Size Discussion, What Dildos Teach Us

While the average length it’s pretty much agreed on in this times even anatomically since most vaginas are around 4.5” deep but really elastic and can get around 7” deep during sex if needed but not necessarily since filling it it’s enough for pleasure, but the girth it’s more difficult to decide since it seems to be really subjective.

Just like dicks, girls come in all sizes, if your dick is too long you just don’t go all in, but what if is too thick?.

When it comes to length pretty much everyone agrees that the bigger the better, but in girth it seems that the saying should be: The more average the better.

Several dildo selling companies have look in to their database to see what it’s the most common size people buy and some of the discoveries where:

Anything below 5” almost doesn’t sell

The average dildo is 6.5” in insertable length, but I won’t say it’s something to worry about, dildos don’t feel that good, most of people would prefer having sex whit a guy at 5.5” than a 7” inch dildo since they would feel almost the same. Dildos are the equivalent of jerking off instead of real penetration.

The average dildo thickness is 4.65” which is only 0.06 bigger than the believed average of 4.59” in men.

Most of the 7”+ inch dildos are floppy, which means they are made a of a soft material, almost able to bend completely in half and when inserted the girth goes down due to the pressure of the cavities.

Have in consideration some dildo companies sell 10”+ even 15”+ so the average dildo size will always be bigger than what common people usually buys.

So the conclusions that I get from this information are:

Any length that’s is 5”+ it seems to be good, if you are too long your partner can request you not to go all in and the problem it’s solved, so guys let’s go for those length gains.

The hardness of a dick seems not to be really thought about when in reality seems to be important, focusing on having a strong erection and being able to maintain it should be priority to all men, since most of the pleasure from the receiving part would depend on it.

When it comes to thickness the 4.59” to 4.65” seems really reasonable to me, just have in consideration not everyone would take a really thick dick but they’ll say yes to a long one, which takes me to my next point.

The objectification of the large dick:
Talking whit boys and girls about dick size most of us agreed a big dick at first sparks curiosity and admiration, and maybe you’ll like to try how it feels, but most of people won’t settle for a big dick, all of us agreed a big dick is nice for casual sex and if you have one it would attract a lot of people but most probably not a steady partner, my circle of friends including girls a boys said a 7.5”+ dick would attract them for a night but for a partner they would prefer something in the 5.5” to 6.5” range.

And this kind of objectification doesn’t only comes from the receiving part also by the carrier of the tool, my friends said the biggest dick they have been whit was also the most boring and one sided sex, it seems a guy whit a big dick expects that to be enough and doesn’t put more effort or doesn’t bring really exciting situations to bed.

So in conclusion:

The only truth about dicks is: The harder the better.

Your size is probably fine, if you are below average don’t worry and be constant whit PE.

If you are big, and you want to get bigger, that’s amazing just don’t forget your dick it’s just one aspect of the many that make a good sexual encounter unforgettable.

“carrier of the tool, my friends said the biggest dick they have been whit was also the most boring and one sided sex, it seems a guy whit a big dick expects that to be enough and doesn’t put more effort or doesn’t bring really exciting situations to bed.”
This is no argument that normal size is better than pretty big. You have to leave all variables BUT the dick size equal.
For example, if I gain 1.5 inches and EQ, attention while having sex etc stay the same, it is better than now.

Besides, I don’t think 4.6 inches girth is ideal at all. Im at 5.5 and hardly ever in my life had problems.
I would make the case for 6 inches in girth being perfect. That is also a size I want to reach.
Even if you want to do anal, I rarely had problems with my size (which I don’t consider that big btw).
Regarding length, I also have to disagree. You have to specify if you mean BPEL or NBPEL because most normal people always assume NBPEL.
This can be up to an inch of difference. At alright body fat, it is 0.7 inches difference for me.
Im confident 98% of women can handle 7 inches NBPEL just well if you are careful and pay attention. Or even use lube, there is no shame in that.
5.8-5.9 inches NBPEL at least is really not perfect. I can attest that because I lived with that until recently :-P .

More like for girth the bigger the better to a certain degree. 5.5”-6” range is considered ideal for girth, based on the feedback from the brotherhood`s gfs/wives. Not to say some women cannot take more and enjoy it.

I suspect a disproportionate number of the significant others of members here are more on the “bigger is better” side, than you’ll find elsewhere. I’m about 6” in girth. My wife loves being stretched, and sometimes quite a lot more than my 6” can achieve. I’ve also had two relationships in the past that fizzled because they couldn’t get used to that much girth, and the sex was always more painful than they liked. I’ve acknowledged before that if I was a more skilled lover back then, I might have been able to overcome that. There’s no doubt in my mind though that for some women, 6” is a obstacle to overcome, not an advantage to admire.

