Soon2Bbig's introduction to Thunder

Hello everyone, it’s great to finally be here. It’s great to finally be apart of a understanding good group of guys that support each’s endevours. I have been on the outside looking in for almost 2 months now. I have been reading every thread I could get my hands on and soaked up as much info as could in that time. I know what questions not to ask (does masturbation effect gains?)lol, and how to use the search bar. I have already mastered the art of vacuum hanger building and built a power jelqer. I have umlimited time to devote to PE and the will do it.

The reason I came was I beleive my penis size has really effected my life. I don’t think that I am freakishly small by any means(el 5.75”, eg 5”), but it certainly has effected my confidence. I have been told I am a handsome guy and I could get any girl I want. However, when push comes to shove I usually lack the confidence to get the girls I want. Everytime I approach a girl I hear all the vioces of friends and ex lovers in my head making a wise crack about my size. Nothing worse than getting a hot girl in bed and getting “stage fright” becuase your too worried she is gonna tell ppl your small atferwards. Hell I think my confidence screams “it’s small” because ppl that don’t have any clue assume it is small, which kills me. I know it’s all in my head but it’s impossible to shake. I beleive I was ment to find these forums and that in life everything happens for a reason. Never in my life have I needed a confidence builder more than I do right now.

About 8 months ago I found out my wife had been seeing another man “as friends” (ya right) for a couple months. I began to look back on all the lies and they seemed to come together. We seperated but remained in contact and occasionally fuking. When I was with her she was never sexual, hardly ever wanted it, and hadent had an orgasm ever. I tried my ass off to please her and make her cum the way girls in my past had, I was frustrated. Couple months pass, and she starts flirting with me again when I would come to pick our 3 yr old child up. Finally, we did fuk again after she dumped the new guy, only this time she’s hot, wet, and orgasms very easily, and I mean she is a gusher. I was very turned on but at the same time I was mad. I later heard from a friend how much she loved this other guys dick and how big it was. I spend 5 yrs with this girl and some guy fuks the first time and now she’s a gusher? Kinda heart breaking really. So then I try to make things work again with her only to find her lieing again for another guy.

I know sex isnt the most important thing to a woman, but I know it certainly helps for the simple fact of confidence in your ability to please. Now it’s time for me to start dating again and my only regret is that I didnt find this site sooner. I will be big someday, even though I know my determination will probably inhibit my gains instead of helping them. Well I plan to be a very productive and active member of this wonderful community so I think this is a long enough introduction. “Upwards and onwards my new friends!”

Welcome, Soon2bbig! Growing a bigger penis will probably not make everything ok, but it can only help! :) Remember; Keep on keeping on!

It might (or might not) help you to concentrate more on the person you are and less on how big you are.

You made her gush when you were having sex with her after she dumped the other man.

You want to get bigger? Go for it.

But I would bet that very, very few women leave men over issues of size. They leave because something else is missing in their lives; which may be something over which you have absolutely no control, no matter how big you get.

If you ask a woman in an intimate and non-sexual context what she wants in her life, you may be surprised and even shocked at what you hear back. Sometimes they want things we never dreamed they might.

Some women just like the excitement of “cheating” and/or starting-up with a new guy… Don’t insist that there is something wrong with you.

I’d say you just made a poor choice of women in all likelihood.

Avocet8, I think your very right about it helping me concentrate on the person and not the size, I have been with alot of women that have asked me, “are you just not attrached to me?” Even worse thing is I have given up even more pussy because I was afraid of my little problem. It’s to the point where girls think I am stuck-up or just really picky, which is a good thing and now alot of them want me even more.

And Lloyd, I think you are very insightful. I too believe it was more about the chase and excitement of cheating for her. She has always moved from one guy to the next, never being single, always cheating till the next guy found out, then moving on. Honestly, this girl has less confidence in herself than I do and uses other men to reassure herself of her worth. If there was ever a hotter guy in the room than me or anywhere, she had to have his attention. The PE I am doing is definatly not for this slut, but for the next girl I meet.

I guess I was also wondering if there was anyone else in my same shoes out there, originally here because they were cheated on?

I am married and as far as I know, not been cheated on. However, twice before while dating I was (different women). I know it is not the same as your situation since we were not married and didn’t have a child together, but one of them could have been Mrs Dangle, the other just some slut it turns out. At the time I was crushed. Blamed my penis size (similar to yours), my own faults etc etc…

We had been dating for 5+ years and I really thought it was going somewhere. I was waiting for the right job position to come along and then I was going to pop the question. I helped her out a lot. Changed her life around for the better. I guess you could say she was from the other side of the tracks - at least financially, so I thought. Eventually, I helped out with an experience that took her abroad for several months. That is when she cheated.

