Paralysis by analysis--my pissed off rant

I’m nearing the end of my 10th week of my stealth PE venture and I’m already getting majorly pissed off at the whole thing. First, I wonder why do I even do this crap? I started at exactly 6 x 5—average, vanilla, plain jane, ordinary joe average. My woman never has complained and she said she doesn’t give a @#%##@^& whether I’m 6” or 9” and that if I do these exercises that it will be because of my own insecurities and that she’s fine with me, blah, blah, blah.Our sex life has been good but very predictable, we get each other hot/wet, we bang for 20-30 mins, we blow our loads, then we go to sleep. Same frickin thing every time. One thing about my wife, she ALWAYS orgasms, I can count on both hands the number of times she hasn’t blown her load during our nine years of 2-3 times per week sex. The thing that pisses me off is that she has settled into a pattern and won’t be as adventurous as before. She wants me to do all the work, she says that it’s relaxing for her to lay there and let me “do her” as she says. I tell her that I miss our more passionate times and she says that she’s just too tired to “really get into it like you want me to.”

Anyway, I stumble onto Thundersplace and learn about manual exercises to make my dong larger. I read about how so many guys have these crazy fast gains.”I gained frickin 2 inches in the first frickin month.. Wow!”.. And how their bigger pipe is causing their ladies to go ape in the bedroom. So, I say to myself, “Self, you gotta start doing this and maybe your woman, too, will become a sex machine as she admires your new toy.” So I do the newbie routine for 8 weeks and notice a 0.5” longer flaccid but still nothing really new in the ERECT length/girth department. I do notice harder erections, and the ability to stay hard long after I blow, so there are other benefits to PE even if no size gains are made. So, what do I do?

I’m, by nature, a reader/researcher, so I read just about every thread in the place and see all these different routines and methods. I read how one guy gains something wack like “2 inches in the first month.yes!” on a different routine and I think, whoa, maybe THAT’S what I should be doing. It’ so un-be-freakin-liev-able how many different routines people have and all the contradictions in results from people. So, now, I’m at the point where I say “screw it” and just go with a simple plan of 10-15 mins. Of jelq/uli/stretch in the morning and repeat at night. I can’t figure this crap out so I might as well just keep it simple, give it time, quit filling my head up with all the paralysis by analysis.

As for me and my wife, she says she’s fine with my meat the way it is, but I want to see what would happen if I grew to a 7-7.5” x 6” and pound her with that for a while and see what she says then. She had our 2nd child four months ago and says that she’s just too tired for sex, which now only seems to happen on the weekend. I do all the stuff that the experts say to do; I help with the kids, I do the frickin dishes, laundry, I treat her with affection, praise her, touch in non-sexual ways, etc. And still, she says she’s too exhausted.problem is I’m starting to get pissed at her, which will only drive a wedge between us if I let it go on. Anyway, I’ve read from some of the older threads that many folks gained on simple straight-forward plans of MEDIUM length/intensity. A common theme among lots of gainers has been consistency, not over-doing it, jelquing, stretching, and Uli’s. So, for me, for the near future it will be no more obsession and pre-occupation with all this, instead it will be 10-15 mins. AM/PM of jelqs, a few uli thrown in, and stretches with very gradual increases. We’ll see how that goes.

First of all, your marriage is most important. I’d personally suggest professing your sexual frustration, and getting a therapist or something before this escalates. You’ve got children to think about here. Getting pissed off at your wife won’t help anything. But you’re certainly entitled to a full, healthy, sexually active life, and your wife ought to be a supporting BENEFICIARY.

On to PE:

It’s a long road. Frustrating as hell. But it’s definitely worth it — if you don’t hurt yourself. Even then it’ll likely prove worth-while, assuming your penis is still attached. In the beginning (first few months), just do the jelq/stretch. You’re probably going to see considerable length differences. Girth won’t change too much. But you’re conditioning your penis, so that in a few months you can do more serious exercises that engorge your penis for extended periods of time (namely clamping). Then you’ll see gains.

Nobody knows how long the PE road is. It’s abstract. You’ve got to tackle it though. And remember that every step you take forward is another step in the right direction. Just don’t be slack. Be smart. Listen to your body so as to prevent injury. And listen to your body so you know how much pressure to apply during the exercises.

You’re smart. You’ll do fine. Most importantly, in my humble opinion, is taking care of the problems with between yourself and wifey.

Good luck!

Rawpower,
Whoever said that is full of shit. We vets on this forum pretty much know who is talking shit and who’s for real.
IMHO…gains like that take a lot of hard work and are usually in a time frame of years and not months.
If you gain a full inch in your first year then consider yourself a good gainer.
Just remember that where ever you go in life you have to learn to separate the bullshitters from the genuine article or real McCoy.

I can sum this up in one sentence.

“Everyone gains differently, fast or slow, you’ll get there in the end, persistance is key”

raw power,

I can’t give you any advice with your wife. I also got confused with all the exercises and routines. I have also returned back to the real basics of manual stretching and jelqing. I kind of through in a few minutes of clamping every once in a while but that’s it.

I furthermore do not count my reps, nor do I try to stopp the time that I’m doing PE. When counting, I constantly rush things when I’m in a tight schedule. When stopping time I constantly do half-hearted jelqs just to get trhough with my routine. That all just to fucking satisfy my bad consious when not getting through the entire routine.

Now I focus only on doing my reps properly. If I’m in a rush, I do less. But each rep is a good one that’s for sure. Besides getting a good workout, this has also helped with my motivation to continue with PE since I feel good when I’m doing good excersises that are productive.

Perhaps you might give that a try ?!

MRD

Better get that up on the agenda, if necessary with the aid of a professional. She needs to understand this is serious. There is a big fucking oak wedge in my marriage due to the inability of both parties to reach a mutual understanding.

But do consider yourself lucky that you get laid that often, all things considered.