Need a better understanding about ED and if my "performance" is normal?

Hey there :)

I was reading through some posts here and cam across this one:
How long does your erection last without any stimulation?
(One guy complained that he is loosing his erection when stopping stimulation.
But when I just masturbate and then let go then my erection angle will point down in 20-30 seconds and I will be soft in like 1-2 minutes

So my “performance” is:

- I have morningwood almost every morning ( diffirent hardness but it goes away when I stand up

- Sex is no problem, can also maintain an erection for 5-25 minutes without direct stimulation, just laying in bed with gf ( like a big tent in my boxers)

- During cunnilingus I soften often to semi hard and need some hand stimulation (me or her) to be completely hard for intercourse. Usually takes 5 seconds

So like my question is if not having a full erection the whole time when doing foreplay to a girl is classified as ED?
Like for me an untouched erection varies in length. Sometimes I even stay 30 minutes hard without the need of strokes, one times when I am tired or not so in the mood it is like just 5 minutes or less and I need foreplay,

So yes there are many variations and I once had a stronger erection in my second round that the first.

So is it normal that I don’t have a rock hard erection every time I focus on my girl?

23 years old, in shape, don’t smoke, don’t watch porn

Your “performance ability” sounds very healthy and normal. I think you have nothing to worry about.

ED would be more technically described as the inability to obtain or maintain an erection adequate for intercourse.

Ah ok thanks:)

Just in one forum I read where a guy said that it is ED when for example erection soften a bit during cunnilingus

Erection problems like going soft in under 30 seconds post stimulation are more the sign of dysfunction. Never getting fully hard. A distinct lack of morning wood.

Those are more what poor performance is rated on.

Yes when I masturbate and then let go then my erection angle will be pointing down in 20-30 seconds and I will be soft may in one minute.

With a girl this is diffirent as she turns me on and then I once stayed up for more than 30 minutes without touching

But it can happen when she gives me a blowjob and I am going to another room to grab a condom and come back it could e that my boner will be a bit less hard and I would need to apply some strokes

So all I all normal?

What I described doesn’t change with a girl. If a girl isn’t stimulating me cobstantly, the erection fades in 30 seconds. Simple as that.

If you cam keep it up for Intercourse, you’re normal and healthy. That’s the metric for judging this.

So your situation is also normal and healthy then?

I just got maybe a wrong impression that an erection should stay up the whole time when I am mentally aroused

My situation is NOT normal and healthy. But medication and very clever oral work wonders.

So what is now with me? If I get a bit softer during foreplay is it normal and healthy to get some stimulation to be ready for intercourse?

Let me me repeat in plainer terms:

If you can get your penis hard without a cocktail ring or medicine enough to have intercourse you are normal and healthy.

What you describe is normal. It is measured by having successful sex without any tools, surgery or medication.

One last thing, could you explain me what do you mean with under 30 seconds as I saw many posts about that when people ask this if it is normal and how they could improve it?

As I gave the example when I just masturbate and stop touching myself then my boner will also be semi hard after 20-30 seconds

Whereas when turned on it stays up a lot longer

Why should the body expend energy to keep something erect when it is not being used? Kind of like leaving the lights on in a room when no one is in there; waste of energy.

What you are describing sounds normal for your age. It happens to all of us in life. As you get older, erections become more difficult. Fixing it back to teen levels might be impossible but PE helps. Suplementing your diet might also increase it. Your testosterone levels might need looking at. They usually don’t dip too much at 23 but it could happen. Stress also does a number on your erections.

Thanks for your answer.

I mean they don’t become difficult to achieve. I get them very easy, I just can’t keep them for ever (more than 20 minutes etc without touch to it) It happen sometimes but rarely

So you’re fine; move on!