Jelq only, missus helps but very concerned

Bullet hell..

Thanks for the advice and the positive of what you say..

However You sounded very arsey when you said this ‘Oh, I know, you’re a big tough man, and you don’t need no stinkin’ therapy.’ Sounds like your judging me already..

I never thought this as I was reading nor would I have..

I think you need to see that I’m here for help and advice because of my concerns (weather or not they may be superficial or not) I don’t want to be flamed or start an argument, you must see that we all have concerns some the same some different and also for different reasons(even if it’s the same concern).

I don’t want to start an argument as I appreciate the positive things you say but please don’t jump to conclusion I’m always listening with OPEN EARS to any advice, please don’t assume what ti would think of it because I never do..

Thanks

I fixed it for you, Bullet Hell. You were close. You didn’t need quotation marks around the destination link, and it’s not a href as in HTML; it’s url= and /url . You got the square brackets right too.

4wheeler, I think that might be an example of someone posting who might have a larger audience in mind, such as anyone who might be reading the thread. When he said that, I took it as more of a rhetorical device, not one directed at your specifically.

My guess is that Bullet Hell might’ve suggested therapy as a positive thing to others in the past, only to get that sort of reaction, so he’s mentioning that here only so that he can address it and get it out of the way.

Bullet Hell, I’m sorry to hear about your uncle.

4wheeler: I’m sorry if I came of as arsey, I guess I deserve it. Lampwick is right when he suspects I used it as a rhetorical device aimed at the larger audience, but I can absolutely see if it came of as an attack on you personally. I did not mean it that way, and I’m sorry for that. I am also very glad your ears are open, even to my lackluster advice. So, from the heart: Please weigh the option of therapy. It might be the best thing you ever did, those of my friends who’ve tried it seem to think so. And me too. Walking around with bad self esteem and what not is so unnecessary when you can do something about it. I’ll try to be less arsey moving forward, and I hope my kegel explanation was clear enough.

Lampwick: This is usually the point where I joke it off, but instead I’ll do this: Sincere thanks.

Hi Bullet Hell - I guess I owe you an apology, sometimes I don’t read into it well and I guess because I’m sensitive to this (penis enlargement) I just got on my high horse and took it the wrong way.

On the positive side though, I think I will take your advice.I was lay in bed last night thinking and it kind of got to me that I seem to have so much on my mind all the time and I never ever just stop, so many unfinished things (more than your average bills, debt, issues) going on at once, I also take things way too seriously (as you found out lol).

Iv never been on holiday.I think one may be in order..

Craig

My brothers father-in-law once leaned over to me, drunk as hell. He’s this big man, bearded, forester. Hard as nails. He leans over, looks me dead in the eyes, and says “Stop thinking. You’ll go crazy if you don’t.” He was almost right. Yeah, therapy’s gone a long way. So’s adjusting my diet (As much omega 3 and as little omega 6 as possible. Oh, and lots of tryptophan. But if it compromises taste, then fuck it). But I suspect I’m worse off than you are anyway.

Yeah, you deserve one. Holiday, that is.

Oh, and for God’s sake do PE. And kegels, many kegels. My tips are these: Get as many measurements as possible - Length, girth, what have you - as soon as possible. Facts are your best friend, without them you’ll have no idea of how you’re doing, or if and what you need to change. But that’s actually more for long term. For short term your bestest friend is erectile quality. If your erections are rock-fucking-hard you know you’re on the right track. If you’ve got morning wood enough to club even grown up seals with, you know you’re doing it right. The second EQ dips you need to pause and think it over, either you’re not doing enough, or (More likely) your doing too much. Too much will only hurt you.

For example: This past week my EQ has suddenly shot to shit. It could certainly be the fever I’ve had, but I’m not taking any chances. So I’m resting a couple of days, and I’ll get back on the horse come monday. Now, I’ve seen gains, so I know I’ve been doing it right. Just maybe a tad too much.

So, for long term measurements are the compass. If you get no gains at all in three weeks, or a month, it’s time to change up your routine. But for short term EQ is king: If you get bad wood, you know you’re doing something wrong right here and now.

And also: Kegel.

Thanks for the reply again.

Speaking of EQ I must admit lately (IE the past year or so) I have had LOW EQ and barley Any, if any at all morning wood.is this bad?

Thanks

Okay -

Just an update here.I finally got the balls up(no pun intended) to actually measure myself..

I was slightly surprised fully erect on the skin (not pushing right down to the bone) 7.4”.Not checked girt yet.

Thanks for the support.

7.4”!? That is, pardonnez ma francais, assrippingly huge! Especially if you didn’t measure bone pressed. Oh, you really don’t need to worry about length, like, ever. Sure, if you want to, and if you think you won’t bottom out on your girlfriend, but still… Fuck, I’m only aiming for something like 7.1” anyway.

And on EQ: From just my own personal experience - And from what I’ve gathered from this site - bad EQ is bad. It’s not death, but it’s not good EQ. Morning wood is your cocks way of telling the control station that the piping is clear and functioning. Jelqing and kegels will help, for sure, but if it’s bad before there ought to be something else. Do you smoke? How’s your cholesterol (Don’t know that it makes any difference, but it ought to, right)? And, again, maybe it’s psychic. Some anxiety or other, for example. Stress is another bastard.

Me, the second I get bad erections I try to think of problems. Sure, sometimes it’s just I’m with a really ugly girl, and I got sober just in time to realize it. But other times it might be harder to deal with (Well, actually, last time I got down with a girl so ugly I couldn’t even muster the will to jerk off for almost a month after. She smelled of feet and cheese! How did I even get there!?), like overworking the jelqs, or something like that. And then I have to try and figure out the solution.

7.4? No bone press? That’s long dude.

When I check I was surprisingly happy.But why does it look small? Maybe it’s because of the largely discussed ‘porn angles’

I do feel a little better for it, more so because I’m only 0.6 of an inch off my goal in length. Time to work on girth now.

Thanks

Maybe you should measure bone pressed first. I mean; If you find 0.6” more by pressing it, you’re already at your goal!

Thanks Bullet Hell.My ideal is NBP 8”. Still not that much to go really!

I need to work on girth now any advice on this for me?

I have a full inch to gain there so alot of work to do!

Thanks

Well, time. Also, constantly reheating by dunking my dick into a cup of warm water seems to have done the biggest difference for me. Actually; It’s done all the difference. I do it every two to five minutes, depending on what’s practical for the specific exercise I’m doing. It seems to keep, and even increase, the malleability of the cock throughout the session.

4wheeler, you are much longer than average, odds are your girth is above average too considering your initial estimate. Sounds you need a confidence boost, I’m not sure what your confidence issue is though…

real confidence must come from within, but to get you there external factors can validate you and help to boost your internal confidence…

make your woman cum once orally or manually, then bring her just to the brink of orgasm and then fuck the shit out of her and do not worry if she cums or not, the fucking is just for you, fuck her however it feels good for you fuck her as hard as you can if you feel like it until you blow a load, who cares if she cums at that point, she already got hers…. (odds are she will cum a second time, but dont worry about that, she already got hers)… this is what I do, it makes me feel good, and girls like it too.

Stop having her jelq you, thats something you need to do. Get a pump for EQ.