Jelqing and maintaining an active sex life

Hi everyone. This is my first time logging in for 7 years!! I first started jelqing back then. I have not been consistent at all, but I was usually doing it more during those periods when I didn’t have a girlfriend.
In that time I’ve gained about an inch in length and I’ve got a bit more girth. Also, the head is much bigger. When everything is at optimal levels, I’m very happy with my size now.

Anyway, one thing that bothers me about jelqing and stops me from doing it too much is that it seems like for up to a week or more after a couple sessions, my EQ goes down, my libido goes down, and I lose about an inch in length. I have to stop PE entirely and then everything goes back to normal.
Now, I don’t jelq super hard - I have a steady grip, with a little bit of coconut oil to reduce friction, and I go slow, about 2-3 seconds, no more than 50 times a session. And I do 2 - 3 sessions a week (when I actually do it). More likely it works out to a handful of sessions a month - not much at all. I don’t have bruising on the head, I don’t have pain. Sometimes I have a little bit of spotting at the base of the shaft, which I think is from stretching.
I feel like if I’m to jelq any lighter than I do, I’ll just be sliding my hand over my cock and not affecting the tissue. Is anyone else affected like me?
It seems I’m better off just not doing it, because sex is not planned and I would rather always be ready for that.

Any feedback is appreciated. Thanks