Losing erection during Jelq's.depressing.

I know there have been threads about this, but I couldn’t locate them with the search function. Sorry if this is a redundant thread..

The last few times I’ve jelqed I haven’t been able to maintain an erection beyond 6-10 jelqs. It’s horrible. I might be over-reacting a bit but this is exactly the way my sex life with my girlfriend went, where I was okay (certainly no stamina champ or anything though) during the earlier stages of our relationship (just like I was able to jelq successfully at least thrice last week), but during the middle part of it I would have bouts of ED and be unable to get it up at crucial moments (like now). It’s eerily familiar and I am incredibly depressed because of this.

Tonight I masturbated to the brink of ejaculation so many times, jelqed 6-10 times, and got soft immediately. Does that do anything to help the penis at all? I ended up shooting my load after the 15th try or so out of frustration. I really had wanted to stop ejaculating right after PE, but I needed that release because I had a lot of bent-up anger at that point..

Also, I know it is possible that my inability to stay hard may be psychological. I have reoccurring day mares of my girlfriend and I breaking up, being infidels, all sorts of negative ideas that I tend to act out in my mind and even aloud sometimes (she’s away at college). I have trust issues obviously.

My “friends” always take jabs at me. I suppose it comes with the territory befriending loud-mouthed rapscallions, but it really sucks. It’s been happening since I was in 7th grade. I was going to create another thread (tomorrow probably) delving deeper into social issues involving people with small penises..

The last thing I suspect is that my girth is too skinny to keep erections for too long. My 4” girth is the smallest I’ve seen on this site and probably one of the smaller in existence, and I often wonder if I fall into that category of having an inhumanly tiny organ, incapable of sustaining hardness for a normal amount of time.

I feel horrible. My only true friend is my girlfriend and I can’t even trust that she’ll stay faithful. She’s given me no indication that she would do otherwise, but she’s young, inexperienced and impressionable. Plus a 7 month drought would wear on even the strongest relationships, I’m sure. I want to improve myself for her, but the last few days all PE has done is make me more depressed than I already was because she’s gone.

I’m sorry for all this bitching, didn’t really stick to the topic. I needed to get this off my chest. I’m going to bed now and I’m gonna go to the gym in the morning, then school, then work, and then hopefully PE at night, so hopefully everything’ll be good tomorrow. Night everyone.

Mark

Try to do other PE exercises. Try clamping or stretching or pumping or something like that.

I can do a lot of stretching, ADS and clamping and my erections are still strong and lasts a long time, but if I just jelq for 5 min I get problems with my erections. Just like you describe. My girth is 5,5 at midshaft and 5,7 at base. I dont think jelqing is fore everyone.

Same sorta thing happened with me i think u just gotta have more off days and less on

the willy is a sensitive thing i find,cant beat it around like a madman, just take

a break for a while and he should start rising again^_^

This I can guarantee is not the problem. I (unfortunately) also have 4” girth but am capable of sustaining a partial erection during jelqs (not bragging or anything by any means).

I suspect it is all psychological and you just have to be in the right mindset when doing PE. Right before I PE, I browse through a few threads in this forum, mainly inspiring threads, to keep me motivated. I find that this boosts my confidence enough to get through the session if I’m not feeling too great that day.

DaPenisMightier hits it.

This is a mind thing. Jelqing is boring. Initially you probably had no problems because it was new and “fun”, but now it’s normal and boring.

Try using porn if you aren’t using porn.

Try not using porn if you are using porn.

Try subscribing to a different porn site with weird and wonderful sexual perversions you haven’t gotten into before.

Try putting some music with a good beat on.

Try distracting yourself in some other way, so you don’t start to worry losing your erection.

Try cunnilingus with your girlfriend, spend a session just trying to get her off.

Try some herbs, Tribulous, Yohimbe, horney goat weed, whatever.

I have seen by putting on some porn and glancing at it while Jelqing will give you the necessary erection (be warned that staring can lead to masturbation). I then go back to concentration on Jelqing until the erection goes down. Then back to the porn to raise my erection, Repeat as necessary until the end of the exercize.

This is exactly what I do at times. I sometimes leave a porn movie looping on my screen, readily available in case I need a boost.

Wow :star: :dance:

It sounds like you are mind-tripping yourself.

Don’t internalize the negative messages. I would also suggest to do PE for yourself, not someone else. It’s fertile ground for them to manipulate you with and make you feel bad later. Do it for the right reasons.

My 2 cents for you.. I found my erection fades during jelqing when I use an overhand grip. Changing to a forward hand grip (whatever it’s called!) works better for me. I feel a strong pressure in my glans that feels like a super-hard erection and that tends to encourage the real thing. Try it, you might like it :)

Skitolla11,

I definitely want to get into other PE exercises later on, but to be on the safe side I want to stick to the newbie routine for a few months or so..

I was given the same advice when I was having trouble getting it up when having sex with my girl. Days off are not the answer (for me at least). Thanks for the suggestion though.

See, I used to be able to sustain partial erections during jelqs too. I’m unsure as to what it is happening now, though I do suspect it’s psychological as you said. Same with my problems with my girl.

I also find reading through threads inspiring. Thanks for letting me know I’m not alone in the girth department. :) Have you gained anything from PEing yet?

I do use porn, and I suppose I could try without tonight. I’m also very into music, so something slow could definitely set the mood. That cunnilingus idea would be great if my girlfriend were here..

I’ve never tried this type of stuff before and I’m probably gonna hold off until I’ve got more cash before investing in them. Thanks for the idea.

I tend to watch porn while jelqing. Maybe using this glance technique will be better. I’ll be sure to try this as well.

Hey, my mentor. Great advice man. I do tend to get down on myself A LOT because of my small penis/bad experiences and try to justify my life through making my girlfriend happy. A very smart friend of mine has told me on an innumerable amount of occasions that happiness starts from within and that my girlfriend doesn’t make me happy, I allow her to make me happy, and yada yada yada. I find it difficult to apply these concepts to my life while I’m in the moment though. I SHOULD be doing this for myself. You are absolutely right. I will try to keep that in mind, if I’m not able to convince myself that that is the ONLY reason to do it.

I do use the forward hand grip. Thanks for your contribution.

Thanks to everyone for your input. I truly appreciate it and look forward to reading more.off to have another go at this. Wish me luck. :)

Mark