Should I give a rest to PE when I am having sexual performance anxiety?

Hey. I didn’t know a better place to ask this.
I’ve been doing PE for about 2 months now. My routine now is 2 days on/1 day off/ 3 days on/ 1 day off. 10 mins of manual stretching, 5 mins of V stretches, and 25 mins of JELQing. I’ve seen some good girth gains for 2 months IMO. And a little amount of length gains. However, with my current GF, we had our first time and I was not able to get an erection. And It was definitely psychological. I was worried about it for a week and today(a week later since the first time) I also wasn’t able to get an erection. It is psychological and I can get an erection while I am at home. I’ve been trying to constantly check If there is a physical problem but there isn’t.
Do you think I should give a rest to PE for a while? Like a week or two? Can it also be affecting my erection? Or making me think too much about my size and also cause anxiety? Another reason me being anxious is I am not comfortable with my size and PE might be making me think about it more than normal.
I really need some advice, I’ve talked about the issue with my GF. She reacted pretty nicely nothing bad.
Should I keep doing PE, or should I give a rest for a while? And can it be affecting my erections in a bad way? If I am going to have sex on Friday, how should my PE schedule be? Can I do PE on Thursday and have a good sleep. I know I shouldn’t PE before sex.

And addition to these, our first time was last week Thursday. On Wednesday, I had really good EQ, thick and girthiest I’ve ever seen my penis.

Yes PE can negatively impact your erection, as it can also positively impact it. One of the PI’s to monitor is erection quality (EQ). PE can and does stress your penis and if you over train/over stress your penis you will see a poorer erection.

Is your PE program causing negative PI’s? You seem to be condident that it is not. However you are having performance anxiety, which you acknowledge is a mental thing. I would suggest that taking a break from PE would remove that small piece of doubt in your mind and ideally reduce your anxiety just a little bit and help you to get back on track. Once things are working with your girl, you can re start your PE program.

Also dont masturbate for a couple of days before you are getting back with her.

I strongly believe that sex comes before PE. Best of luck.

Sounds like performance anxiety is the culprit. Take your time with her.

Yup.

Instead of worrying about whether you can get it up, just concentrate on:

Can you get her off? —That doesn’t require a penis.

Once you do that a couple of times with your mouth and hands, I bet you will feel a lot more relaxed (and accomplished ;) ), which will make getting hard easier.

Double Yup.

Also remember probably 95% of men have gone through it at one time or another, so its not a ‘you’ problem, so there is absolutely no need to over-stress it. Think about it like this, you already went through two meetups with anxiety and lack of performance but it sounds like yall are still meeting up. Which means; shes still into you and if the last two times wernt an issue you pretty much have nothing to worry about. Your in the clear already, just focus on having a good time, whatever that en-tales and the rest will follow.

What do you think is the source of your anxiety?

Fear of not having a good EQ, size, pleasure your partner?

Take a brake from PE, masturbation and definitely STOP porn for good and let sex happens naturally.

Touch, smell and taste are your friend right now. Slow things down and relax. It will light her fire and yours as well.

Yes I can mostly by rubbing her and with going down on her. I do not necessarily feel stressed when I am with her and I am starting to feel more relaxed as time passes. I hope it will go away soon. Thanks a lot for the reply.

Not having a good EQ and not being able to pleasure her was not even a thing in my mind. I was always anxious about my size and I still am I believe, that’s probably the biggest reason why I have performance anxiety. But I am getting over it as she is really having a good time and I also have a really good time except for not being able to get it up. I’ve always thought porn was bad and I kinda did quit it. I sometimes watch porn but not often. Penis sizes on porn also did affect me mentally quite badly. I believe I am feeling more relaxed and It will get better. Thanks a lot for the reply.

I did talk to her about it and she responded pretty nicely. Said she had a really good time. I also did except getting it up. She responding nicely did make me feel much comfortable. I believe I am getting over it and be better soon. Thanks a lot for the reply.

Get her off a few times before trying penetration, I find the combination of tongue stimulation on the clitoris, with simultaneous fingering (usually g-spot come hither gesture, although sometimes deeper stimulation toward the a-spot has a dramatic effect) to be the best.

Then, when you do get hard, let her be on top. She will do what she needs in order to get herself off on your cock, which usually has less to do with size, and more with the specific type of stimulation (Angle, depth, speed, pressure on the pubic bone), which nobody knows better than her, if she is lucky enough to actually orgasm from penetration alone.
Some women just don’t. Regardless of penis size, much to the disbelief of those of us obsessed with our size ;)

Wise man.