Insecurity

Anyone got some advice for this problem I’m going threw, a couple of days ago me and my wife talk about doing different things and trying new toys. Well to my surprise she order a 10 inch dildo I right away felt like a cold bucket of water fall over me. I’m 6 3/4 inches in length so I automatically tought I wasn’t enough to make her feel me inside her. This has honestly been bugging me alot for the pass days. I ask her if she had someone that big before, she replied whith one x before was like 8 to 9 inches. So now I feel like she might like penis that are bigger or am I overthinking to much on this. Any feed back will be appreciated thank you.

I think you are over thinking this. You are the person she is with. However there’s always more to learn what gives pleasure to her. So when the dildo arrives ask if you can watch her use it or be able to use it on her. See which position she likes to use it and then at another time see if she wishes to try that with you.

The other thing you may wish to do is get a clone my willy kit and make her a dildo with your dick.

That’s my advice don’t see the dildo as your enemy but a device to help understand how your Mrs can get more pleasure.

I think she may like it big. Why would she order a 10 inch dildo if she didn’t. But it might be that she’s just curious. You have a couple of choices now.

1 Tell her that this 10 inch dildo is not going to happen.

2 Try it out with her and see how much of it she can take and find out for your self if she likes it or not and live with the result and use it to your advantage.

3 Do nothing and feel bad.

I think a real cock would always feel much better then a dildo, so I wouldn’t worry about it.

Thank you gprent, what supplements would you recommend to take for penis health.

Thank you patrik 16 and letme grow good info

Honestly I understand where you are coming from and there is alot of people that have the same concern with their partner. Both men and women sometimes feel like they lack something that their significant other likes (boobs, penis, hips, butt, muscle, hair, etc). But there are things you can do to help
1.)the most important thing I think you should do is be completely open with your wife and just tell her about how you feel. That way you guys can figure things out together and know what you both are comfortable with and where you both stand sexually.
2.) Once you guys established something try to see what options you have. You can use a sleeve, continue P.E, Cock rings, and also kinky stuff that might excite both of you. For example you can watch her use it or you use it on her.
3.) You can also get a toy that you prefer
On a personal note:
1.) I know it’s hard but never compare yourself. And keep in mind that their are people out their that like very very big things ( comes, fists, arms, etc). Every one is different not just preferences and physicality. Never feel bad about yourself.
2.) If you feel self conscious do things to boost yourself esteem what ever it is and after talking with your wife it. She might be able to help.
3.) Toys are just toys they can never replace or compete with the real thing. Because you are married to each other you without a doubt better than her exs.

Hope this helps, but like others are saying don’t worry about it or over think it. I know it’s hard and I know how it can feel when you compare yourself to other or feel very self conscious about yourself. Try new things, communicate and never stop doing what makes you happy or feel better about yourself.

You’re 3.25” away from 10”. If you maintain 1 inch of length growth a year, that’s only 3.25 years of PE.

It’s not outside the realm of possibility to gain 3.25”. I’ve already gained 2” and still have 2.5” to go to reach my goal, a total of 4.5” in length gain. This most recent PE journey I started at 7”, in reality a little less, so you’re basically at the same point I was.

If you are too fat, you can lose fat.

If you’re not muscular enough, you can gain muscle.

I think if we can refine PE practices for reliable sustained results, we don’t have to come up with mental rationales to cope with insecurity, since we can just change what we’re insecure about. Feeling insecure isn’t necessarily a bad thing if it’s used as a driver for self improvement. Nothing motivates me like insecurity or jealousy to make self improvements. It’s an entirely different scenario with things we can’t change, where insecurity serves no purpose whatsoever.

Are you for real Sigmoid?? Are you living in some sort of dream? Gaining over three inches in three years lol.
How many have you heard about ever gaining three inches. Yes there are a few that claims gaining three inches. Most of them after 10 years+ of dedicated PE. The problem is that most if not all of those “3 inch guys” don’t have any pictures proving their gains. I bet there are a bunch of them lying about it for different reasons. 1 inch is allot. 2 inch is not going to happen for 99,5 of us. 3 inches…..no not going to happen.

Take a break from posting until you have something realistic to add. You have to be out of your mind to think 3+ is possible in three years. You’re really no help to the community here with notions like this.

When I met my girl, she already had a scary dildo collection, one was 18 inches long… I entitled it the black mamba when I saw it hiding under her bed, but jokes aside, it made me feel incredibly insecure. But, over time, it’s actually made me less insecure than I was before…. and here’s why.

With big dildos, if your’e average, I wouldn’t worry about the length, cos chances are, it will only be passing you by an inch, at most. And the truth is, a 6 inch dildo would be so impractical to actually handle… so don’t worry about the length of a rubber dick. It’s the girth of some of these things that is where most men will never size up, and again, I wouldn’t worry about it. If you go on reddit, there’s threads upon threads of kinky wives talking about how the love to be fisted just as much as they love their average husband to be inside of them.

