MY Obsession and Starting Sizes

This is a chance for me to tell my story, My soon to be ex wife has constantly thrown it in my face about the size of her new lovers penis. She said he is around 8” and really thick (her words) To make matters worse he does everything better in bed than me (according to her) I also found some trojan magnums in her car a few days before one of her sleepovers with him. This has been the most crushing blows to my manhood that I ever could have imagined after being with her for 11 years and married for 9 years. This is where I came up with my name BTW. P.S. I did try on one of the magnums (after I told her I threw them in the dumpster) and it actually wasn’t as loose as I thought it would be :) . Yeah guys she can go to hell as far as I’m concerned I am doing this for me. This has become an obsession for me. Thanks for letting me vent on you guys keep driving on! Oh guys almost forgot I have been PEing fairly consistantly for about two months and have gained 1/8th an inch in length (7”bpsl) and have not measured girth since starting at 5” but it definately looks and feels thicker at this point. It is also more veiny and hangs better (at least during the summertime).

I was devastated after the first girl I had sex with told some of our friends that I was small. Even after several women commented that I had a big dick, I was not able to overcome my lack of self confidence. This lack of confidence limited me in approaching women and probably led to my considerable shyness. In the back of my mind I was always worried what a woman would think of my small dick. After finding this site I came to realize that I was above average. Even after some positive comments and knowing what I know to be the truth about sizes, I still want to increase my size. I would also like to add that once I became aware that I was not small my confidence in speaking to women increased considerably and have noticed that they tend to flirt with me a lot more now. I wish I had known the truth twenty years ago.

Beginning 2/2008: 7” BP , 5.5 EG
7/2008 7.5 BP. 5.75 EG

I measured it out to 7.5 BP. I guess the whole thing started with my ex who put me down all the time. That plus the fact that she could never orgasm during sex. Which of course was a blow to my manhood. She always stated how she had been with bigger guys and what not, but she complained that sex was painful with me, and I always used lube. When my current girlfriend told me it wasn’t that big and that she has seen bigger it really hurt my feelings. It made me feel totally inadequate, and it brought about old feelings of resentment and hatred towards my ex who was a serious bitch (but damn sexy). When I talked to my gf about the whole situation she said that yes it actually is big, she just didn’t want me to become even more egotistical. So who really knows the truth maybe she’s just trying to save my feelings. Maybe women have no real clue on size or realize how important our penis’s are to us, and how much we ‘need’ them to be happy with what we have, and for heavens sake stop mentioning other guys penis’s, frankly I would rather not know!

Wow, where do I start with this post?

Firstly when you say your G/F has said “has seen bigger” and it hurt your feelings, why? Take a look on the internet, massive dicks are out there. ANY guy doing PE is not likely to ever be the biggest on the block, that is why they are doing PE! Some guys are naturally 10”, some pornstars towards 12-13” length, 7-7.5” girth. That is reality, that is the world, there is always someone bigger, richer, fitter, etc. You have to get to a position of being comfortable with your size and in knowing it is in the larger section of men, as 7.5BP is.

On the fact your ex couldn’t orgasm during sex, this is common with many ladies so I hear and NOTHING to do with penis size. If a lady cannot climax through intercourse, having a 10” won’t make the slightest difference, infact probably cause more pain and create more issues.

As you state, some girls have no idea on sizes. Some use size as a weapon regardless of the truth and some play it down to keep a man rather than him going into an egomaniac and more likely to sleep around.

I see the point you make, I myself have gained to 7” BP, however, despite gaining an inch I still feel small and as though I’ve gained nothing, despite the tape measure and picture evidence!

Half of the issue here is accepting the reality of what is and isn’t large, regardless of how you personally feel.

A natural 9”, has a certain amount of tissues, and a certain amount of enlarged chambers, etc

A PE 9”, has a certain amount of tissues, and a certain amount of enlarged chambers, etc.

I think if you wanted to take a PE 7” to 13”, if you had enough patience and time, it wouldn’t be any different than taking a natural 10” to 13”. The only difference is time.

Regarding your ex: the prevailing wisdom when I started to learn about these things is that women are responsible for their OWN orgasm. If they do not have an orgasm, it is not automatically your fault or responsibility.

(Although I have to admit being amused by the "Orgasm Donor" t-shirts: http://www.tshi rtbordello.com/ … oduct_info.html )

Regarding your current girlfriend, it just goes to show how some ‘sensitive’ people may, in fact, just be sensitive to their OWN feelings, and not to anyone else’s.

What would your girlfriend’s reaction be if you told her "Gee, honey, your ass isn’t THAT fat"?

Is it possible that you pissed those girls off and they’re lying? They may know that you know you have a big penis and that you find solace in that fact that you know that. They may have attempted to hurt your feelings by attacking your man hood.

