Originally Posted by ManChuck
In addition I’d have been told I was attractive (not hot or desirable mind you) an have been rated (just polled the ladies at work for this post ha ha) a 5 - 8, while I rate myself a 3-5. So some serious
You know what’s funny about that rating system is that you got a 5-8 with such a bad attitude. The one nice thing about women is that they do not base attractiveness solely on physical appearance like most of us men do. Women look at a number of things, for example:
1. How you carry yourself
2. How you dress
3. How funny you are
4. Confidence, confidence, confidence (I think this is the most important item)
5. How important you are
6. How comfortable you make them feel
I’ve seen women give Steven Tyler of Aerosmith a 10 and this is in his recent days! Yuck! However, if he wasn’t such a big star with all that confidence oozing of him, there is no way he’d get a 10 in anybody’s book. He’d look like a creepy aging hipster.
Do yourself a favor. Try a new thing every week and practice it. What I mean is, Monday, go into work and choose a couple ladies as targets. Walk by their desk and smile without looking away. Stop at there desk, look relaxed (no crossing of arms and standing stiff) and ask them how their weekend was. Talk for a while and if it starts to get uncomfortable say “well I guess I better get to work”. Next week, go to a trendy and respected store and have a well dressed gay guy (make sure it’s a salesperson :) )pick a couple of outfits for you and possibly give you some grooming advice. I know it’s a stereotype but I have found that “well dressed” gay guys take more pride in helping out the averge joe’s like us look cool. Oh and make sure to trust them. Don’t say “no that’s just not me”. The odds are with you that they are not going to try to make you look like a clown. New styles are hard to adjust to and that’s how we get stuck in out of date dressing habits. Next week, get a cool new haircut and keep it trimmed every month or so. $25 bucks a month is nothing to look good for the ladies. Keep building on things like this week by week. Slowly your confidence should build up nicely to where when you look in the mirror, you want to fuck yourself.
Self image is weird. When you feel down, you see a monster in the mirror with inadequate parts. When you are feeling good, you can’t stop looking in the mirror and feel proud about every part you carry. However, you are looking at the same reflection.