Don’t be comparing yourself to rubber dicks, it’s not worth losing any sleep over. Our hands are all much more capable of being tighter than any woman, and I would say we’d all prefer the real thing over our own hand any day…

Embrace it. work through it, I’m glad I did.

Please, gents, don’t ask your woman if shes been with someone bigger! This should be common sense. Comparison is the thief of joy….

I don’t know many women that get pleasure from inserting their dildos to the hilt. That’s more our (men) obsession than theirs. The dildo practice I observe in the vast majority of cases is to use a vibrating dildo (and often a very small one) around the clit.I had an ex-girlfriend that had a huge dildo, and I was like “really?” and she replied it was a gift from a guy and she hated the thing. :-)

Gaining 1” in a year isn’t that uncommon, what is uncommon is a sustained gain rate.

I think the issue is we’ve been focusing too much on what has produced the fastest gain rate. For a newbie, just about anything produces rapid gains initially, but then the gain rate tends to plateau. All of us that experienced newbie gains have our perspective shaped by it, but what works for a newbie is not necessarily what works long term.

I believe if we re-approach PE with the newbie gains discounted and the belief that getting around the plateau is a possible, we can figure out how to get around the plateau that has prevented so many from reaching their goals, reaching goals through conferring experiences and evaluating methods being the point of this community.

We know that there are people with 10”+ penises that are functional and the stretch marks on some of their penises indicate they grew rapidly at some point, probably through PE. Thundersplace is a collection of information on penis enlargement techniques and experience, but it hasn’t built up enough collective experience and insight into the plateau to establish which approaches best avoid the plateau. The plateau seems to be the only thing left to address to make 3 inches of length gains in 3 years realistic.

I don’t think we should accept the plateau as a given. If I thought it was a given, I wouldn’t have restarted PE. I think we should look at it as a technical problem we can solve, but it will take longer if people consider it impossible to address. Most of the world seems to vehemently deny any sort of penis enlargement works and as a result many men accept whatever penis size they have and some wallow in depression over it. Isn’t that sad that an idea that there is no solution to small penis size can cause so much despair?

It reminds me of Pakistan, people get enraged at the idea of improving anything and when their relative plummets off a cliff because their elders didn’t want to build real roads or install guard rails they cry and sometimes fall into a deep persistent depression. If they advocate for infrastructure to prevent the road accidents, the elders go on the attack saying it isn’t possible, wouldn’t help, and in fact it’s god’s will their relative died because their whole family are heretics; because the elders don’t want to be blamed for their lack of civic planning. Naysayers can be toxic and they aren’t always doing it because they want the best for their community, it’s often just self preservation at the expense of the community. And that’s why roadside accidents are part of the scenery of Pakistan and why I’m going to make some coffee to prevent a 20 page expletive laced rant about why Pakistan is a terrible place. It’s not that hard to build a road.

I’m a hopeful dreamer like all the people experimenting with different ways of doing PE.

I won’t believe you if you say you don’t dream of it too. I can’t believe that there isn’t an element of experimentation in your routine.

Capillaries can grow fast, nerves can grow fast, connective tissue can be elongated rapidly or gradually, just ask any plastic surgeon. I think we have most of the problem worked out on how to grow the penis, it’s just that pesky plateau. Something is causing the plateau that is inherent to our PE techniques because if it wasn’t inherent to the PE techniques then we wouldn’t get newbie gains in the first place and deconditioning wouldn’t work to restart growth.

So if we figure out what that is and how to work around it we should be able to have perpetual newbie gains, and probably at a faster rate if the plateau is actually caused by a growing force that actually starts hindering gains from the very beginning.

I don’t think we’re that far from it. I think it’s just around the corner and having a 10" penis will be more common than a six pack.

Won’t you dream with me? Human ingenuity is pretty amazing.

This is my opinion and it doesn’t have to be true for everyone, but I think the best thing a partner can do for their significant other is to encourage and nurture them. This is especially true when it comes to sex.
Personally, whatever my wife said she is interested in, I’m instantly on board.
Conversely, I would never try to discourage her or turn down something she is interested in.

I think you will discover, as I have, that even though your wife may be interested in experiencing a huge dildo, she will not use it most of the time, or even often.

Just because she wants a little novelty/variety, doesn’t have to take anything away from how much she enjoys you inside of her.

Again, my opinion:
It’s unrealistic to expect that your penis will be the be all and end all in terms of generating pleasure for your wife or any woman for that matter. There is so much more to sex and sexuality to enjoy. That is an artificial limitation you place on yourself.
Sex should be about giving and receiving pleasure by whatever/any means, whether it’s fingers, a tongue, a penis, a toy, etc…

Your size (same as my size) 6.75in is already the average woman’s ideal penis size to have a one night stand with aka “stunt cock”, and bigger than the ideal long term partner’s size.

I think about the worst thing you could do in this situation is to tell her the 10in dildo isn’t going to happen. Your wife is your equal, and your partner. Don’t limit and diminish her. Nurture and support her. Be her biggest fan, and enjoy her sexuality to its fullest extent. Make her feel accepted and not judged, and reap the rewards :)