Need a better understanding about ED and if my "performance" is normal?

So the conclusion is even when there is mental / psychical stimualtion there does not have to be a full boner the whole time ?

I think you’re going to talk yourself into what you fear. Read the whole thread.

I sort of wondered about this as well. I took some Viagra over the summer, and I walked around all day with a freaking boner. I realized that I wasn’t as perky as I used to be. Still, I have no problem with the wife, and I can still get an erection without physical stimulation, but I think it is more mental than physical, for me at least. My wife and I don’t have sex very often, and so I have been forced to train myself against becoming too aroused around her. I don’t know what the long-term effects of this will be, but I suppose we’ll see. I know it’s more difficult for me to obtain a firm masturbation erection, and jelqing is sometimes cumbersome and frustrating.

Anyway, might have to try some pharm. That shit is ~expensive~ though, as is testosterone replacement. I’m giving this PE thing a hard go, cutting out porn and minimizing masturbation to see if that helps. Also continuing to work out physically and maintain my weight (I’m already in decent shape), minimize alcohol, work on kegels and so forth, try to maximize what I have when I need it. So far I have never missed a show with my wife. I still pop a boner when she jumps in the shower or when she’s getting dressed, or sometimes when I hold her hand and such.

Oh, and I stopped reading the posts halfway through. Obsessing over this stuff is a sure-ass way to lose your boner. RELAX and just use what you have. Do not overthink your erections, or they will dip for sure.

- Saul

Yea I read it , it says it is normal and not a case of ED or other problems. Just those thoughts could actually lead to a problem if I don’t stop I guess

I’m 43 and in fairly good shape. I used to get raging erections at any moment in my teens. They slowed down to needing visual input in my mid 20s, physical stimulation in my mid thirties. Now, they are slow to react even when I’m playing with my wife in the bed. A phycally naked woman doesn’t cause me to get an erection either. Without constant stimulation and/or sexually exciting input, I lose it. It’s just what it is. I’m working on making it better or at least to not let it get worse.

Barring a mental/physical ailment, you are fine. Prepare for the future because it will be more difficult with each passing decade.

I mean I actually feel ok and I don’t think I have ED. I just was told from someone in a other forum that I have mental ED as I don’t keep a full erection for a long time without stimulation-

This confused me actually .. I even told him that I had sex first round with a boner from start till the end without fluctuations and second round after 10 minutes break

He still staid I have situational ED .. That was also the reason why I asked if a man should keep a full hard erection forever ( without direct stimulation)