Well, all of my buddies always comment on me having a big dick and inserting it into tight young girls. I’m sure my current gf does not want to hear of such things. However, attacking a mans penis size is no way to attempt revenge.

There are massive dicks out there, but that is a warped view of reality. “some” as in one in a million? Where are all these foot long dicks in porn? Or with these huge girths you refer to? I’ve never seen one, (and if you’ve viewed as much porn as I have, that’s saying something) and if you are seeing any, they’re prosthetics. I don’t know anyone, male or female, who can put an object 7 inches in circumference, in their mouth. Shane Diesel and all these “giant” porn stars have pictures with them in girls mouths.

No one has ever produced a picture of Jonah Falcon erect, with a ruler, and yet people still claim he is 13 inches, or what not. They cite some HBO Special nobody can ever produce a vid capture from, as evidence.

There are no pictures of legitimate 10 inches (bp or non) even right here, on a PE site, exactly where you’d expect to find them, as far as I know. I’ve looked. Couldn’t find one.

I appreciate the sentiment behind your post, Ruz, as clearly your heart is in the right place, but let’s try to remember to be reasonable when we put sizes out there. I think the mis-perceptions inherent in porn, and the lack of a true understanding of reality (as based on empirical, objective evidence), is what has led a lot of us to have these “obsessions” over size. And perpetuating the flawed views of reality, with these many exaggerations of what is and isn’t, is counterproductive. Yes, its certainly possible that his girlfriend has seen bigger, but in all likelihood, it wasn’t much longer, and probably not much thicker as well. And it’s probably even more likely than that, that she was only making it up to get to him.

My point is, if penis size competition is your insecurity, its silly to be worried about 10 inch guys and such things. It would be like, if your insecurity were wealth competition, and you were concerned that your girlfriends exes all had more money, thinking she had been with one of the Forbes 400 members. You might as well worry about getting hit by a meteorite.

The other half, as I mentioned above, is understanding what IS NOT reality, as well. The seemingly never-ending bombardment of the unsubstantiated references to phantom giant dicks drives men (and women too) batty, and frankly, creates unreasonable and unrealistic goals of achievement and competition that can never be fulfilled. Nobody here is ever going to be 12 or 13 inches long, because the odds against being some freak of nature that would be in Guinness, are astronomical. Even the people that are already reputed to possess dicks that size can’t prove it, such as all of the ones in porn, Jonah Falcon, John Holmes, whoever you can think of, its simply unverifiable, and in many cases, obviously untrue.

There’s been members (or at least, a member) here who have made similarly ludicrous claims and been thoroughly debunked, after having already convinced 65,000 people of the indisputable veracity of their claims! Of course, I think in this infamous case to which I refer, he did it primarily to illustrate this precise point, not out of a malicious intent to defraud.

This should be an example to everyone in a similar situation that they may need to start dealing with their obsessions in a more reasonable and objective fashion. Some chick makes a comment that is ambiguous or misconstrued to some poor guy and he will obsess about it for 20 years.

On 8 inches, 10 inches even 13 inches.

We ALL KNOW that these are not required for the job. Even a 4 or 5 incher could do the job.

That there are thunders members with 8 and 9 inches useable, and they still get called small by women who are attempting the take a cut out of his ego.

Thats all it is. Even if you are “small”. Why give it to him?

If someone wants to waste 20 years of his life or 2 years of time out of twenty years growing a 15 inch unit, I say more power to him.

We all waste time on the stupidest of things, and being a PE site I would be impressed if someone pulled that off.

Fantom I’m very near the 7 inch girth mark. My girlfriend can put me in her mouth and loves to do it. Comparing the pictures I’ve seen of Shane I would say he’s a quarter to half an inch larger in girth than I am. Face it there are girthy units out there and there are big mouths too. As far as length of twelve inches or more I really doubt it.

Well i guess thats the advantage of compressible tissue - otherwise a normal human would never get it in their mouths. Ever tried to insert a cylinder more than 2 inches diameter into your mouth ? Most people dont have two inches between top and bottom rows of teeth when mouth is fully open.

It’s all about the relevant body size. Look at Mandingo. He’s a short guy, 5’7”, yet probably has close to a 10” nbp penis. If he was 6’3” it’d look a lot smaller on him.

Again, falling prey to porn photography and promotional BS.

Mandingo has a big dick but its certainly NOT 10 inches NBP.

There are entire ARTICLES heres on thunders about the illusions of porn. DLD wrote one of the best ones..you can find it with search.

Mandigo is huge. With two hands on his unit, there is 2 or 3 inches uncovered.

Most of us on Thunders have no problem believing that hes 10” to 11”.