Interesting that 0.5 inches seem to make such a huge difference. The amazing thing about PE is: I will eventually have gained the additional 0.5 inches (might even be possible with pumping relatively quickly I assume)
and will update you guys. I hope I have a different experience from you though, Gurks. Because otherwise that would mean I also have penis dysmorphia which would be quite hard to accept :-D.
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I suspect that it has more to do with individual women and their preferences than with what we men are packing. My whole point was simply that bigger isn’t always better. Neither of the women in those two earlier relationships were into painful sex or even rough sex, but my wife prefers it that way. She also loves anal for the same reason. I have been with some girls that were definitely tighter than others and some that were less so, but for the most part I found it really just has to do with their level of arousal. I think the majority of vaginas are able to accommodate all but the most extreme sizes, as long as they are aroused and relaxed enough. The question is which particular sensations turn them on the most, and which do they not like. I’ve known some girls that love having sex a particular way, and others that get instantly turned off if you try it that same way. Most women who are turned on by big dicks are going to be able to handle them more easily than women who are intimidated by size. For women, I really do believe that it’s mostly psychological.

I’m just saying there’s no silver bullet that’s going to do it for every woman. Being bigger is good, particularly if it’s going to increase your confidence. But being bigger for its own sake isn’t necessarily the most worthy goal.

I’m pretty confident that I’m going to be with my wife for the remainder of my days. If I thought I was going to be playing the field again I definitely would not be trying to get any bigger, for fear of incompatibility with somebody that I really like, as happened when I was younger. I’m already above average but I certainly wouldn’t call myself huge. That said, I’ve known more girls than just the ones I’ve slept with who have admitted that they run for the hills when a guy pulls a monster out of his pants.

You’re a smart man!

Unfortunate that I cannot give a simple thumbs up to acknowledge I have read it, so I will write a quick post.

Maybe you two are right. Then again, it is also a personal path for me and not only about women.

I will definitely share my experience when I have gained.

6 ” should not mean painful sex. But like I said, I put 5.5-6” range. If 6 is too much with foreplay and good skill, than slightly smaller will be ideal.

That’s totally true. My girlfriend enjoys my dick more even though it’s smaller than her dildo. Cause it’s hot and pulsing and the size is not the key to everything lads

I disagree, most women I know are more into girth than length. More length mean more cervix, which isn’t always good. For many, it’s just painful.

Even in porn, many declared size queens are more into girth than length. Some say that even a 3" cock that is super thick works. This site has many porn stars interviewed. You would be surprised to see what a woman in porn has to say about penis size. Of course, many of than are into gigantic/huge not normal human, but most are more like it doesn’t matter, bigger is better but average in more than fine, or even Average is better… Rarely you see some one saying that she prefers length over girth. They exists though.

Just don’t forget that they are porn stars. They have to deal with huge cocks every day, it’s not the normal sex life of a woman that is not in porn. How can a woman in porn can become a star if she can’t handle the biggest dicks?? Even though you will see Lena Paul saying that she can handle porn, but she has a small pussy and she prefers an average guy in her personal life, or Alexis Zara saying: "I loved average dicks. As long as they have a nice girth. For me, I want to feel that thickness and fullness. I just want to feel stuffed and full".

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I can say about my own experience. When I’m rock solid, I reach 7.1 x 6.4. To do that I need some viagra/cialis, or it only will be like that at the beginning of the sex and right before I cum. In my life I had only one girlfriend that said that my penis is too thick. She is more length over girth, but we found our way. After we discover the way to make her cum from G spot, most of her orgasms came from shallow penetration. Letting half of my dick out. Of course, to get to this point, a longer dick would make things easier, but if she doesn’t cum, bigger would mean nothing.

Besides her, all I have are some compliments or no comment at all.

I really think that many of the girls I had sex would benefit from thicker cocks.

Definitely

I have seldom met a woman that inserts a vibrator/dildo, it’s way more common to just have them stimulate their clit. There’s a lesson in there, and it’s not about size. :-)

I agree with @Smooth99.

If it is the same with women as it is with men, my most powerful orgasms are from oral.

But to the point, the most common dildo size is 8” x 6”, mostly with 7” - 7.5” insertable length. Most 10” dildos have ~8” insertable; and most all “realistic” ones top out at 6” - 6.25” girth. The only exception is for Mr Hankeys Toys where the small size has a girth of 6.38”, and it goes up from there.

All said, a woman will find 6” girth very satisfying once she’s turn on. But again, it is not a prerequisite to great sex or great orgasms.

The benefit of size, as it applies to sex, in both directions is you may not have to do as much for her to get off.

Where are you getting this from? My experience has been they commonly use or purchase toys around 5” circumference.

My wife wants nothing to do with our 6” dildo, she laughs at it and tells me I’m crazy.

Maybe I’m old school and 6” is the new 5”😀

Just a google search actually. I searched again and found “the most commonly searched for size”.