more. If you focus on her instead of what you think you are lacking, you will blow her mind.

And speaking of her mind, don’t forget, for women there is a huge mental part of sex that makes it pleasurable for them. Knowing you love her and that you want to see her have a little fun without getting messed up about it will go a long way for you as a couple. If she liked a different football team than your favorite, would that make you think your team must suck? And does that mean she doesn’t enjoy watching your team win? Don’t overthink it. It is honestly more of a big deal to you than it is to her, I guarantee it.

Only having had mostly vanilla sex my whole life, I had no idea how much many women get off on rape fantasies, being tied up, slapped, chocked, being called a cum slut, etc. I have gotten a few hints over the years which I mostly ignored.

One girlfriend hinted that she would like me to just walk up and shove my dick in her mouth. I never did that. I guess that I was a pussy but I never got into rough sex. No slapping her ass, no calling her a “dirty whore”, no choking. It never occurred to me that this might be enjoyable to any woman and I never felt comfortable doing it.

And another one who hinted that she would like to be tied up. I went along with it once or twice but after she was tied up, she’s giving me orders of what she wants me to do. I said, “ You got this backwards, Sweetheart. I am supposed to have MY way with YOU”. So, I lubed up

My dick really well and attempted anal sex whereupon she said that it hurt too

much, so, being the pussy of a gentleman that I am, I didn’t force the issue. I did not think that she was play acting. I that it really did hurt her. Bottom

line: this bondage episode was no fun for either of us.

One thing I don’t like is being tied up, nor does my GF (at least she hasn’t expressed such a preference yet, although she’s told me she’s done handcuffs before -as have I but I didn’t like it, I got scorched by superhot wax, god knows what sort of candle that ex was using)). We’re not into anal, either, not a topic that’s come up.

But anything my gal asks for, I’ll do my best to accommodate unless the law forbids it. :-)

You are being way, way too tough on yourself.

Very few woman are size freaks. Most of the vaginal nerve endings are in the first few inches.

If you have 4 inches or more, you are well covered.

The rest is esthetics and if you are crowding 7 inches, you are well above average and the beginning of big,

and you are just being silly. As it is you are in the upper 20 percentile.

Big dicks are more of a guy thing- and not just gay guys.

We tend to think that filling up the pussy is the key to her sexual satisfaction.

While that is true for a few, it is not true for the vast majority.

So relax.

Word - another thing to keep in mind: if a woman truly were obsessed with size, she’d never be satisfied with anyone ever, she’d always think she’s a better bigger dick out there.

No one wants to be in a long term relationship with a perpetual searcher, man or woman. There are plenty of guys out there that are just looking for new pussy to fuck. We’d all probably advise our sisters to stay away from such a man. So why would WE try to be with any woman that’s just obsessed and looking for the next, bigger dick?

Yeah, I don’t get the bondage thing either.

Being tied up and receiving a BJ might not be so bad, but being tied up and pegged?

NO WAY!

I agree, penis size is mostly a guy thing, like having big biceps or huge pecs. It’s part of how we establish where we and others are in a virility and health pecking order in the modern world where you can’t, or shouldn’t, just beat your rivals over the head with a rock. Who says humanity hasn’t evolved?