I don’t know whatever happened to her, and I honestly don’t care. Wouldn’t even have thought of her were it not for this thread. All I can say is trash is trash. Maybe she (your ex) has some underlying reasons for cheating, but you will never be able to save her from them. Only she can do that.

It wasn’t until several years after I met my wife that I learned of PE. Maybe things would be different for me had I known sooner. But I reject that possible path because I am with a woman that loves me for the whole of me - not just my dick size. And that, is what it is all about.

And welcome to Thunders.

Thank you very much Mr. Dangle. I know there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and I’m glad I have about 60,400 new friends to help me get there.

More people will read your posts if they didn’t look like a big mashed potato - get some spaces in there man. Welcome, by the way. :)

Welcome Soon2BBig.

My thoughts may be controversial but here are a few. First of all, let me say I hate to see the good guys lose, even though it’s far from a rare occurrence.

I’d say the one thing that will make future relationships better for you (not that they were all bad in the past) is this: Never allow yourself to become the submissive.

People are animals, like it or not. Women, don’t respect submissive males, I’d go as far as to call it a biological truth. There are few women ‘nice’ enough to look past submissive males and stay with them anyway. You should avoid being submissive but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be DOMINANT, just don’t be submissive. Also, you can be a jobless, small-packaged, loser, yet still not be a submissive.

Life isn’t fair buddy, and things don’t always happen ‘for a reason’. Just think of all the women that you’d reject because of a small chest, hideous face, buck teeth, fat, etc. Is it fair to them that you’d reject them for those traits? Well, women have their demands as well - even if they’re not conscious of them.. And I think their primary demand is that you don’t allow them to dominate you, it’s unnatural. By the way, most men are probably more demanding of a woman than woman are of men.

Here’s a few things I’d call submissive male behavior:
- Putting the woman on a pedestal (worship)
- Allowing her to flirt (I’m not a subscriber to the theory that flirting is harmless. Unless you 2 have a swingers relationship, there’s no need for it. Flirting is not harmless, and if only one person is doing it in a relationship then there is an IMBALANCE.) Modern mentality and “non-possessivness” would say otherwise, but many things in modern mentality are total bullshit. When divorce rates are as high as they are these days I think we need to question ‘modern mentality’ - if marriage is something you want to pursue.
- Going back to her after she’s cheated on you. There is nothing more submissive than showing a person your left cheek after they’ve just slapped the right. I can’t see how she could ever respect you after going back to her, unfortunate as it is.

Good luck with the PE and future chicks man

Your absolutely right about the submissive theory Mr. Cockett. I totally disobeyed that law due to lack of confidence in myself. At first I believed I was doing it for love but soon realized I was going back to her because I didn’t have the confidence to walk away.

Funny thing is, once I got a mind set that I didnt want her (about 2 weeks ago) I have immediately started talking to about 4 other women. Friday nite I took one of them skinny dipping in the pool then a hot shower and spent the nite (awesome nite). The next night another girl followed me to bed at a party and fuked me that nite and the following nite. Tomorrow nite I will go on my first date with a hooters girl that is unbelievably disproportionate (huge tits, small waist).

Latley I feel like a kid in a candy store and my confidence is building. The funny thing is, my ex has been calling me everynite cause she misses me and wants to talk to me. I have convinced myself I don’t need her anymore and I am sticking to it.

Great post! However…

Hmmmm? I think this can be done without submission, depending upon style. Basically, the worship might be ok as long as it isn’t “unconditional”… In other words, whenever the woman fails to meet expectations, one reacts accordingly and shows “unworshipful” emotions (anger, disappointment, etc). Only real Gods should be worshipped unconditionally.

Yes! Absolutely!

Usually right, but I don’t have personal experience. It would seem to me there might be exceptions, but NOT LIKELY in any particular case.

Terrific!

That’s good to hear you’re having a good time now man.

My honest prediction is that the more you ignore your ex wife the more she’s going to fall into a downward spiral. It seems people become much more moral when they’re shunned. And all of a sudden she’s going to feel extreme guilt over ruining a whole family. If it were me , I wouldn’t care much about how far she fell, but you have kids with her so it’s another situation because her well being probably affects your kids well being. It’s up to you how far you want to let her go, but at some point you might be surprised to find YOU giving HER the comfort! This is not a suggestion to ever get back together with her, by the way.

I think that more men may cheat in a committed relationship (everything going OK but they are still looking), but most women cannot be left alone for long periods of time. For on,e as Chris Rock would say, “They get offered dick all of the time”, and secondly they are not emotionally as strong as you think.

Also Dangle, women are so used to having men help them out, they think nothing of it.

Yeah, that’s why it may be ok to take a woman back in some instances when it doesn’t really reflect a behavior pattern… Risky, though.