My kegel success

I had problems that resembled venous leakage, with losing erection when standing up and about 90% erections.

I started doing kegels 4-5 weeks ago, once a day really focused and throughout the day, whenever I can.
First, I tried to isolate my BC muscle, which proved to be hard, as it was weak to the point I couldn’t even feel it twitch. I solved this, by putting my fingers on my perineum, just behind/ on the sack, and trying to squeeze it. It helps doing this on all fours in the beginning. Another thing that makes it easier, is to anterior tilt the pelvis by sucking in the stomach with light abs contractions. This lead to light improvements in EQ and regular morning wood.

Next, and most importantly, I started squeezing the part behind the BC, about 5cm behind where the cheeks start. I did this by “sucking in” that part and focusing on contracting the right and left part of it. This proved to be a game changer! Note that this didn’t work as much when I contracted the entire pelvic floor (so contracting the most posterior part was detrimental for me), but only the middle part, which is also the lowest part of the torso.

Does this part have a specific name? I can’t remember ever reading about this.

Now my EQ is 99% (my CS is still not as filled as I would like), with throbbing erections and all.
I should also mention, that I do pelvic, hip and leg stretches every day for like 10 minutes, so that might had have helped, though I do this for a longer period than kegels.

All in all, I will do this my entire life now! And according to studies, I am haven’t even reached the performance ceiling, yet.

Kegels helped me a lot, too. Though for some inexplicable reason, I hate doing them.

Totally agree. Plus, being able to kegel strongly and consistently helps me with jelqing and clamping technique. I spend 10 minutes a day doing my kegels while driving to work. Something to keep my mind occupied.

Same here. I don’t know why, but I dread doing them, too. Maybe it’s because they aren’t actually made to contract voluntarily that much and nature tries to stop us.

I think because there’s no visible feedback. It’s all internal. Curl a bicep and you see it contract. With kegels, nothing.

It’s not that, I train my calves, too, despite them not really growing. I don’t need feedback if it helps at least in theory.
Really, there is something psychologicallly stressful to it, I can’t quite tell why.

I have been trying to exercise those muscles too, but I am not coordinated enough or toned enough to learn them. What I have learned has helped though. It has taken me years of trying, but I think there is improvement.

Is it still working? How much do you do?

This looks interesting but not clear what area you are talking about “behind the cheeks”. Can you elaborate?