Questions about ED and what's normal

Hello! I’m new here at this site. I have some questions I would wanna ask you guys, as a see you as a bunch of informative beings.
First let me tell you about my PE experience.

I haven’t done much PEing mostly just some stretching to increase my flaccid size, but did not have a regular schedule.
Done a fairly little amount of jelqing but I was afraid I might damage it so I kinda just quit after a 5-6 tries.

I am worried I might have a venous leak to some degree I am not sure but, I lose erections fast or faster than I think is normal.
I first noticed this problem when I was having sex with a girl I met, when I was going out. We started kissing and my erection was weak and it took allot of stimulation to get it up!
I then managed to penetrate her but dint came so after awhile we just stopped and fell asleep.
Even though I was drunk I think since I am 21 I should have a problem anyway, but I blamed it on the booze.

I then later met another girl which I dated for 2 months, here is where my problems surfaced. I was able to have sex the first couple of times ok, but would lose it (erection disappearing to fast) sometimes like 1 outta 3 times.
If I managed to penetrate her I would not lose it unless I stopped due to the fact that I have a hard time cumming inside a vagina even if it was a tight fit. She later broke up with me which caused me some depression to some degree because I thought I was the reason she did so. I’m not very experienced in sex I might add, but I tried to do a little test on myself to find out if it was nerves. I tried to Measure how long my erection would last until it got soft with out touching it or thinking about something erotic. I usually managed to stay hard for 20 - 30 seconds until it was so soft that penetration would be difficult. It starts to lose blood around err 17 or 18 seconds. This is without any manual stimulation or viewing something erotic tried to clear my mind as best as a could. Only used my hand to get hard.

So is it Anxiety? I am a laid back guy because I try to be, but I do get pretty nervous around a girl but that’s normal right?
Or is it a Venous leak
Maybe both?
Can you guys stay hard just viewing porn? I can sometimes if I’m horny other times it goes down after about a minute or so.

Alright that’s it I guess hope to get some replies.

Without stimulation I also lose the erection quite quickly but I’d think that it’s normal. Might just be your mind playing tricks on you. I have actually tried how long I can go on and it resulted in multiple hours.

Welcome to thunders.

I’ve been through the exact same thing when I was your age and have been looking for the answers ever since. I can get up to 1/4 (semi-erect) and will loose it in less than a few minutes without constant stimulation.

Having a larger penis, it makes my erection problems even worse because it takes a lot more blood to get all that soft meat rigid. I have read that other well endowed men have this same problem but I don’t think that is my whole problem because I’ve seen some very large cocks in adult movies that look very hard and don’t seem to have trouble staying hard for a long time.

If the girl seems to lose any interest whatsoever, or if she showed any sign that she is getting impatient, I would go completely soft! As soon as I would lose one bit of confidence, I would lose all the blood that my cock was filled with and all firmness would gone!

I would have a lot of trouble staying hard while using a condom because it kills a lot of sensitivity but I don’t know how I would be without one since I never had the chance to do that.

I would not make it a habit of getting drunk if you are want to get erections. Alcohol will impede your senses and only make matters worse.

Thank you for you’re replies, I can also (if I’m masturbating) go on for as long as I like until I reach PO NR.

I have thought about this allot and I think each time I thing about it I get more insane:P and my mind is F***ING with me.

I am able to get an erection watching for instance porn my penis is average size though

But can you guys stay hard to porn without masturbating? If so how long?

If you can keep it up like that with porn then theres no venous leakage. It’s a psychological problem. You can try to cut all visual stimulants for a while and then try again.

Thank you for you answer, I feel a little less worried now. Yeah maybe I should try masturbating less`? Usually I go for 2-3 times a day, I’m also gonna cut porn out completely and stop smoking, hell I might even become a healthier person because of this.

Another question: how many times a week is it considered normal to masturbate?

You can do it as many times as you can. It’s when you NEED hardcore porn to get it up at all, that’s where it becomes destructive. Some time ago I used to do it 5-10 times a day, sometimes 2-3, some days none at all.

I agree with Dude151. If you can get it up with porn and masturbation, you can rule out venous leak. Now work on your psychological issues. Wean yourself off of porn and take a short vacation from ejaculation. That should help. Also, begin a regular light jelqing routine.

Good luck