She doesn't want to know.

Interesting conversation with the lady today.

We were talking after a sex and I just thought I’d ask, “am I big enough for you?”. Obviously she said yes. Then to quantify it for her I added, “I’ll probably never be 10” so if that’s what you want, it may not work?”. In a weird fashion, she responded as if she was upset, and said, “I don’t want to hear about your size”.

I get it…that she doesn’t want to feel like she’s on the spot. But then she went on to say in her own words, “I’m not going to inflate your ego”. Of course the overthinker in me took over and I thought, without asking, of two possible scenarios, 1) she doesn’t want me to ruin the fantasy in her mind that I’m working my ten inch pipe in and out of her. or 2) she doesn’t want to feel forced to lie to protect my ego but in reality I’m, meh, in comparison to her exes.

Has anyone else encountered a similar weird response before?

3) She doesn’t want to hear about your size.

It’s 3.
She has no fantasy of you pulling on your dick. She probably fantasizes about you not thinking about her exes after sex though.

Yes, she’s normal. Nothing wrong with her response. You, like most of us here, are overly interested in this subject. Drop it with her, enjoy her lovely company, and save your obsession for us fellow obsessives.

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What The Don said:-)

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Dump the her and find someone who cares more about your cock size!
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We have to realize that unless we are objectively huge, porn star status huge, we put our SOs in a catch22 when we ask them about our size.

Either they are honest and risk crushing our fragile male egos (and boy are they fragile….) because we aren’t the biggest they’ve ever had, and god forbid they had an enjoyable sexual experience with someone more endowed than us, or they have to lie and stroke our egos, which we then turn around and call them out on, again, crushing our fragile male egos.

The only validation you should seek, is how much fun she is having and how many orgasms you give her.

I should listen to my own advice ;)

Weird how?- Joe Pesci intensifies.

In this globalized world we are living in a big competition, a constant comparison with each other, a constant need for feedback, for likes, for matches, like we live in a Spetacle Society as Guy Dubord envisioned his work and much like as Bauman’s estrutured his work on this world we live in, the liquid world. And you couldn’t satisfy yourself with the delight of sex and post-sex conversation, you had to ask her that, that question made her go up her mind and memory to compare you and your performance to other men she had before.

Maybe human consciousness was a tragic misstep in evolution, we became too self aware.

OMG that hurt. I think I laughed for five minutes. I’ll have to steal that one day if you don’t mind.

I think that there is a trigger that makes one question himself and once fired, it may take some reassurance and validation to reset it. Without going long on this because I shared it in another post, I’ve gone 30 years (I’m 47) never questioning my size and/or skill. The one or two women who made statements, I’ve never thought twice about. Then about eight years ago, I began experiencing ED due to prescription meds. I was in a different relationship then but have been in this one for the past six years. I only just accepted my condition last year, and by accepted I mean acknowledged that something is not right and began to research it. That’s how I found this site and others where size is one of the pillars of the discussion; and for the first time I began to question it. So, I’m blaming Thunder’s…..haha. just joking.

Hell honestly, I thought I was packing up until I read otherwise. haha. Yeah I knew I was bigger than some, smaller than others, but never thought of the possibility that she may not be satisfied until now. So it is a concern. To add, the first four years of our relationship we had sex maybe four times in a month. We only began regular sex last year, when again, I began taking steps to do something about it (sildenafil, cock ring, and now PE). Things have vastly improved. We are having sex every two days on average. So the question wasn’t just random, at least I don’t think. It wasn’t me looking for an ego boost necessarily, just a hey, are things really improving because I know where we were.

I guess I understand the awkwardness of the question, I just didn’t get the near hostility because I asked. She seemed genuinely annoyed. But oh well.

Anyways, thanks for all of the responses and yup, I let it go, but it was honestly an innocent question, at least I thought.

My interpretation is completely different. I think she took it that you were now bragging about your size in a domineering sort of way and that she wasn’t going to feed into that.

For instance, maybe you got it wrong and maybe you’re the biggest she’s been with and maybe she doesn’t want to admit that she enjoys your bigger size. My God don’t make her feel bad about it. The last thing you want to do is create an environment where she gets to feeling dirty about herself and can’t let go.

Try different things, pay attention to what she responds to and make her feel good, but don’t throw it in her face, make it safe for her to feel good. And when she does things that you enjoy compliment her on those things, encourage her.

My 2 cents.

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Unless you want to put her off sex… with you, I’d drop the subject! :smack:

I believe it’s normal.