sex for the first time, kinda disappointed...

Sorry tried to post this in a different forum but it didn’t work.

Im 18 and had sex last night for the first time. Im kinda disappointed cause it wasn’t as good as I thought it would be. I could barley keep an erection at first and she was so tight it kinda hurt. We fucked for over an hour and I couldn’t even finish. I eventually stopped cause I got bored. I mean it felt great and all but I just wasn’t excited… Is there somthing wrong with me? Any advise would be really great. Thanks guys.

The Catholic Church needs priests.

Find a “expert” woman ….and you will see the difference!

Enjoy.

ratrat;

Be patient and don’t give up. I believe everyones first time isn’t that great. Believe me, it will get MUCH better. Practice,Practice,Practice.

Was the girl “experienced” at all??

Whatever you do, don’t switch teams till you give it time!!

Rat,

To tell you the truth my first time wasn’t that great either. I also know a lot of other guys that had similar experiences. It is funny that you always hear that women have had bad first-time experiences but not much is ever said about the men’s point of view. Trust me you are not the only man that has said this.

It gets better. I am in my mid 30s now.So far, the best sex I ever had has been with women in their 40s.

Well at least it wasn’t ‘pump pump squirt erm?’

Although it hearts me to hear about my wife loosing her virginity I guess it may have made her into the dirty little whore she is now :D ………..she said she lost it when she was 16-17 to some guy maybe 19. Apparently he had a pretty big cock and really knew what to do, so took her through most of the sexual positions of the Karma Sutra before leaving her in a puddle of her own juices (OK I made the last bit up) but it sure put my first in the shade ?!?!

Gprent: You made me SCOM (spit coffee on monitor), put a warning on replies like that, i.e. “do not be drinking coffee while reading this”.

Ratrat: Dont worry about it, it’s definately not the worst of all things that could have happened to you. I remember my first sexual experience wasn’t that great, but maybe it would have been better if I had someone with me.

My first time was when I was 18 and she was 21. We were both virgins and didn’t really know what we should do when. She was too tight and dry and everything was akward. Like you, I wasn’t able to finish either. Too much performance anxiety and my expectations were way off. It definately gets better. Now I’m 32 and sex has never been better. My wife and I are all over each other. I’ve found that making women come with foreplay before starting intercourse leads to great intercourse. Also, make sure you let her on top at some point. That’s the position most women seem to come in.

Hang in there big guy, there is nothing wrong with abstinence.

Keep the pony in the barn until the storm past

Bjames: Good points. Now that I think of it, I wasn’t able to finish my first time (with someone there) either. Also, like you said, “warm up the frying pan, before you start cooking”.

It would be interesting to know if any intact men (uncircumcised) have reported similar problems (I doubt it). Ratrat, in my experience, infant circumcision (especially a tight circumcision) causes major reduced sexual pleasure in both intercourse and masturbation.

I wondered what the big fuss was all about the first time I had sex myself. It was pleasurable, but nothing compared to what I thought it was going to be like. After doing years of foreskin restoration, finally now I know what the big fuss is all about. Growing just enough shaft skin to keep the inner foreskin remnant protected (while flaccid) has made a tremendous difference for me in what I experience in terms of sexual pleasure and sexual orgasms. I never had an earth shaking full body orgasm until I was thirty two years old (a result from doing foreskin restoration). I know this for a fact because I had been with the same woman for six years at that time. Imagine that - having a so so sex life with your wife for six years, and then with several months of foreskin restoration to having a completely awesome and totally satisfying sex life! To say the least, she and I were very pleased with my results of doing foreskin restoration. I would be in total sexual bliss for hours afterward (sometimes even in to the next day). It was complete sexual satisfaction and contentment like I never had known was even possible.

r0ad_h0gg

My first time wasn’t the best either. Nor was the second, third or fourth times. They weren’t that memorable but it did get better. Once you learn what you like while having sex and what turns you on while having sex, it gets much better. The first time just gets the juices flowing. It is the steady flow that makes it better.

My first time is hard to pinpoint, but whenever it happened it was good. This is why:

When I was first experiementing in my teens, my partner and I did a lot of foreplay and almost no penetration. There was no expectations about sexual intercourse; in fact, we would agree NOT TO have penetration. Just lying there feeling each other (you mean I get to touch and suck on these boobies as much as I want!!!??) and kissing and massaging for a couple hours was terrific. At some point we would decide to “just put it in” for a few strokes to see what it felt like, but again with no expectations and the idea that it “didn’t count”.

This went on for at least a couple weeks, until finally “just putting it in” meant following through until we had sex for a few minutes and I was ready to blow. I was 17 and could hardly last more than a few minutes anyway, and we used the ol’ (not recommended!) “Withdrawal Method”.

Anyway, looking back on it, I think I lucked into a good thing. Now I would say I lost my virginity that first time I penetrated my partner, even though it was only for a few seconds. But by not putting any expectations on either of us, when we started having sex for longer and longer times, it was always good…

My advice, put an emphasis on foreplay and lower your expectations on you and your partner until you get used to everything…

Commander Blop over and out

When I first had sex we must have gone for at least 45 minutes, and then she dried up. No doubt my technique was horrible, (no doubt it still isn’t awesome) and I was very nervous. I wasn’t able to get off. But I still remember the time fondly. I’m still with the same girl btw, and the sex has gotten alot better over the last year and a half.

It’s threads like this that help me fight back any doubt I may have had in my decision to avoid dissapointing ‘first time sex’. Although I’ve had a number of girlfriends I didn’t feel emotionally attached enough to any of them for sex to be a truly worthwhile experience, the opportunities were there but I didn’t like the idea of thinking I ‘should’ take them just because it’s such a stigma to be a virgin, to hell with that….I am my own person and will never be forced down that road.

As a result I am now 26 and the most I’ve ever done is some heavy petting, still a virgin. Does it bother me? Sometimes, but the idea of being able to experience sex for the first time with someone I really care for sounds too mind blowing to pass up. For me, being a virgin isn’t like walking around with an ‘X’ burnt into your forehead, it’s having a winning lottery ticket and just waiting for the right time to cash it in.